First of all, I'm new here, so it's nice to meet you all :3 I come here for advice.
So I'm in need of help, desperately. My boyfriend of almost a year and my mother have some conflict. I met my boyfriend at a county fair and we hit it off, this isn't the part my mother has a problem with. I'm in high school and have a 3.24 GPA. My boyfriend on the other hand is trying to get a GED because he has less than 1/4 of the credits needed to pass high school and is in his final years of high school. He's tried independent study, but it didn't work out for him. My mama is worried about this because I plan on going to one of the finest art schools in my country and I'm currently meeting all the requirements, while his future doesn't look as bright as mine. Another problem, also, is that he complains about his grandparents a lot. He lives with them since his mother is unstable and they're a bit mentally abusive (I've witnessed it first-"paw,") so I personally think he has the right to complain but my mother says that since they've raised him, he needs to be nothing but grateful. Now, don't get me wrong, I agree with her to some extent, but if she had saw what I had then maybe she would get it a bit more. And lastly, he chose his best friend over me before. It was at his party and my friend and I started crying and ran off, my boyfriend didn't bother to come looking for us but since then, we've worked everything out and he's stopped talking to his ex-best friend.
After all of this, my mother obviously doesn't trust him anymore. My mom is currently married to an abusive man so of course she's going to be more concerned than the average person. Another concern of hers is do to my mental issues, I don't take out my depression in the healthiest way. She says he is controlling and a loser, she always puts him down in front of me. She thinks he's controlling because he expressed that he wanted to go to the same school as me, and my mom didn't know that I had asked him to so she took it the wrong way. I'm tired of my mom going off about I could find someone better and how much of a loser he is in front of me, every time I try to talk to her about it we argue. Does anyone have any advice on this situation? I really love my boyfriend and want my mom to appreciate him and know I'm in good hands.
So I'm in need of help, desperately. My boyfriend of almost a year and my mother have some conflict. I met my boyfriend at a county fair and we hit it off, this isn't the part my mother has a problem with. I'm in high school and have a 3.24 GPA. My boyfriend on the other hand is trying to get a GED because he has less than 1/4 of the credits needed to pass high school and is in his final years of high school. He's tried independent study, but it didn't work out for him. My mama is worried about this because I plan on going to one of the finest art schools in my country and I'm currently meeting all the requirements, while his future doesn't look as bright as mine. Another problem, also, is that he complains about his grandparents a lot. He lives with them since his mother is unstable and they're a bit mentally abusive (I've witnessed it first-"paw,") so I personally think he has the right to complain but my mother says that since they've raised him, he needs to be nothing but grateful. Now, don't get me wrong, I agree with her to some extent, but if she had saw what I had then maybe she would get it a bit more. And lastly, he chose his best friend over me before. It was at his party and my friend and I started crying and ran off, my boyfriend didn't bother to come looking for us but since then, we've worked everything out and he's stopped talking to his ex-best friend.
After all of this, my mother obviously doesn't trust him anymore. My mom is currently married to an abusive man so of course she's going to be more concerned than the average person. Another concern of hers is do to my mental issues, I don't take out my depression in the healthiest way. She says he is controlling and a loser, she always puts him down in front of me. She thinks he's controlling because he expressed that he wanted to go to the same school as me, and my mom didn't know that I had asked him to so she took it the wrong way. I'm tired of my mom going off about I could find someone better and how much of a loser he is in front of me, every time I try to talk to her about it we argue. Does anyone have any advice on this situation? I really love my boyfriend and want my mom to appreciate him and know I'm in good hands.
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