Crushes, Boyfriends and Girlfriends | V3

[robyn]

PM meh baaybeh c:

[loonyloolaluna]

this is my first post, so I'm a bit nervous.

Well, I kinda fancy a guy and I think he likes me, but I'm not sure. I might get a friend to ask him out for me, but then it might seem like I can't be bothered...
Plus I'm too shy / socially awkward to ask him out myself.

Please help / advice?

Don't be nervous! You'll get used to it later.
If it seems like he likes you have you tried looking at the youtube clips on the first page?
Also read the part where your should try ask him out your self. Face to face. (also on first page)

Oh poo.

My friend, Goth girl, we will call her that, is jelous of me and R's relationship. She got me to ask a guy out that she likes but he said no. The thing was she didn't do the natural steps. The steps are get closer to them, make a friendship, hopefully date. She hardly talks to him and just straight up asked him out.Now she's moping around saying she hates seeing happy couples and that nobody loves her and blah blah blah. God, it's getting annoying. Plus, she's just doing it for attention. ;P

Stuff with R and I have been great so far. <3 Nothing really new to report about. ^^;

It's great you and R are happy together ^.^
for your friend however. Make her feel loved. Have a sleep over with her, and just talk about it, have some chocolaty snacks (chocolate has been proven to lift moods).
Yeah, before I posted something like ... erm ... (I'll just quote it)

When you have a bf:
Week 1 - Hugs and Cuddles. Huggles!
Week 2 - Hold 'palms'
Week 3 - Hold hands, entwining fingers
1 Month - Kiss, just a peck
Week 5 - Sit close ... (Idc what I meant here ...)
Week 6 - Fiddling with hair
Week 7 - He can put hands around waist when we sit/walk
2 Months - He can play guitar for me :3 Or I can give him him some art XD
Week 10 - Going out for Dinner
3 Months - Going out for Movie
Week 14 - Dance together
4 Months - We can snog
5 Months - By now everybody alot of people should know we're going out. So just continue to do all that. Just be best friends too.

To be continued ...?

Though that was only a personal reminder. I did say others could use it.
It may seem like a really slow relationship ... but personally idk how to have a relationship, so that's why I made that.

When a guy pinches/squeezes your waste or play fight with you or all of the above does that mean he likes you?

Most likely. Check the first page though, if he's doing anything else that's on the youtube clips - he will surely like you.
(and if he doesn't I'm sorry I led you wrong)

Well today a guy (the same guy that I have caught staring
at me ever since he asked me out 5 -almost 6- months ago) kept staring at me again in first period. It was two hours long (because of testing) and everytime I happened to look over at him, he'd be staring at me or smiling at me.

It gets pretty annoying. Even though he's cute :b
I just wish he'd have gotten to know me before he asked me out (not to mention I have a boyfriend). I barely even know his name...how could he possibly think I'd date him without knowing anything about him?!

That bugs me.
Everyday I see him in the hallway and it's always the same thing. He acts all
nervous and we both quickly look away. I wish he'd get over it, that way I could forget about it ever happening.
Or he could have at least become friends with me, or say "hi" every once and awhile. *sighes*

Really, it makes me feel bad.
I don't see him talking to many other people and I kinda sorta rejected him without even knowing so I had no way of "sugar coating" it. I guess I feel bad because he has so much potential! He doesn't need to waste his time and energy worrying over me (who already loves someone else) when he could basically go out and get any girl he wants!!

Lol, I'm sorry...I just really needed to get that out. To someone.

Always staring at you. Kinda creepy (well for me because people don't normally stare at me). But cute and flattering at the same time!
Well it's good you said you have a boyfriend. Though it does confuse me too why he asked you out when he knows nothing about you. Maybe he wanted to learn more about you while dating you? Possibly.
Oh that's cute. But yeah, it'd be nice if he tried to make an effort to befriend you. - but apparently guys are shyer than girls, and expect them to make the first move (I know you have a bf, but as in, making the first move to become friends - if you want to be friends with him).
Well, I'd feel flattered if I was in your shoes. For some reason, the girls on this thread that have boy friends, have more than one guy going after them.
It's fine :3

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So, one of my best friends, Krista, was talking to a guy. I let her know I thought he was pretty cute even though I didn't even know his name, but her and the guy- Michael, had been friends for years. I saw him a few days later and he tried to give me a high five after giving Krista one. I gave him a weird look, but not to be rude. :p

I told Krista to ask him if he's allowed to date (he's a grade younger than me).

When I saw him this morning, he kept staring at me. My best friends were pointing out "YOU'RE BLUSHING AWW!", and I was denying it with the best poker face I could. Then I found out the reason he was most likely staring was because instead of asking Michael what I wanted her to, Krista told him I like him. When I'm around guys I like that I'm not dating, I tend to avoid their face or even facing their direction and pretty much refuse to talk. It's like I freeze because I get so overwhelmed. xD Michael asked my other best friend why I wouldn't talk, and she told him it was because I like him. His response was "Oh, really?" Fuuu-

Right before our grade left the gym, he asked me to give him a high five which I did. :3 Then on the way to lunch, I saw him in the hall- and despite the fact he had only seen me twice, he saw me in the large blob/mob of people in the hall and held out his hand for another high five. I attempted to give him one but I ended up just grazing his fingers. e.e Krista got all mad saying he used to give her high fives but not anymore. :d

I don't know if he likes me. He's the kind of guy that gives out free hugs to people. He's just really friendly and I just... don't know. Regardless I need to get to know him, especially since I just recently broke up with a guy that was psycho and (verbally) abusive, and the only other boyfriend I've had is one that physically abused me. /Lololol I'm an idiot magnet

Ahw! You should have hi-5ed him!
Yeah, getting you friend to ask him (since they're already friends) is good, but it might make him think she'd want to date him. That's perfectly fine.
Friends do that about the blushing part. But that's just not on your friend telling him you fancy him! Oh lord. Hah. Idk how to reply to that - keep your friend yeah, and ... yeah idk.
Good you hi-5ed him that time :3 Sounds like Krista is jelly =/ never good. I wonder if she likes him too though ...
Oh he seems so nice! Yeah, just wait a bit before your next bf/gf. It'd be good to get to know him. Oh jeez. I hope Michael doesn't end up being abusive in any way to you if you date him!

So i need help, i have fallen for my crushes best friend who hated before...I really don't know what to do plus my friend hate him so much. Can you help??

Who hated who before? You hated them? Or they hated you?
Well, personally if your friend doesn't like them, tough bikkies. But I'd probably side with your friends, I don't your crushes best friend, but your friends know more than me. Just ask them why they dont like them.

I know it may sound like I broke up with M for A, but I didn't. I had quite a few very legit reasons, like the fact that we don't really talk anymore. And he agreed, and we both decided that taking a break was the best thing. He was upset about it and so I was, it was probably one of the hardest things I've ever done, but I told him I had to sort some stuff out, which I do. My feelings for A. Honestly, I can't date someone if I have feelings for someone else that I hang out with a lot. It makes me feel guilty, almost like I'm cheating when I'm not, and I can't stand it. So that's one of the main reasons; It may sound like it's for A, but it's not. It's because I feel guilty knowing that I have quite strong feelings for A, and I'm with him a lot, and M doesn't know.

And also, the day after at school (which was yesterday) A asked me out. Please don't anybody say that it's trampy to say yes like I did and start dating someone right after you break up with someone, because I know, and I'm not exactly proud. But honestly, if the guy of your dreams that you've liked since you first met him finally asks you out (and in person!), would you not say yes even if you had just gotten out of a relationship? I mean, that may have been the only time he would've done it, and I could be left not getting a chance with him all because I didn't want to seem a little bit trampy.

He asked me out during the break before the last class before lunch, which was Science. I had to go fast so I answered him at lunch. I walked by his classroom, and he just popped right up out of his seat and ran up to me at the doorway. I said yes, and he literally ran back into his classroom exclaiming, "She said yes, guys!" and everybody just laughed and his friends all clapped and congratulated him xD.

We hung out at the forty-five-minute-long lunch break like we always do, but for the first time as boyfriend and girlfriend. K kept chasing after him whenever he said something that was making fun of her, which was often. The first time, she chased him down and pushed him, and he apparently got a bruise on his arm that was completely invisible to everyone but him and insisted he needed a hug from me to make it all better. Then she pressure-pointed him in his neck, which he hurt playing baseball a while ago, so he ran over to me. I was sitting in the grass, he was standing, and I held my arms out. He practically tackled me, in a hug, causing us both to fall over and end up laying in the grass beside each other. Then he got a tiny little cut from the fence on his hand and asked if I'd kiss it better. So I just smiled and did, and then he was all, "I think I cut my lips, too. Can you kiss them better?" and the whole group, including me, laughed :3

We hung out after school. I was walking home with him, AL, and AL's friend J. AL is the guy who has had a crush on me since like first grade, kissed me a couple times which resulted in him getting slapped, and has asked me out literally over a bajillion times. The last time we hung out we were pretty intensely flirting with each other, hugging while walking down the street since it was cold, sharing ice cream, and he tackled his friend because he took my phone, and then gave me my phone back. He was flirting with me when we were hanging out - I'm assuming he hadn't heard that A and I were dating, or he just didn't care - and he was being super uber sweet again. Like I'd start walking too fast and then he'd gently grab my arm and pull me back because he insisted that, "You have to be right by my side at ALL TIMES." (literal quote from him).

I don't like him in that way anymore, but I wasn't really bugged by his flirting. A didn't say anything specifically about it, but he'd glance at AL all dude-don't-you-dare style, and everytime AL would start talking to me in a sweet way A would interrupt and start talking to him, or tell him to come look at something. I later asked A if that was on purpose, and he just immediately said, "Yup. He'd better back off my girl." And I was all OMIGOSH HE CALLED ME HIS GIRL <3 on the inside but on the outside I was like, "Aww :3 -hug-".

Then the best part of the WHOLE DAY was when we went back to my house. We were jumping on my trampoline and he kept grabbing my phone and then he'd put it on my trampoline and start bouncing and he wouldn't give it back. So he put it in the middle, stood on one side while I stood on the other, and told me to go for it. I took one step, and so did he, so with a smile I was all like, "Don't you dare move! Stay!" and he just laughed. I went for it, and so did he. We got to my phone at the same time, so I put my hand on his chest and pushed him backwards so that he ran into the net, laughing, and I grabbed it. He tried to grab it from me and we ended up wrestling on my trampoline for my phone, laughing and pushing each other. I always managed to get it from him at the end (he said that he was letting me win, but I didn't believe him). Once we were standing up, both of our hands wrapped around my phone. I was wearing his hat since he put it on me a while before that and we were like super close. We just both paused and we were talking to each other with that stubborn challengingness that we both possess, with that taunting tone that you use when you're up against somebody trying to win, and then he kept getting even closer, like as if he was leaning in to kiss me. It was pretty intense though. I usually have trouble keeping eye contact for a long time, but with him, I didn't. We just stared all deeply into each other's eyes (he has such beautiful eyes, they're like a perfectly clear, light blue<3 and mine are blue-green but darker, a "deep, soulful" *as my best friend says* dark teal that everybody says is super gorgeous, though I don't really see it) and we were super close, like close enough that if I were to lean forward an inch or two, I could kiss him.

And he kept getting close like that, all the time, as we were fighting. Then he finally just took my phone and put it in his shoe on the ground. Then he told me to stand in the middle across from him, so I did. And then he asked if I was ready. I asked for what, and he said that the first one to tap out wins the ten dollars he had in his pocket. I told him I didn't want his money, so he said, "Fine, if you win, you get your phone." then I asked what he got if he wins and he said, "Well, you do owe me something." and I was like, "Oh?" so he said, "Yeah. You owe me a kiss." and I just laughed and told him all tauntingly that I didn't owe him anything. He make a psshhh noise and rolled his eyes and said, "If I win, you have to kiss me." so I agreed and we just kinda stood there. He insisted that ladies go first, but I said I wasn't going to tackle him. We argued about who was going first, and he complained that he didn't know where to grab me (xD, so funny) so I should go first. After about twenty minutes of arguing, then ten minutes of fighting, his mom came to pick him up for baseball. At his last baseball game I talked to his mom for the whole time while I watched, waved, and cheered for him, and his mom and I get along very well. Turns out, his mom and my mom used to be like BEST FRIENDS and they hung out ALL THE TIME. And, his auntie used to live in the exact same house that I live in now. AND, during the summer, we go with our dad's to the same place at the SAME TIME. Weird, right? It's almost like fate xD. So then he still had my phone and he was all, "You didn't give me that kiss yet." and I just grinned and said, "You didn't win." so he tried to take my phone, then I said that I couldn't text him if he had it, and he just paused for a second then said all quietly, "I'm weak... I can't not text you. I'll miss you too much." and gave my phone back.

[Sorry for posting so much. xD
Nobody has to read all that, just needed to express all this and tell somebody and none of my friends would understand and would think I'm weird if I went all deep like this so yeah XD.]

Wait. So did you take a break from M, or break up with M?
How do you manage to be so successful with boys?
That sounds so cute that he called you 'his girl'
Fate, ahh ... I know how that feels. Like when everything leads to you and him, and it seems so perfect, that you must be together.
That was really cute, I have to admit. And I am jelly.

Ohhhh.
Always keep your bras/panties/underwear/tampons/ect. Off your bedroom floor at all times,
because you never know when he's gonna randomly show up at your door.

...Lesson learned. >///<

Is it bad to say I know how you feel.
Except it was a guy friend, and I had that kind of stuff lying about -.-
I told him not to come into my room!

[WalkerNom]

Well today a guy (the same guy that I have caught staring
at me ever since he asked me out 5 -almost 6- months ago) kept staring at me again in first period. It was two hours long (because of testing) and everytime I happened to look over at him, he'd be staring at me or smiling at me.

It gets pretty annoying. Even though he's cute :b
I just wish he'd have gotten to know me before he asked me out (not to mention I have a boyfriend). I barely even know his name...how could he possibly think I'd date him without knowing anything about him?!

That bugs me.
Everyday I see him in the hallway and it's always the same thing. He acts all
nervous and we both quickly look away. I wish he'd get over it, that way I could forget about it ever happening.
Or he could have at least become friends with me, or say "hi" every once and awhile. *sighes*

Really, it makes me feel bad.
I don't see him talking to many other people and I kinda sorta rejected him without even knowing so I had no way of "sugar coating" it. I guess I feel bad because he has so much potential! He doesn't need to waste his time and energy worrying over me (who already loves someone else) when he could basically go out and get any girl he wants!!

Lol, I'm sorry...I just really needed to get that out. To someone.

Always staring at you. Kinda creepy (well for me because people don't normally stare at me). But cute and flattering at the same time!
Well it's good you said you have a boyfriend. Though it does confuse me too why he asked you out when he knows nothing about you. Maybe he wanted to learn more about you while dating you? Possibly.
Oh that's cute. But yeah, it'd be nice if he tried to make an effort to befriend you. - but apparently guys are shyer than girls, and expect them to make the first move (I know you have a bf, but as in, making the first move to become friends - if you want to be friends with him).
Well, I'd feel flattered if I was in your shoes. For some reason, the girls on this thread that have boy friends, have more than one guy going after them.
It's fine :3

First off, thanks for being like the only one to reply to my post! XD
Yes, it is kind of flattering, but idk how to explain it, I don't want him staring at me. As you said it is kind of creepy and other people know he does it. The only friend I've seen him with points me out everytime I get within 10 ft of him. Oh, and the day he asked me out (it was on the bus), he watched me walk home. I live in a development where the houses are close together so, he could definatly watch me walk away and he did that day. Idk if he does it anymore, I refuse to look. Oh, and there was this one time I caught him staring a bit farther south than my face (my boobs), THAT kind of shocked me and he knows that I caught him too. Talk about AWKWARD!

Well, idk if I want to be friends with him.
It just doesn't sound like a good idea to befriend someone that might come between you and your boyfriend. But I'm a really nice person and wouldn't mind saying, "hi" or "bye" to him every once and awhile. Who knows, maybe it will make his day because I don't normally talk to him. *shrugs*

Why is it that the girls who don't want anyone else but their boyfriend always have other guys pounce on her like she's still fair game?
I mean, where were all these guys 6 months ago before I got a boyfriend?? Then, there would be basically no confusion at all! I guess I'm just trying to say, I love B (my boyfriend). And I don't want anyone else but him and as soon as I get my mind set like that, someone has to come and broadcast the fact that they like me. -___-

[arcticwolf]

Krista insists that if she liked him, she would have dated him by now since they go to the same church and hang out there twice a week.

[Acidic]

Ohgodgodgodgod.
Nearly everybody knows that I like J... What shall I do? they might tell him, and I don't know if he likes me back...

[nopenope123]

Met my crush at the Bobby MacFerrin consert.
I was there with my family, and Mumknows that i liek my crush. It was awkward. My worst nightmare woudl be that Dad finds out, as he woudl tease me or something...

And Acidic, stay cool. Think about it. What can be the worst thign that happens? I mean, he won't really throw a piano at you. (I hope).

[Acidic]

Met my crush at the Bobby MacFerrin consert.
I was there with my family, and Mumknows that i liek my crush. It was awkward. My worst nightmare woudl be that Dad finds out, as he woudl tease me or something...

And Acidic, stay cool. Think about it. What can be the worst thign that happens? I mean, he won't really throw a piano at you. (I hope).

LAWL.
The worst thing that will happen is that my school is very high in the bullying standard, so they will tease me and make my crush uncomfortable. I care about him, you know.

[loonyloolaluna]

Well today a guy (the same guy that I have caught staring
at me ever since he asked me out 5 -almost 6- months ago) kept staring at me again in first period. It was two hours long (because of testing) and everytime I happened to look over at him, he'd be staring at me or smiling at me.

It gets pretty annoying. Even though he's cute :b
I just wish he'd have gotten to know me before he asked me out (not to mention I have a boyfriend). I barely even know his name...how could he possibly think I'd date him without knowing anything about him?!

That bugs me.
Everyday I see him in the hallway and it's always the same thing. He acts all
nervous and we both quickly look away. I wish he'd get over it, that way I could forget about it ever happening.
Or he could have at least become friends with me, or say "hi" every once and awhile. *sighes*

Really, it makes me feel bad.
I don't see him talking to many other people and I kinda sorta rejected him without even knowing so I had no way of "sugar coating" it. I guess I feel bad because he has so much potential! He doesn't need to waste his time and energy worrying over me (who already loves someone else) when he could basically go out and get any girl he wants!!

Lol, I'm sorry...I just really needed to get that out. To someone.

Always staring at you. Kinda creepy (well for me because people don't normally stare at me). But cute and flattering at the same time!
Well it's good you said you have a boyfriend. Though it does confuse me too why he asked you out when he knows nothing about you. Maybe he wanted to learn more about you while dating you? Possibly.
Oh that's cute. But yeah, it'd be nice if he tried to make an effort to befriend you. - but apparently guys are shyer than girls, and expect them to make the first move (I know you have a bf, but as in, making the first move to become friends - if you want to be friends with him).
Well, I'd feel flattered if I was in your shoes. For some reason, the girls on this thread that have boy friends, have more than one guy going after them.
It's fine :3

First off, thanks for being like the only one to reply to my post! XD
Yes, it is kind of flattering, but idk how to explain it, I don't want him staring at me. As you said it is kind of creepy and other people know he does it. The only friend I've seen him with points me out everytime I get within 10 ft of him. Oh, and the day he asked me out (it was on the bus), he watched me walk home. I live in a development where the houses are close together so, he could definatly watch me walk away and he did that day. Idk if he does it anymore, I refuse to look. Oh, and there was this one time I caught him staring a bit farther south than my face (my boobs), THAT kind of shocked me and he knows that I caught him too. Talk about AWKWARD!

Well, idk if I want to be friends with him.
It just doesn't sound like a good idea to befriend someone that might come between you and your boyfriend. But I'm a really nice person and wouldn't mind saying, "hi" or "bye" to him every once and awhile. Who knows, maybe it will make his day because I don't normally talk to him. *shrugs*

Why is it that the girls who don't want anyone else but their boyfriend always have other guys pounce on her like she's still fair game?
I mean, where were all these guys 6 months ago before I got a boyfriend?? Then, there would be basically no confusion at all! I guess I'm just trying to say, I love B (my boyfriend). And I don't want anyone else but him and as soon as I get my mind set like that, someone has to come and broadcast the fact that they like me. -___-

It's always nice to make someones day by saying hey in the morning and bye in the afternoon.
But if he's really annoying you just ask him if he can back off a bit, because you have a boyfriend (don't say it in a rude way though)
Ikr? When I got a bf, this other guy asked me out the next week!

Krista insists that if she liked him, she would have dated him by now since they go to the same church and hang out there twice a week.

Mhmm. I don't really believe that she doesn't like him.
Maybe she doesn't. She's your friend, and you know her better than I do.
Just whatever you do don't start a war of how much he likes one of you better. That would be bad.

Ohgodgodgodgod.
Nearly everybody knows that I like J... What shall I do? they might tell him, and I don't know if he likes me back...

It's so scary when that happens.
Just make sure no-one's going to tell him. Or just tell him yourself. And do it face to face. I know it can be nerve racking, and that's why you plan how you say it, and how to respond to his many different possible responses. Oh and tell him on a Friday, that way he can think about it over the weekend.
That's not cool if your school bullies quite often. Yeah, um, then ... I'd probably hush everyone up till the next week, and then try and tell him.

Met my crush at the Bobby MacFerrin consert.
I was there with my family, and Mumknows that i liek my crush. It was awkward. My worst nightmare woudl be that Dad finds out, as he woudl tease me or something...

And Acidic, stay cool. Think about it. What can be the worst thign that happens? I mean, he won't really throw a piano at you. (I hope).

(to the last part) LOL
Yeah, when you're mum knows who you like, and your crush is right there. (my mum kept critisizing him going 'he's too short. You'll over grow him. He's not that handsom. Look at his pimples. He walks funny!' My response was

That would be awkward if your dad finds out. I don't normally tell my dad about that stuff. He's a good father to look after children, but not teenagers ...

[s y n]

Wait. So did you take a break from M, or break up with M?
How do you manage to be so successful with boys?
That sounds so cute that he called you 'his girl'
Fate, ahh ... I know how that feels. Like when everything leads to you and him, and it seems so perfect, that you must be together.
That was really cute, I have to admit. And I am jelly.

I broke up with him, but told him that we may have another chance (I didn't want to totally kill him ;-;) so it was sorta like saying "let's take a break."

Honestly, I don't know o.o I thought I wasn't really that great with boys. Like, I'm really good at being best friends with them and hanging out with them but not really when it comes to dating, since I'm nervous and I always want to be super affectionate and I think that I'm a horrible kisser so I'm always too nervous to kiss a guy (I've heard I'm actually a really good kisser, which I didn't know... o.o). Apparently, I'm a lot better with guys than I thought. I decided that I must be doing something right if I've got a new boyfriend, an ex-boyfriend who wants me back already, and another guy who likes me...
I really have no idea. At all. O.o

[Nellas]

I'm horrible with boys. You must be so lucky, imperfect. Sure, I've liked people, but the first couple were just stupid elementary fluff, the next bit were just crushes... I've only felt love for a boy once, and I thought it was going to go somewhere but it just turned into a misunderstanding, each of us thinking the other wasn't wanting to go to the next step... Ah, well, but that's over now. Friends someday, maybe, but I feel differently about him now. It's a long story. Anyways.
I always seem to attract the guys I don't want to attract! I know of a handful of guys who like me, and a handful of guys who have liked me, and... well... Just, no. I'm sorry, but no.
When will these things ever work out? 3:
lawl I'm so pitiful XD