Crushes, Boyfriends, and Girlfriends | V4

[horse .]

I know :c it is hard...

[Pulsefire]

Ok, I need some help with a problem you guys would probably think is rather insignificant to the others you guys get but i really like some of the advice and thought you guys would be a good people to go to! I need help on how to help my girlfriend with her first relationship *sigh*. So i have had a previous relationship and it was fine except she moved. So I learned a lot on what being a boyfriend is. Now I am a sophomore and she is a freshman this year and she was allowed to date when she came into high school, so we have been together for about a month and i feel like she is confused with some things. Mind that she comes from a christian family and has gone to a private christian school for about 6 years. She is amazingly intelligent but yet has fallen back on the "affection and relationship" side of things. So i went through a good amount of stuff to let he know that i liked her ALOT and she liked me too. Now here is my problem, she is VERY touchy and doesn't even like to hold hands with me around her parents *sigh*

I have been in relationships where we would go into a corner and just make out, but this one is a drastic change. I want to know how i can make her comfortable with "displays of affection"

[harlical]

Ok, I need some help with a problem you guys would probably think is rather insignificant to the others you guys get but i really like some of the advice and thought you guys would be a good people to go to! I need help on how to help my girlfriend with her first relationship *sigh*. So i have had a previous relationship and it was fine except she moved. So I learned a lot on what being a boyfriend is. Now I am a sophomore and she is a freshman this year and she was allowed to date when she came into high school, so we have been together for about a month and i feel like she is confused with some things. Mind that she comes from a christian family and has gone to a private christian school for about 6 years. She is amazingly intelligent but yet has fallen back on the "affection and relationship" side of things. So i went through a good amount of stuff to let he know that i liked her ALOT and she liked me too. Now here is my problem, she is VERY touchy and doesn't even like to hold hands with me around her parents *sigh*

I have been in relationships where we would go into a corner and just make out, but this one is a drastic change. I want to know how i can make her comfortable with "displays of affection"

might be able to help cx
you seem to be in a relationship that was a lot like me and my ex - he was sophomore, i was freshman, and he did show his affection a lot but i was always really awkward and unsure of how to react. so, let me just tell you this - while she may not be really returning the affection, she really does appreciate it, and might not be sure how to respond. as for the holding hands, it might be embarrassing to her when her parents see you holding hands. it's not your fault, trust me, but some people just dont like to be seen showing much affection, especially around people who they are with a lot of the time.

Just give it time. it might take a little bit, but just keep showing her affection and she'll pick up on it and will try to return it. [ most likely very awkwardly at first, haha ] its different for all people but this should help. don't pressure her or ask her why she isn't returning your affection, because that would just make it awkward and uncomfortable and will only guilt trip her into trying to show you affection.

hope this helps ! c:


as for me and my ex, we broke up yesterday :c he said he had a lot on his mind and that we could still be friends, but even so, it feels horrible to leave him in the hallways without a hug or anything... >c
even so, it's probably for the best, since he's going to be moving out of state in November and it would make it less painful, i guess..
still, its such a horrible, empty feeling you get :c
thats all u v u

[Noni Gailin Ayrenin~]

So, with ties to my now-ex cut off, I find myself drawn towards a guy I go to school with. Lets call him 'cute boy'.

Ok, so, part of his natural appeal is that he has, as I like to call it, 'flippy emo hair'. His hair is an almost chocolate brown, and his bangs are swept to the right. His eyes...They're dark....give me friggin chills....I love it XD He almost always has this black and white jacket on, and from what I can tell, hes almost always listening to music.

In the mornings, when we're in the cafeteria for school actually starts, cute boy is off in the corner diagonally from me with his little group.

But anyway, I was sitting with my friends at lunch, and my bestie starts going 'dude, turn around', and I proceed to sit there like a derp going 'why?'
Just as I began to turn around, cute boy walks right on by. I seriously almost smacked my head into the table. I felt so stupid, and yet I couldn't place why.

Just earlier this week, I drew a picture during Spanish class. Just your kinda random emo boy, right? Well, I showed it to one of my friends, and he told me it looked like cute boy.


It would seem I've got it bad, and I've never even heard this guys voice. Whats worse, is that I don't have a snowballs chance in hell with him. The world is taunting me with what I can't have.

[kay.]

Just a little tip for people telling their crushes they like them... c:

There are many ways you can tell that person, but this is what I did with my crush:

The day before he found out, my friend asked me whether she could tell him. I thought this over in silence for a few minutes, then agreed. We did not have much time so we waited until the next day. In that morning, for some reason I felt no fear, felt brave enough to tell him. You could try to imagine yourself as someone or something tough that has plenty of courage and never backs down if it helps you get some more self-confidence. I caught him at a moment (you could just ask for a private minute if you like) with my friend. He has been nagging her to tell him who has a crush on him, don't ask how on earth did he find that out. So this is what happened:

Friend: Do you still want to know who has a crush on you?
Him: Yeah
Friend: It's [insert my name]
Him: *To me, smiling* Really?
Me: Yes but- *he cuts me off at this point*
Him: It's fine, it's fine

Not sad about the outcome. You could try something like this, get one of your trusted friends to mention someone has a crush on him, then choose the right moment where your crush, the friend and yourself are and tell him.

Only fault with my situation is that he didn't tell me he had a girlfriend but irrelevant.

[classi]

This guy texted me and he likes me but I don't like him and what do I do? I'm planning on just not replying. /: I need some tips to lead him off please, when he texted me last night (I have him my number what a mistake I'm too generous) I kind of friend-zoned him so he'll ask me out but seriously he must like me a lot because he was all "we should get to know each other" and I made sure to be REALLY short and kind of not sound interested. But he just texted mee. D: I need advice stat!

[zenz]

This guy texted me and he likes me but I don't like him and what do I do? I'm planning on just not replying. /: I need some tips to lead him off please, when he texted me last night (I have him my number what a mistake I'm too generous) I kind of friend-zoned him so he'll ask me out but seriously he must like me a lot because he was all "we should get to know each other" and I made sure to be REALLY short and kind of not sound interested. But he just texted mee. D: I need advice stat!

I'm rather inept with romantic matters, but here it goes; I think you should just be honest and say to him that you don't have feelings for him in that deep, unfathomably emotional way. But be genuine about it, don't be hostile and obnoxious about it. Tell him that you like him as a friend but you're just not interested in a serious relationship.
I hope this helps, to a certain degree.

[lumi]

My boyfriend just broke up with me over a text message. I am not sure how to think..
or what to feel.. or really
anything.
I thought it was going really well.. but I guess I was wrong. I feel like I should cry, punch a wall, lay on the floor, sleep, and just scream at the same time. We lasted a long time too..
I can't help but blame myself. We were great friends, but after we started dating I got nervous and I was really quiet around him and it may have been a bit awkward, but I thought we were just getting out of that stage. I guess I'll never know..
How do I handle this exactly..?

[clarabow]

This guy texted me and he likes me but I don't like him and what do I do? I'm planning on just not replying. /: I need some tips to lead him off please, when he texted me last night (I have him my number what a mistake I'm too generous) I kind of friend-zoned him so he'll ask me out but seriously he must like me a lot because he was all "we should get to know each other" and I made sure to be REALLY short and kind of not sound interested. But he just texted mee. D: I need advice stat!

I'm rather inept with romantic matters, but here it goes; I think you should just be honest and say to him that you don't have feelings for him in that deep, unfathomably emotional way. But be genuine about it, don't be hostile and obnoxious about it. Tell him that you like him as a friend but you're just not interested in a serious relationship.
I hope this helps, to a certain degree.

I agree. Sound friendly and open so he doesn't feel uncomfortable. It's a huge complement that he likes you,although I understand you don't feel the same. Just tell him the truth, that you don't like him in that way, rather you see him as a friend. Maybe send a smiley, so he knows although you're serious,it hasn't bothered you and you really don't mind. Think about how you would feel if you told a crush of your own you like them, and think about how you'd hope they respond, and respond to this guy accordingly. Hope this helps and good luck!!

[classi]

This guy texted me and he likes me but I don't like him and what do I do? I'm planning on just not replying. /: I need some tips to lead him off please, when he texted me last night (I have him my number what a mistake I'm too generous) I kind of friend-zoned him so he'll ask me out but seriously he must like me a lot because he was all "we should get to know each other" and I made sure to be REALLY short and kind of not sound interested. But he just texted mee. D: I need advice stat!

I'm rather inept with romantic matters, but here it goes; I think you should just be honest and say to him that you don't have feelings for him in that deep, unfathomably emotional way. But be genuine about it, don't be hostile and obnoxious about it. Tell him that you like him as a friend but you're just not interested in a serious relationship.
I hope this helps, to a certain degree.

I know he likes me, but he hasn't told me... so I can't say that /:

But oh my god he seriously sounds desperate/annoying it's actually funny now. Does he just NOT take the hint?
He just said "next time we have spanish can we be partners?" and I was like "idk who would (my current partner) be with?"
He hasn't replied he normally replies right away it's been 10 minutes. xD I think he'll give up on me, I hope he does. I acted really shallow and used a lot of text talk (I normally never use that much text talk) and kept on trying to make it clear that I don't see him that way in a nice way. I think he gets it. I tried to be really nice though.

But he started really getting on my nerves he kept asking to hang out and I'd come up with an excuse and five seconds later he'd ask again it almost sounded staged. /: