I'm hoping I could possibly get help or advice on a situation I'm currently stuck in right now..
If I may say, I am a guy, and I hapoen to like other guys.. I'm not sure if this is a "girls only" thread or something, so I apologize in advance for posting this here if it doesn't belong because of the poster's (me) gender.
Anyway, I guess to start off the whole situation, I'll explain from the very beginning.
My very close friend, we'll call her NC, started to date this guy, who we'll call NR. After a few days of them dating, she introduced me to him, which is when NR and I become friends.
Then there came a point where our county fair was set up and I invited my friend, who we'll call KY. She ended up inviting NR to hang out with us after I suggested it. We eventually also invited our friend DY as well.
Once NR arrived, him, KY and I walked around and went on a few rides; I ended up sitting with NR. DY eventually arrived, and we all spent the day walking around the fair and riding rides, I always sat with NR while DY sat with KY.
(I think I should, at this point, mention that NR is bisexual.)
After some time, NR told me that he had thought about breaking up with NC. Then, I don't remember exactly how, but NR and I started to hold hands. I took it as a joke at first, but once some time went by, I realized it was wrong to hold his hand for which he was still dating NC. ..But me, being the nicest person, not to mention I hate being rude, I went along with it (holding his hand) and enjoyed my time.
Once NR left, DY and KY confronted me, asking what was going on between us, and I told them that it was nothing.
The next day, at school, I waited for NR, KY, and NC, to get off the bus, and there I was told that NR broke up with NC. She (NC) tried to drag me away from the bus, but I wasn't going to ditch my friend (NR)..
After a few days, NC was fine with walking with NR, as well as myself, DY, and KY.
Next, during the previous weekend, I went to KY's house and her and I went to NC's house, then we all went to NR's house. NR, KY, NC, and I, walked around the neighbourhood, then NC went home and DY joined us.
Eventually, NR went home while KY, DY, and myself migrated to her (KY)'s house.
NR texted KY saying he wanted to talk to me, so NR and I were texting each other.
We got to a point where we were talking of who we liked, and after a fustrating 3 hours of avoiding the question, I told NR that I liked things about him, but he wouldn't accepted that. I then was "forced" (out of annoyance) to tell him that I liked him.
NR told me that he liked me back.
We texted each other until about 4 in the morning.. He told and asked me things such as to come over again on Sunday, if he could kiss me, what would NC think.. etc. Basically, we were discussing a relationship between us.
Monday, I waited for NR again to get off the bus, but we didn't talk much due to him being "tired". He ended up, I guess, ditching me in the hallway after that..
All of Monday, I thought he had been avoiding me, but we talked after school, even though it wasn't much, but everything seemed normal.
Today..
I waited for NR to get off the bus as usual, but NC and KY were literally pulling me away from the bus as if it was about to catch on fire and explode.
NC and KY tried to explain to me what was wrong, but it was confusing.. and as it turns out, NR got off the bus quickly; before I could get to his bus.
Eventually, KY and NC explained to me about a conversation they had with NR.
Apparently,:
· NR still likes NC and wants to "win her back."
· NR "doesn't care about how I feel."
· NR wasn't sure of what he was saying when he was texting me.
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At this point, KY and NC are telling me that I should stay away from NR and never speak to him again.
I wanted to talk to NR once school was over, so I caught up to him while heading out for the bus, but he was talking to someone else, and I suppose he didn't notice me.
Now, If I may state my own thoughts and feelings..
For one, even though NR thinks I do, I don't have a full-blown crush on him. I like that we have a lot and common and yes, I generally like him, but I don't have a huge crush on him.
Second, I really don't care if he doesn't like me, I just want to at least stay friends and all.
I want to just be able to talk to him and be friends.
Just friends.
Just talking.
I also over-exaggerated when I said I liked him in the way I said. My true feelings for him is that I like a lot about him and I think he's a really cool guy.
I want to tell him that so things aren't weird between us.
Side notes:
NC found out about what NR and I did at the fair and she read all the texts we sent and overall, she's mad at NR and she forgave me, mostly because I took in consideration of NR being her (NC) ex and causing a possible problem. She also appreciated the fact that I was honest about everything when I told her about NR and I.
Before she found out about what NR and I did and our conversation, she told me directly and in-person, that she was fine with me dating her ex, NR.
Anyway, the part I need help/advice on.., I plan on waiting for NR to get off the bus tomorrow morning as I always do, but my question is, would it be weird or awkward to do that? Also, I plan on telling him my true feelings for him (that I like him, but it's not really a crush), and I want to tell him while we walk from the bus and into the school; Again, would it be weird or strange to do that? or would it be too soon maybe?
Also, I wish to tell him that I want to at least remain friends and be able to talk and such, but what do I say exactly? and how do I say it?
And should I mention that I'm okay with him liking someone else that isn't me because it doesn't matter to me, or I don't care really?
Basically, I want to be friends and be able to talk to him like before. I also want to tell him that I don't care really if he wasn't serious when he said he liked me, and that I don't have a crush on him, I don't want things to be awkward/weird, and to tell him my feelings for him (again, it's not a crush, I just like a lot about him).
The only thing that worries me is how KY and NC will think of it, like betrayal or something, but I just want to remain friends with NR. I told them this and they replied with, "Okay, but we're not talking to him anymore," and, "We're just worried."
(They are under the impression that I am heart-broken by what NR did/said, but I'm really not.)
Anyway, I'm more focused on confronting NR and talking to him.
So, can anyone help me..? I'm hoping to receive advice before tomorrow (OCT.02.13) morning.
Please and thank you.
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