♥Crushes, Boyfriends, and Girlfriends | V6♥

[Catsplat18]

I think I accidentally went on a date with someone.

His lab partner in our chemistry class was absent, so he joined my partner and I. We exchanged numbers so we could share our data and graphs. Nothing out of the ordinary. I basically forgot about him until he texted me two days later about chem. But then we ended up texting for TWO HOURS and definitely not about class anymore. We have lots of things in common, and I felt good about meeting someone new, since it's my first semester in college and I'm pretty lonely. I wasn't even considering that texting a stranger for 2 hours about deeply personal things (mental health, family drama, etc.) could be read as more than friendly interest, because I was just so happy to talk to someone. So when he asked me if I wanted to get lunch and then study on Saturday, I just said yes without thinking twice.

Well, we had very good sushi near my dorm and then went to the common room to study chemistry. He didn't do anything romantic or flirty or anything. Nothing that stood out to me, at least -- but again, I wasn't even looking for signals. I wasn't even considering what HE thought this outing was. It was only after his Uber arrived and he asked me if I wanted to get pho next time that I realized... wait... oh no...

As I walked back to my room I felt insanely guilty, like there was this weight pressing on my chest. I have ZERO interest in this guy and I already have a boyfriend. And even if I were single, I probably STILL wouldn't be interested in him. So I felt like I cheated on my boyfriend and like I led someone on. I felt so insanely awful.

But so far my interactions with this guy have still been purely platonic, basically as if we had never met up at all. I'm not ignoring him, but he isn't reaching out, either. We just have casual interactions in class. I feel like I dodged a bullet. But I'm worried the bullet might actually be a boomerang and come back and hit me later.

[Uchuujin]

I have a huge crush on one of my friends, who also happens to be my best friend's husband's best friend. We play video games together multiple times a week, and I'm pretty sure every single one of our friends knows that I have a crush on him. Everyone seems to be encouraging me to tell him.

I want to be with him, in my imagination at least. But I know in real life that relationships aren't like fairy tales, and if/when we broke up, it would likely ruin my whole friend group. So even if he was interested in me back, I really don't think it would be wise to pursue anything. I value his friendship too much.

How do I turn these feelings off though ; - ; instead of fading away, they're just getting stronger every time we hang out. I'm really not sure what to do... I never really post on CS that often anymore but I needed some completely anonymous place outside of the real world to just vent these feelings. I wish someone could tell me what the best thing to do in this situation is T_T

[battymidas]

how many chances should you give someone before you give up on them?

basically, every time ive brought up my feelings about certain things to my boyfriend he says he'll change && fix things but.. never did. finally, the other day i had had enough and told him i was done with our relationship because i felt like most of my needs were ignored by him && he never changed what he said he would.... but after a long talk he says he'll change.. which, honestly i kinda doubt after everything lol but i gave him another chance..

it just sucks that i always tend to get the short end of the stick anymore :/ i don't want this relationship to end but if he doesn't change like he says he was going to i'll have to call it quits because im so tired of getting hurt.

[Constellation.]

Last time I posted here things were a little rough but we're doing really good right now! (: Made it through the 2.5 months long distance and got to see each other while he was down at my college for alumni weekend, he ended up staying with me for 4 days. He helped me a lot long distance through my lolo's passing and since he's visited our texts have been sweeter to the point of making me cringe internally but I love it. He'll be down again in a couple of weeks for an event, and 3.5 weeks after that we'll both fly to my home state and spend the first week of winter break together! I'm planning a lot of fun stuff for that week, I always wanted to be in a relationship during Christmastime because I find it super fun and romantic. Last year didn't count since we were just starting out and we didn't see each other most of December, but I'm really hyped for this year! Ice skating, lights, baking, movies, farm festival, going around my hometown, etc. I can't wait!

I also can't believe we're so close to a year together, sometimes I reflect and am still in awe that this is happening to me, being in a happy relationship with a guy who loves me and who I love, and the stuff we have planned. Feels so weird being on the inside instead of watching others, but I'm genuinely so happy. (:

[frogpeex]

I've been in an online relationship for over a year and in a month and a half he is coming to visit. I've been feeling extremely nervy due to this. What if he doesn't like the way I am in person. Not that I'm any different online than in person but I dunno. Maybe I'm too tall or too short or too skinny or my hair isn't the way it is over our calls. My voice may be different.

I posted this forever ago but it went amazing! We plan to meet up in some months from now again.

[Soy Sauce]

I have a huge crush on one of my friends, who also happens to be my best friend's husband's best friend. We play video games together multiple times a week, and I'm pretty sure every single one of our friends knows that I have a crush on him. Everyone seems to be encouraging me to tell him.

I want to be with him, in my imagination at least. But I know in real life that relationships aren't like fairy tales, and if/when we broke up, it would likely ruin my whole friend group. So even if he was interested in me back, I really don't think it would be wise to pursue anything. I value his friendship too much.

How do I turn these feelings off though ; - ; instead of fading away, they're just getting stronger every time we hang out. I'm really not sure what to do... I never really post on CS that often anymore but I needed some completely anonymous place outside of the real world to just vent these feelings. I wish someone could tell me what the best thing to do in this situation is T_T

In my experience you cant really turn these types of feelings off. Ofc everyone love’s differently and everyone feels differently. Ik this is the most generic response you can give, but just go for it. Shoot your shot. I was in a situation almost exactly like this, i was head over heels for this girl but she was the center of our friend group. But (for me at least) suppressing the feelings only made them worse, until it was unbearable. So i’d say, make it clear to them how much your friendship means to you and how you dont have the intention of ruining it. Ofc make sure they are ready to be in a relationship and all that. But if you make it clear how you feel on the romantic and friendly spectrums its a lot easier to get your feelings across. And if they aren’t ready for a relationship, your friendship is still secure! Things may be a little awkward for a day or two.

So in my opinion, if you just tell them how you feel and be very honest. It should go pretty smoothly! I wish you the best of luck!

[sforzando.]

I think I may have girlbossed a little too close to the sun, ladies and gents
I usually get crushes on my guy friends. it shamefully happens in EVERY group and I can't help it. this gc ive had since 2019 has been the only exception and I think still may be?? but one of the guys in the chat has had a crush on me since 2019 and ive known this but he lived across the country and we both dated people during that time and it was nbd, just a casual crush on his end
I made the mistake of fAKE DATING HIM A FEW DAYS AGO TO GET RID OF A CREEP
and now I keep making jokes about us dating in the gc?? just funny like "oh youre my boyfriend now so you don't get opinions on this" and then throwing like "babe" at him and I think I've COMMITTED TOO MUCH TO THE ROLE and im SCARED HAHA
especially since he's possibly moving to my state here soon?? not to my city but he'll only be two hours away???? omg I told myself I'd never date again and tbh im not sure I like him?? I know if I keep talking I will HAHA we just gotta stay committed I guess

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disregard lolz

[Falco]

Any tips on healing from being cheated on? Found out it happened again. I know and understand it's not my fault at all, but it's still very hard for me.

[Linsang]

Any tips on healing from being cheated on? Found out it happened again. I know and understand it's not my fault at all, but it's still very hard for me.

I've been there and it's the worst. You're right that it's not your fault, and that's an important thing to understand, but I think the other really important thing to know is that it will hurt.
Your trust was majorly breached by someone very close to you who you trusted a great deal. That's the kind of pain that you just need to let yourself experience, because if you brush it away or try to pretend it's not there it's just going to come back later like if you bottled it up and just smack you out of nowhere- at least in my past experiences- and will affect how you trust in the future more.

You should, in a way that works for you, let yourself be sad, and also let yourself be angry- I feel like the latter is even more important because someone really wronged you here and I feel like letting yourself be mad stops you from blaming yourself or others. For me in these experiences it was like:
-If I let myself get too in my feelings about it, I blame myself when I know I shouldn't
-If I let that anger dissipate too much, it's still kind of there in a residual way that sort of spreads out in a way where it impacts how I trust or interact with other people, when they probably wouldn't do the same things and it's not fair to them.
So I found non-harmful ways to "vent" that worked for me. In my case, exercise helped a lot, and drawing dumb edgy emo dog vent art, lol. For others, maybe things like music or writing would be more effective. It comes down to you. But I think having these outlets really helps in processing the grief.

Again not a therapist or anything haha and don't wanna assume what worked for me is universal but I've been through similar before and hope it helps. Best wishes to you and I am so sorry you had your trust broken like that. 💙