╰☆╮typhonic╰☆╮ wrote:So I've been friends with this guy called Rayner since I was two, I recently asked him out and he said yes! My friends went totally crazy happy for me! But, now he's just acting like we are still just friends. Is that normal? And is it normal to still feel slightly awkward to talk to him about girlfriend boyfriend stuff?
Things aren't magically going to change overnight. It's like graduating from one age to the next- you aren't suddenly more mature overnight. He is going to treat you very much the same until you both change that. Because after all, it's ridiculous to expect him to make the change. You can also shift how you are with him if you want. And of course- maybe try to talk about it with him! Don't expect him to know what to do.
That brings me to something for everyone: don't expect the guy to make all the moves, have all the answers, be the one to change! That is unfair and unbalanced!
Also I saw something a while back that I very much liked. I have read so many things about telling guys to treat ladies well and other things saying that too many girls/women don't behave in ways that deserve good treatment. So when I read a more balanced, fair sentiment, I wanted to share it. I don't remember the exact phrasing but it was something like this:
Men, treat ladies with class and respect but ladies- behave in a manner to deserve that treatment! Too many individuals act so entitled and don't behave in a way that could possibly deserve respect. Just because you've been burned several times doesn't mean you should treat all future people with skepticism, forcing them to go the extra mile to prove themselves while you sit back on your butt, safe and secure. Each new person you encounter is a different experience. Give them a chance and start off with some respect and a fair chance.
