♥Crushes, Boyfriends, and Girlfriends | V6♥

[LittleMaple]

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i've been crying all day, shaking and unable to do much of anything. it's really hard to eat and i don't even feel like engaging in my passions, music, or artwork. anyone have any tips, at least for processing this..? thanks so much if you read this far, and i hope you're all doing okay too.

I don't really have advice, but I've been in a similar situation. A person I had previously dated had asked me out after I got out of a relationship that had messed me up pretty bad, and I accepted. A little while later they asked if it was okay with me for them to date another person as well, and I was very against it, as the relationship I had just gotten out of wad a toxic poly. I did NOT want to deal with that again and thought he knew that. He broke up with me later that day.

What im trying to say is- you aren't alone. I think you did the right thing, and there will be another person for you. I know it mightve seemed like you two were perfect for each other, but if they were poly and you weren't, yall just weren't compatible (I hope that doesn't come off rude I mean that in a caring way) you seem really sweet and I think you will find another person who can be committed to you and you alone, I trust it <3

[vampz]

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i've been crying all day, shaking and unable to do much of anything. it's really hard to eat and i don't even feel like engaging in my passions, music, or artwork. anyone have any tips, at least for processing this..? thanks so much if you read this far, and i hope you're all doing okay too.

I don't really have advice, but I've been in a similar situation. A person I had previously dated had asked me out after I got out of a relationship that had messed me up pretty bad, and I accepted. A little while later they asked if it was okay with me for them to date another person as well, and I was very against it, as the relationship I had just gotten out of wad a toxic poly. I did NOT want to deal with that again and thought he knew that. He broke up with me later that day.

What im trying to say is- you aren't alone. I think you did the right thing, and there will be another person for you. I know it mightve seemed like you two were perfect for each other, but if they were poly and you weren't, yall just weren't compatible (I hope that doesn't come off rude I mean that in a caring way) you seem really sweet and I think you will find another person who can be committed to you and you alone, I trust it <3

its okay, this didn't come off as rude at all and i really appreciate it. i'm very sorry to hear about the situation you were in as well. it's hard for me to even think about a future relationship with anyone else, but those words mean a lot and i'm trying really really hard to get through my current hardships. thank you for answering <3

[Winstalgia]

my boyfriend and I of about a year and a half are getting out own place together. I'm so excited but also nervous! Even tho I've been living w him and his two roommates the past four months, just us is going to be different but we are both super happy about it.

[IDroppedMyHotPocket]

Marking this for later :0

[lemonbumb]

okay hi so i have this big embarrassing crush on this guy i work with. we've worked together for about two years but we both went through really bad breakups last year that messed both of us up for a while (his was a lot worse than mine, objectively speaking, but they were both pretty bad) and thats how we actually started talking-- by bonding over our shared experiences. before that was just work-related conversations. there is a lot more lore on my end w this but long story short we got closer this summer because we found out we have more similar interests after bonding over our breakups. idk if that made any sense but whatever lol

We started hanging out and going to the movie theaters and doubled up on movies very frequently (tripled up once too lol) and saw Deadpool and Wolverine three times together which was pretty dope. I still have the movie tickets lol. anyway we also have a thing we call parking lot yap sessions, which is exactly what it sounds like. we just talk about anything and everything in the parking lots of our job, the movie theater, etc. it created a good safe space for both of us to rant about random stuff and i thoroughly enjoy it. again something that initially started as a way to vent about the stuff our exes did, but then evolved into deeper conversations. I fully thought the crush would go away the more I interacted with him and got to know him because that's usually how that works for me, but unfortunately I still think he's the best thing since sliced bread lmao

I'm (sort of) moved now for college (living on campus but still travelling back home for work and to see family every other weekend) and i find myself really missing him sometimes. idk if that's because I don't really have friends on campus though or if i actually miss him. I don't have reliable transportation and he also has a really bad fear of driving in unfamiliar places, so even though im still only an hour away i'm not expecting him to want to visit any time soon lol. we work together on Saturdays when i'm in town though and we're currently trying to plan more movies to go see and a gamestop trip during my fall break which is exciting.

i kinda wanna tell him i think he's cute and i've had a crush on him for a while but idk because i also really like the friendship we've created and i don't want to potentially ruin it, especially because I still work with him (if there was a rejection I would feel incredibly awkward). i don't actually think it would ruin it if i said something, but the risk is still scary. BUUUUT he makes off-handed self-deprecating comments sometimes (not often and not in a concerning way i promise) so maybe i'll just be like "hey shut up your face is actually nice" or something next time it happens. just drop big ol hints all sneaky-like.

the other problem there though is that i don't know that I even want a relationship with him romantically atm, i just think he's neat and crave his attention lol. we have talked about the subject of another relationship in the future a lot, especailly when we were intially bonding over our epically failed past relationships, and the conclusion we both came to was that we would take boyfriend/girlfriend applications but actually reading them is kinda up in the air. basically if something came along we'd be like "oh cool" but relationships are still spooky for us right now so. who knows.

i'm not really looking for advice or anything, i just wanted to get it out somewhere that wasn't my best friends' DMs because they are soooo sick of me talking about him lmaoo

edit: this whole situation was resolved a couple days ago !! we aren't dating, never will be, and i'm perfectly happy with that. we're still really good friends and in case anyone was curious, i'm pretty sure it was just a weird timing situation on my end where i had just gotten out of a relationship that nuked my self-confidence and he was just There and immediately supportive and kind to me from the beginning because he's just Like That. my wires just got crossed for a bit lol

[pigeon.enthusiast]

uhh I just broke up with my boyfriend uhhhh I think I lost feelings. or just stopped elevating him to a god-like level for being insanely gifted musically

that's such a boring reason... he was such an ideal person (albeit not very developed but very willing to grow and learn) but I just could not offer much romantically because it's just not something I need

I also am gay so that might be a minor contributor to my loss of enthusiasm for the relationship uhhhh

[lemonbumb]

uhh I just broke up with my boyfriend uhhhh I think I lost feelings. or just stopped elevating him to a god-like level for being insanely gifted musically

that's such a boring reason... he was such an ideal person (albeit not very developed but very willing to grow and learn) but I just could not offer much romantically because it's just not something I need

I also am gay so that might be a minor contributor to my loss of enthusiasm for the relationship uhhhh

dude i went through something similar last November when I broke up w my partner. it's not a boring reason if you genuinely believe it was the right thing to do. congrats on figuring out your sexuality though, that's always a hard process especially already being in a relationship.

[lisica,]

what’s everyone’s thoughts on “happy birthday”ing your way back into someone’s life?? Guy I used to work with has a bday this week and I’ve been waiting for an excuse to reach out to him lol :-))

[Captain. A. Stark.]

what’s everyone’s thoughts on “happy birthday”ing your way back into someone’s life?? Guy I used to work with has a bday this week and I’ve been waiting for an excuse to reach out to him lol :-))

go for it! it's a great way to start a conversation and make some potential plans. i'm sure he'll appreciate the gesture as well. best of luck!

[Dewleaf]

What do i do if i am a lesbian but my crush is straight?
Plus even though she tries not to show it, as she knows my sexuality, i can tell she doesn't really support the LGBTQ+ community.
At this point of life i've fallen out of love and now we are just friends, but still, most of the people in my country don't support people like me, so my question still stands.