Crushes or boyfriends/girlfriends

[~*Angel*~]

I forgot to mention this in my other post. I feel guilty about liking three guys, who are all best friends. Two of which have girlfriends (one that I'm friends with,) and the other being my closest friend. T and I are getting closer, I'll always have that feeling with M that he's out of my league (which he isn't,) and B and I are still the same. Things are so confusing!

I need anybody(s)' advice. Once T and his girlfriend break up, I have the feeling he's going to ask me out. If he does, should I say yes? I have a crush on him, and I want to date him, but I also like one of his best friends and I'm in love with the other, who is my closest friend. I want to stay loyal to B, and I'll always love him no matter what. However, I'm getting tired of waiting for him. I don't know what he'd think if T and I went out. I just don't know what to do if T asks me out. As I said before, I definitely have a crush on him. It's as strong as it could be for hanging out twice, but not as big as a huge crush. What do you all think I should do?

If he asks you out say yes. You can't wait on B forever and if he gets jealous his loss! it was his fault for not taking you in the first place. Who knows you and T may be perfect for each other.

[peachie.]

Exactly. You can't wait forever for B. If you do go out with T. It is B's loss.

[anarchy, inc.]

@Cali
This is so touchy. I can see both B and your points if view, and I'm worried that if you do go out with T, though, it may hurt B. Sorry if I made this harder on you.

[~*Angel*~]

You may always love him yes. But if what you say is true and he loves as a sister I don't think you should pursue further. T seems like a great guy, again if B does get jealous it's his loss. He knew you loved him and he didn't do anything about it.

[anarchy, inc.]

Maybe he's afraid of hurting her, because of his lifestyle. Always running off.

[InTheDepths]

So lately Z has been saying some new stuff... I'll quote a few below:

"Correct, my little -insert my name here-"
"-me referring to how he *isn't* fat or ugly-" "Honey, you shouldn't lie."
"You're lucky I'm texting you I'm out here in the rain, ignoring everybody but you."

[meerkatgirl]

@Cali (again XD) - Sorry for adding this, as you already have a bunch of different sides to the arguement, but this is important too. I think going out with T might change things with B, simply because they're best friends. I don't know is you've heard of it, but it's like the saying "Chicks before d****", or the guy version, "Bros before h***". It might make things awkward, no matter how close you are with B. Just a thought...

[~*Angel*~]

@Cali (again XD) - Sorry for adding this, as you already have a bunch of different sides to the arguement, but this is important too. I think going out with T might change things with B, simply because they're best friends. I don't know is you've heard of it, but it's like the saying "Chicks before d****", or the guy version, "Bros before h***". It might make things awkward, no matter how close you are with B. Just a thought...

If B only loves her like a sister it won't. PLus, if T knows B likes her or vice versa I don't think they're abidding to that rule =/.

[CaliDutchess]

Thanks for your advice, everybody! I'd actually prefer to get all this help and different opinions rather than little to none. I'll keep everybody's opinions in mind if the time ever comes for me to make a decision.

I was just having another deep, meaningful conversation with B over Facebook. He's down again, over a lot of things. Also, it's been going on for a while and has only gotten worse as time goes on. Here are some parts of the conversation. (My name is Amanda, by the way.)

Me: *Talking about the time my little sister tried to scare me and I accidentally punched her in the jaw*
B: The only thing I'm scared of is losing a certain somebody. I know, out of subject, but what the heck.
Me: Lol. :) Do you mean in general or a certain person? What brought that up?
B: A person in general, and the word, "Scared," brought it up.
Me: Yeah, I get what you mean. *Starts talking about my annoying dog that I can't help but love.* My family calls her my daughter, and she responds when I call her that. :)
B: Haha
Me: Do you still love D? I can probably try to help you with her, but with her boyfriend and all I'm not sure I can do much.
B: I'm stopping, Amanda. (Told you he says my name a lot. Just wait, he'll say it more.) I tried, I might as well just give in. :(
Me: Well, at least you're still her friend. That's better than how it turned out with S. (The last girl he liked.)
B: Haha, supposedly S doesn't hate me, but unfortunately, she doesn't like me either. D, on the other hand, doesn't give a damn at all.
Me: Still better than hating you. Also, she was having fun the other day when we (me, B, D, M, T, and T's cousins) were all hanging out.
B: Hahaha, yeah right. By the way, I'm deleting all of my posts. It'll be like I never existed. (We were on Facebook, not IMing this time.)
Me: She seriously was. Didn't you notice her laughing a lot? Are you still going to have the Facebook?
B: I don't know. If I had a chance, maybe I will. Don't send anybody over, bad things happen around me when I'm mad. (He was talking about suicide outside of our chat.)
Me: If you try to commit suicide again, I will. I'll even get T and M to tell me where you live if I have to and just go myself.
B: Haha, if you do, you might not like anything at all. Jkjk, Amanda, just quoting a song.
Me: If that did happen, I seriously would come myself. If you answer the door, I'd drag you by your ear to some place there's something good for you and keep you there until you realize it. If one of your parents answers the door, I'll walk into your house, find you, and do the above. If nobody does, I know how to break in. :) If you resist, your ear might fall off because I'll get you to that place one way or another. Haha, I'm a good sis.
B: Haha, indeed. You are a great thing, I got a good sis. (I squealed and took forever to respond to this because I was so happy. I was just sitting there staring at this message with a smile on my face for about five minutes, haha.)
Me: When T, D, and I were hanging out one day, you came up. It was about the running away thing. T asked what I was going to do to you, and they both said I should hit you or something. Just so you know, I could never do that, you're my bro. I've felt like slapping you a few times when you talk about suicide, but I can't even do that.
B: You should, maybe I'll get the point.
Me: I can't hurt you at all, I care about you too much. When I told D to do it herself if she wanted it done, she said no because I'm the only one you wouldn't hit back. I still couldn't hurt you.
B: I would never hurt anybody that meant so much to me, but D has just been so... Ughhhhh, nevermind. Got to go.
*Us saying goodbye, and me staying up until midnight (currently 10:21 PM) until I have to go to sleep since I have to wake up at seven to meet a friend. If nobody knew how much I cared about him, they'd think I was a creeper that was stalking him, haha.*

Longer than I expected... Anyways, this was our conversation from the start of the meaningful part. We might hang out tomorrow, hopefully alone, and we'll talk more then. At least we'll talk more over Facebook. I'm so glad he finally got one.

[~*Angel*~]

Goodness, now you need to tell him your true feelings. After seeing this it's obvious even if he doesn't love you the same way he'll still always be there for you as a brother. This will be the answer if you should go out with T or not.