Crushes, Boyfriends, and Girlfriends | V4

[y i n]

Hey guais, so my best friend's girl friend broke up with him, what does this have to deal with me? Everything actually, I have a really big crush on him and have had this crush on him since we met, but when we met he was dating this chick and now she just all the sudden broke up with him, I don't know the story behind it, he won't tell me though.
I've told him I'm completely over with relationships because of what how my ex was to me and I don't want the same thing to happen, but I swear I'd do anything for him...
He's taking one of my friends to see a movie tomorrow though, he's admitted to liking her and I'll admit I'm jealous, but I don't know if they're going to get together or what, it does make me nervous, but I just want him to be happy.

I want to tell him how I feel, but can't, I've wanted to, but I'm just so nervous.... If they don't work out, what should I do? Should I tell him how I feel, or just... Ya know... Drop it and let it go

I'm afraid of putting our friendship on the line by him finding out I like him...
He's a really nice guy~ I'd think he'd do anything for me also, but I don't know... He cussed my ex out for me cause I couldn't do it I was crying so much cx I swear I love him~ But I don't want out friendship to be put at risk... I really need help~I just don't know what to do!!!

[JustDucky]

Hey guais, so my best friend's girl friend broke up with him, what does this have to deal with me? Everything actually, I have a really big crush on him and have had this crush on him since we met, but when we met he was dating this chick and now she just all the sudden broke up with him, I don't know the story behind it, he won't tell me though.
I've told him I'm completely over with relationships because of what how my ex was to me and I don't want the same thing to happen, but I swear I'd do anything for him...
He's taking one of my friends to see a movie tomorrow though, he's admitted to liking her and I'll admit I'm jealous, but I don't know if they're going to get together or what, it does make me nervous, but I just want him to be happy.

I want to tell him how I feel, but can't, I've wanted to, but I'm just so nervous.... If they don't work out, what should I do? Should I tell him how I feel, or just... Ya know... Drop it and let it go

I'm afraid of putting our friendship on the line by him finding out I like him...
He's a really nice guy~ I'd think he'd do anything for me also, but I don't know... He cussed my ex out for me cause I couldn't do it I was crying so much cx I swear I love him~ But I don't want out friendship to be put at risk... I really need help~I just don't know what to do!!!

From experience I know telling your best friend you like him can be hard. I told him, but I was almost 80% sure he liked me back. But if I didn't tell him, then I am pretty sure we would have let our jealousy get the best of us, and we would have messed up our friendship anyway. He was dating someone at the time, and broke up with her for me. (We are now like a month and a half together)
There's always that chance that things could get awkward, but
You shouldn't keep secrets from your bestfriend. Wait until you feel the time is right, and tell him. Maybe he feels the same way, and maybe he don't.

[Palmie]

Well my crush, lets call him M is one of my classes. We talk a lot and we tend to tease each other. I often find him staring at me or he'll catch me staring at him, but he never looks away he just keeps staring and smiles. I am pretty sure he knows I like him because my friend dropped the bomb in class last Friday. Also I think his friends know I like him too because when we talk in class my friends say that his friends give him "the look" (If you know what I mean). M and I text a lot, we texted for about 7 hours yesterday. I noticed that he sends me an emoji with every text or a haha. He tends to reply very quickly too. We also found out we have no classes together next semester and when I told him that he kept sending me a bunch of sad faces. So do you think he likes me?

[GIGABITE]

Guys
I think I'm falling for someone
I've had small, random crushes before. Where I'll like someone a bit, think they're cute or kinda nice but within a few weeks I will be moving along.
No chance at all, usually.
Sometimes I find out he/she has a significant other. Other times, I see it is simply going nowhere and the interest of mine has no interest in me.
This happened with JP, and NB, respectively. I found from someone that goes to his school, upon offhandedly mentioning him, that he has a girlfriend already. So however he was acting with me was just an interesting means of politeness and friendship. While things with NB just weren't going anywhere. Since I see him around less and less nowadays, there isn't really a chance for friendship, or anything further.
But the feelings are often so slight that it doesn't hurt. Everything is alright, everything always will be. I move along as quickly and easily as I tend to gain these little crushes. I just like people too much, but am mellow enough to let life run its course without lingering on negatives
But I don't really know about this time
I've found someone whose weirdness fits with mine perfectly. A pair of oddballs is what we are. Someone who, when I'm looking the other way, will nab my paper or anything else I'm not paying attention to, just to get my attention. Someone who walks with me and waits for me and stares into my eyes when we have nothing to do. We get along perfectly, and he somehow manages to bring out the confident side in me.
I sound ridiculous sorry. But it's unusual for me to feel like this, and I wanted to share!

[Princess Porcelain]

Their is this guy, we'll call him E. I've known him for a month and of course have developed a small crush on him. He is my classmate and he is in my band for rock band club so I don't want to lose his friendship by creeping him out. For some reason I think he likes me but I'm not sure. He is in California for a week and I've been chatting with him about a group project, now half my class knows I like him as my friend and I talk about him as a friend a lot. Of course I need to settle this down before he comes back, cause it just makes me blush when they say that making my true feelings quite obvious. Oh god I just don't know what to do, plus I don't want to tell him I like him on chat that would be just awkward.

First off, I want to suggest that you get to know him for a little longer before you tell him you like him and get involved with him. I was seriously hurt by my ex because I didn't get to know him well enough before we started going out...You know how you can love so many people, but there's always that one that no matter how hard you try, you can't stop thinking about them or loving them, no matter what they do to you? Maybe you don't, but this guy was it. We had actually known of each others' existence for several years, but we never really talked until I started going to his church. Within the first few weeks, even though we had barely spoken, we had fallen for each other. He asked for my number, and then three days later, we started going out. I was the happiest girl in the world for six months...I loved this guy. Not liked, loved. He was everything to me, I loved him more than I ever thought possible. Before I started talking to him, I had gone out with another guy for two years and never felt that strongly about him. And even though we had become really good friends in those six months [and I could still write a thesis paper on just his hobbies], I never expected what he ended up doing.

After six months, after telling me every day how much he loved me, how much he wanted me, how much he needed me, he left me because his friends disliked me. I would NEVER have done that to him. NEVER. But he did it to me...And I cried for three weeks straight. Cut myself for three months. I was depressed for over a year. And that happened almost two years ago, and I still miss him. I miss everything about him, the way he would kiss me, the way his hair smelled when he came straight over to church after going hunting, how he looked holding his new rifle Christmas morning...I miss, literally, everything. And in the last year, he has become a monster. He used to be kind, caring, and respectful. Not the most popular guy in the world, but attractive, and fun, and friendly. Now, he's become everything he promised me he'd never be. He and I haven't even spoken for over six months because he said he never wanted to hear from me again last April. And those "friends"? They made him that way, I'm convinced of it. If he had never met them, I'm convinced we would still be together and he would still be the guy he was before.

And I think that somewhere, buried under all the dirt he's collected, his old self is still there, right along with the love he used to have for me. I see it in his eyes, and I know him well enough to know he's been faking it for the last year, that he really doesn't want to be the person he's become, but he does it because he wants to be popular. And he'll never admit this, because his "popular" friends would leave him in the dust if he ever tried reverting to who he was. He's afraid of that, genuinely afraid. And it hurts me every time I look at him, because I know that I'm never going to have that kind of love again with anyone, ever. I could never replicate that feeling, it's one of those things that only happens once, and when it's over, you can't ever get it back, no matter how much begging, saying, "I'm sorry", and begging God to let them come back you do. It just...Doesn't happen. That's the sad truth.

Please, please, PLEASE do not make the same mistake I did. No one should have to feel the way I did, and still do. That kind of feeling chokes you. Makes you want to die. It's the kind of feeling that, even though you get good at hiding it over time, it's always there, in the background, waiting to come back up, waiting to make you remember everything you've tried so hard to forget and waiting to kill you over and over and over again, but not physically. Emotionally. I die inside every time someone even so much as mentions my ex. And I don't ever want anyone else to have to go through that. EVER. Don't let yourself get hurt like I did, because it never goes away.

[Taylor-Rae]

Hey guys, well I went to homecoming last Friday. So yesterday, and I was supposed to meet my ex(The one I still have feeling for) and to get my stuff back. But I saw him, when I was seeing all my old highschool friends since I go to a different school. But I saw him and I couldn't speak, he didn't see me but he was looking for me. I turned away from him so he couldn't see me and I was scared. I knew that my new boyfriend would be watching me if I did talk to him. But I was scared to see my ex. I felt as if crying. So I broke up with my new boyfriend last night and told him he needed to wait till I was over my ex to ask me out again. He was sad and mad at first but last night just seemed different. Hes really clingy and stuff. But he can take stuff to far and try to go farther than I'm ready for. My friends say that I shouldn't get back together with him or else it could be an abusive relationship, and that's what I'm afraid of.
Help?

[queen quinn]

GOd. I haz a crush on 4 different guys. When I think about them, they all get smashed together and they are really ugly XD! ONe guy is a grade ahead of me ad really athletic.The other guy who is in the same grade is cute but makes ugly hand mouths XD the third is in my grade and I am not sure if I like him anymore... And the fourth and biggest is a bad boy <3 if a boy teases you does that mean he likes you?!

[Dia.]

GOd. I haz a crush on 4 different guys. When I think about them, they all get smashed together and they are really ugly XD! ONe guy is a grade ahead of me ad really athletic.The other guy who is in the same grade is cute but makes ugly hand mouths XD the third is in my grade and I am not sure if I like him anymore... And the fourth and biggest is a bad boy <3 if a boy teases you does that mean he likes you?!

The whole "he's mean to you, that must mean he likes you" thing that parents pressure into little girl's minds is probably one of the worst pieces of parental advice I've heard.
Honestly, teasing could mean they do, but it could also mean a friendly thing just as much, or even an unfriendly thing unfortunately.
Sorry for being rather blunt.

[emgore]

i've been freaking out about this for a long time
and i'm finally just trying to get some help

on friday, my science teacher said that on monday we would do this whole 'marriage' thing—which the teacher didn't really, go into much details with it—and i'm freaking out
because my crush is in that class

i want to ask him/her
but it'll be so awkward

and it doesn't help either that we are both good friends and people say we look 'cute' together

i have such mixed emotions about this
help me please e-e

[Horsegirlmadison]

can someone pm me