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[thisaccountisgone]

Hey it's me again. Whole new problem I've been chewing on for a while.

Kay, so I have a friend. And we've been friends for about four years, and we used to have a lot of fun together. Most of the time, anyways. But then a little over a year ago, she told me a sort of a secret about her, and now it's just been really weird for me. It's mostly because she acts really weird, and I know it's because of this secret she told me. I've been waiting to see if things would go back to normal, but like I said before, it's been over a year now. I just don't have any fun with her anymore because of her major weirdness - like I had more fun today with a guy I didn't even really know than I have with her in months! But I feel really bad about letting the friendship go because we've known eachother forever, and I'm the only one who knows her secret, so I'm the only one she can really be herself around. And I can't talk to her about it, because she'll think I don't like her because of her secret - which isn't true - I just don't like the way it makes her act. I'm totally lost right now. Please tell me someone can help!

Perhaps you should get your guy friend, and your other friend and plan something together. Maybe that will help. You could try and also ask her why she is acting so weird, maybe you should hang around her a little bit more and see if she is just lonely and looking for friends, or if she is nervous for you knowing her secret.

[MadiBird]

Thanks Candie, but I already tried something similar to that. I invited one of my other guy friends to come over and hang out with us and she got really mad - saying that when she sees me she doesn't want to have to spend her time with "some guy", too.

[swiftystar]

Well SpongeKellsey, you could try to get your friend alone and talk to her about it. Ask her if she could just back off a little bit, but don't say it in a mean way of course. If she doesn't listen, maybe even talking to your boyfriend about it would help.
~amandazu

Yea. Thank you by the way I guess I could try that. I have thought about talking to my boyfriend but I always chicken out

I agree with Amand.
~Swift

[Sneram]

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Thanks, guys. I'll talk to her tomarrow and tell you what happens

Okay, good luck, and don't be nervous or afraid to do it. Don't have second thoughts. ;]

What should i do? here's the story. Theirs this kid who thinks I love him but I really, really HATE him. I told him that I don't even like him but he keeps on saying to everybody that i love him


What should I do?

Probably just PM kitty, that is what I did XD

Well Sneram, the best thing to do is just ignore him. Don't make it a big deal, and eventually he will end up growing tired of his game. But if he is harassing you and/ or you just can't stand it, tell someone. Tell a teacher, parent; they will listen to you and will want to help.

Sorry short post for now, I am busy, sorry Dx. I do hope it helps, though ^-^

These are good ideas. And good points. He will grow tired of his own game. But I do know how that is; when adults and other people tell you to just ignore it. It really is harder than they think! (Not that your advice wasn't awesome, Dragonspirit ;] )
I think you might want to go to a trusted friend and make sure that they believe you.
I also think that yes, you should try to ignore him the best you can. If you know that it's not true, that's all that matters.
When it comes to things like this, your opinion is all that matters.
Hope any of this, from any staff member, helps!

~kitty11412~

now I have a new problem with this guy!
I do musicals and plays and stuff like that, well he's in the same group So for some reason we always have to be partners! Its not that bad but he's super annoying!
I told my friend about it and she ran over to him and said really loud (almost yelling) "She hates you OK?"
I guess he didn't get the message because he thinks I just playing hard to get or something.
I think the problem is that he never had a girl hate him before, he's that kind of person who has a flock of girls following him.

I still dont know what to do

[swiftystar]

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Thanks, guys. I'll talk to her tomarrow and tell you what happens

Okay, good luck, and don't be nervous or afraid to do it. Don't have second thoughts. ;]

What should i do? here's the story. Theirs this kid who thinks I love him but I really, really HATE him. I told him that I don't even like him but he keeps on saying to everybody that i love him


What should I do?

Probably just PM kitty, that is what I did XD

Well Sneram, the best thing to do is just ignore him. Don't make it a big deal, and eventually he will end up growing tired of his game. But if he is harassing you and/ or you just can't stand it, tell someone. Tell a teacher, parent; they will listen to you and will want to help.

Sorry short post for now, I am busy, sorry Dx. I do hope it helps, though ^-^

These are good ideas. And good points. He will grow tired of his own game. But I do know how that is; when adults and other people tell you to just ignore it. It really is harder than they think! (Not that your advice wasn't awesome, Dragonspirit ;] )
I think you might want to go to a trusted friend and make sure that they believe you.
I also think that yes, you should try to ignore him the best you can. If you know that it's not true, that's all that matters.
When it comes to things like this, your opinion is all that matters.
Hope any of this, from any staff member, helps!

~kitty11412~

now I have a new problem with this guy!
I do musicals and plays and stuff like that, well he's in the same group So for some reason we always have to be partners! Its not that bad but he's super annoying!
I told my friend about it and she ran over to him and said really loud (almost yelling) "She hates you OK?"
I guess he didn't get the message because he thinks I just playing hard to get or something.
I think the problem is that he never had a girl hate him before, he's that kind of person who has a flock of girls following him.

I still dont know what to do

Mff... hard one. Well, obviously you can't ignore him. So the most practical conclusion isn't going to apply here. Maybe... maybe talk to him face-to-face. Not through a bunch of friedns, although normally that would work. Tell him exactly what you feel. (except maybe the fact that you think he's friggin annoying lol)
~Swiftystar

[HunnyBadger]

Doesn't anybody need advice?

[swiftystar]

No kidding

[Koyuki]

Thanks Candie, but I already tried something similar to that. I invited one of my other guy friends to come over and hang out with us and she got really mad - saying that when she sees me she doesn't want to have to spend her time with "some guy", too.

There are some people who just can't control themselves at all, and normally go mad-telling you they would never want to talk to you again. *She's Not In That Condition...Right ? Anyways, inviting a guy is probably totally off the hook. No wonder she got mad.* If you can't directly tell her, why don't you invite her to her house and while you're at it, tell you don't mind about her secret ?

And my personal problem is I suspect a person likes me...it makes me feel uneasy and nervous-because if he truly likes me-I don't like him back...and I turn out all confused !

[swiftystar]

And my personal problem is I suspect a person likes me...it makes me feel uneasy and nervous-because if he truly likes me-I don't like him back...and I turn out all confused ![/center][/b][/size][/quote]


Don't jump to conclusions. Wait awhile, and if you truly believe he likes you, tell him how you feel. If he likes you likes you, try not to crush him... lean into it.
~Swift

[ghostboy]

I need some advice. I'll give you the whole story. About three years ago, I had this friend (let's call him "T") and we were close. He was friendly and sweet, but a little annoying. He told me that he liked me. I didn't know what to say because I didn't like him back. Then he left my school (not because of me though). T's back, and I like him now. I told one of my friends and of course he apparently likes me back, but she isn't always truthful. I noticed some "signs" that he liked me, but those could just be mistakes... I asked my friend to ask him to the winter dance for me, when the time comes. Was that a good idea? What should I do?