Crushes, Boyfriends, and Girlfriends | V4

[cautiousculpeo]

Mine and my bf's 3 month anniversary in 9 days. I'm really happy :3

Congrats <3

[the batter]

*loud sigh* my mom refuses to accept that me and my girlfriend are dating, just because she lives far away from where i live.

so, i have a question for you guys. if you feel strongly about someone, do you believe that a relationship can be possible, despite that they live thousands of miles away from you?

[thunderofthedrum]

*loud sigh* my mom refuses to accept that me and my girlfriend are dating, just because she lives far away from where i live.

so, i have a question for you guys. if you feel strongly about someone, do you believe that a relationship can be possible, despite that they live thousands of miles away from you?

Well.. Yes. But if you met online, it can be so easy to feel you trust them. It can be easy to assume you guys are exclusive, or that they feel the same way about you, or other little assumptions and miscommunications. Also, there are aspects of them you don't see when you aren't together. You don't see how they treat their betters, their lessers, their family, their pets. You don't see if they are cluttered, easy to stress, flexible, tolerant, etc. You don't know their hygiene habits, their style of clothing. You don't know if they actually clean their living space or keep up with their responsibilities.

So, if you aren't in a serious relationship, maybe that's fine. If you are young and no chance of being together much for a long time, then maybe that's fine. You should still be cautious about revealing personal information (like with anyone you meet online). If you met them in real life, then this last bit about safety likely isn't as much of an issue.

Some people will caution you not to tie yourself to someone so far away because you might miss out on someone great that lives here. Because honestly? Long distance is so hard. It's easy to become distant, it's easy to feel extra attached and clingy. It's easy to, considering those examples, slowly not feel the same about each other, with one feeling stronger and the other not so much. And there may be pressure to spend money and visit, then pressure of 'how far' to go when on that visit.

There are definitely factors that come into play for long distance, but any relationship is work.

[~Beautiful Voices~]

*loud sigh* my mom refuses to accept that me and my girlfriend are dating, just because she lives far away from where i live.

so, i have a question for you guys. if you feel strongly about someone, do you believe that a relationship can be possible, despite that they live thousands of miles away from you?

Actually, yes I do. I have proof too. My brother has been dating this girl he met for a couple of years now and they live two and half hours away but he drives during the weekend to see her. My other brother lives in Colorado and he dated a girl for while even though she lives in Indiana.

[Chillycheese]

*loud sigh* my mom refuses to accept that me and my girlfriend are dating, just because she lives far away from where i live.

so, i have a question for you guys. if you feel strongly about someone, do you believe that a relationship can be possible, despite that they live thousands of miles away from you?

Actually, yes I do. I have proof too. My brother has been dating this girl he met for a couple of years now and they live two and half hours away but he drives during the weekend to see her. My other brother lives in Colorado and he dated a girl for while even though she lives in Indiana.

As long as your hearts are within each other, nothing can break you and your girlfriend apart, including distance.

[leslie knope]

well, here goes nothing.
k so ya'll know how I like my best friend (C) and all.
((lets call my friend [A] and my crush [C]))
well its really awkward between C and one of my close friends, A, because of some drama that happened between them at camp and stuff. C has shared with me how he feels annoyed etc with the whole thing, because us girls do honestly have trouble letting stuff go. so A and I got together yesterday to just chill and he came up in our conversations. now we both have awful insecurities and trust issues and A asks me, "has C ever said anything about me?"
I didn't know what to do. I basically just said I cant really remember, and that he may feel a little bit offended, but obviously i couldn't tell her what he currently thinks about her atm. so I kinda just had to lie and I'm a really bad liar but.. like its super awkward because they're both really close friends of mine, and they used to be really close. they tell me what happened/es, so I know both sides of the story, but I cannot tell the other that. its pretty difficult tbh, because I agree with some aspects of what they say and some I do not agree on.
but anyway, the topic of "do you like him" came up too. I said no, but I feel bad lying to her. it would just be incredibly awful if A and her sister, S, both knew I liked C. and he thinks that A liked him at some point, but I asked and apparently not.
another thing, while A and I were talking, she mentioned that C always looks like he is actually having fun whenever he talks to me, like he really enjoys hanging out with me. to her it seems like he is almost forced to hang out with the other people.
but to me, it looks like he wants to hang out with everyone but me, and when he does hang out with me its always alone or almost seems forced. i always have to take the initiative. idk. he just sends really mixed signals.
sorry if this makes no sense.
i just could use some advice right now.
anywhere he is mentioned, he=C just to be clear.

[pep]

About a week ago, I confronted my boyfriend of nearly four months about something that was bothering me, and I told him about my empowerment - he began feeling intimidated, so he confessed what I already kind of knew. He had been flirting and 'faking gay' on Tumblr for important friends, as he said they were, and he didn't tell them about me in fears they wouldn't like him because he was dating a female. First of all, would you classify this as cheating?

He victimized himself and made himself look like a sniveling baby just so I would seek pity and stay in the relationship, but my best friend Sara helped me realize that this was an abusive relationship or a relationship in which I was trapping myself in. Every time I confronted him he victimized himself and made him look sad so I decided I didn't want to do it anymore and I made him break up with me so he couldn't victimize himself anymore.

And now he's trying to talk to me again. Should I show any mercy?

[ProudHufflepuff]

*loud sigh* my mom refuses to accept that me and my girlfriend are dating, just because she lives far away from where i live.

so, i have a question for you guys. if you feel strongly about someone, do you believe that a relationship can be possible, despite that they live thousands of miles away from you?

Yes, I'm in a long distance relationship right now and I've never been happier...it is REALLY hard though



Speaking of that...I need comfort...he's already falling asleep and I really wanted to talk to him more tonight...I just can't stop crying idk my life right now just really sucks...I won't ever leave him, I'm just...missing him...ALOT

[Aragami]

Yes, I'm in a long distance relationship right now and I've never been happier...it is REALLY hard though



Speaking of that...I need comfort...he's already falling asleep and I really wanted to talk to him more tonight...I just can't stop crying idk my life right now just really sucks...I won't ever leave him, I'm just...missing him...ALOT

Do you visit him sometimes? On a holiday perhaps? c: I used to do that when me and my boyfriend started out as long distance, so we started agreeing to see each other whenever I came to visit my mom. ^_^ You can try it, perhaps? It can make things better. c: Then soon enough, maybe you or him will be in the same country at one point in time and you two can be even happier together! :3

[Zeee]

decided to (try) and go on a little helping spree ;w;
because everything - boyfriend wise - is going well for me,
and i'm super happy and yeah ;3;

bodt in my opinion, absolutely not. there is no reason for you to show mercy - he might still be human like everyone else, but what he did isn't really okay. i consider flirting (with anyone but your girlfriend/boyfriend) while in a relationship cheating, and cheating is never okay. plus, if he had to "fake gay" for important friends... i don't mean to be rude, but that's kind of sad. he said that he didn't say anything about you because he was scared they wouldn't like him for dating a female? that's absolutely ridiculous. that's basically saying they'd hate him for being straight. victimizing himself is also quite sad. so, imo, no mercy should be shown.

The BadWolf definitely don't cut ties with her! i'd say try to ignore it for now, until you're in a proper condition for a relationship and want one, and then you can think about if you still like her ;w; for now, just try to keep in contact with her. are you friends with her already? do you talk to her? etc.

hound;; congratulations <3

The Batter it's definitely possible ^^ of course, you can't always be sure of anything, so with internet relationships, you just need to keep a close eye and don't be stupid about it, haha. but it's definitely possible. if you exclude the month we weren't together because of personal issues on both ends, my current boyfriend and i have almost been together for a year. around 2 more months and it'll be a year (if you don't count the one month - if you do, it'd be around 3 months). i also live in canada and he lives in the usa. i'm not necessarily all comfortable with sharing ultimate personal information yet, because you should never really be, but he is, and he's given me proof of the stuff he claims, and who he is. i trust him with the information he's given me (but you can still never know). he's told me the city he lives in, but i have not, because i'm just slightly uncomfortable with it, and he respects that, as should any long-distance boyfriend/girlfriend. i'm not even sure if he knows my last name, but that's probably just because it's not anywhere in the social media i've given to him and he's never asked. i love him, i'm sure i do. it's definitely possible, but just don't forget to be cautious about it. not too cautious as you're not having a good time in the relationship, but be weary about personal information. i wish the best of luck to you ;w;

ProudHufflepuff well if he's tired, you definitely need to let him sleep aha. i personally hate keeping people up talking to me when they're tired, just because i'd miss them if they went to bed. but that's a personal thing. anyways, i know how it feels - missing him is gonna be something that you might have to find ways to deal with, because long distance relationships are just that way. you just gotta get your mind off him, do something else. you can make it until the next time you talk <3 i'm constantly missing my boyfriend every time we say goodnight, but then i'm the happiest person alive in the morning. c:

Twitch3306 you two sound adorable ;v; i wish you both the best of luck, and congratulations on the 8 months! <3