TheComfortCorner | V.8

[Loxo]

My friend is feeling really down.

Someone cussed her out on the bus, and she was so upset that she wouldn’t talk to me today.

I need to say or do something; does anyone have advice?

[MewMimi]

The future is not clear at this moment, I have no idea what to do and it just depresses me more. Stopping college? Changing courses? Only work? I wish I could disappear since society is not for me, freedom is calling me so bad and I rlly want to change life you know! Job, friends, family, home.. everything

[dovah]

i wish there was somebody to tell me everything was going to be okay

[Mooshidog]

My anxieties been really really bad recently.
I worry from the moment I wake up till the moment I fall asleep.
Almost everything I'm worrying about is tiny. They don't even matter.
I asked my mom if I could get a higher dose of anxiety meds. I feel like I need it.
I just hate how it's controlling my life rn.
I'm not doing something in school bc I had a panic attack about it.
I didn't want my mom to say anything, she did.

[rover]

Advice on how to deal with depression from a fellow sufferer;
- Find a balance between acceptance and not giving up.
- Allow yourself to be lazy, to sleep, to just hang but dont wallow, eat, take your meds, talk to your friends, keep your house and yourself clean.
- Practice mindfulness/meditation.
- Read, read, read and then read some more good books on things like selfcompassion, acceptance, mindfulness etc. Alternatively if youre not into reading, get an audiobook, check out youtube vids or sign up for a course of your choosing.
- Practice, try out coping skills and stick to what works for you.
- Be gratefull, even in the darkest night there is beauty. Take note of it!
- Remember that one step is more then no steps, so applaud yourself for every little thing you manage. Set only small goals, the rest will follow naturally in time.
- Dump unsupportive friends and cherish the good ones. Invest in them, do not shut them out. If you dont want to talk ask how they are. If you lack friends join a club of your choosing even if it is "only" online.
- Fuel your passions, feed them. If you do not know what your passion is search for it, what interests you, what did you like as a kid, try out things.
- Give your time to a good cause, find a cause that speaks to you and somehow contribute. You have worth and you can do good in this world.
- Practice (self) compassion like your life depends on it, it actually does! Learn to give yourself what you need.
- Listen to your gut. Do not be afraid to set bounderies, be your own advocate, protector. This is your job. If you dont no one else will, youll lose yourself and there is nothing more depressing then that.
- If you love animals consider getting a pet, they can be very therapeutic.
- There is absolutely no shame in seeking proffessional help. The most interesting people are those that have or have had tons of therapy ;)
- Express yourself. Doesnt matter how, find what suits you; writing, painting, acting, dancing, talking, photography, singing, whatever.
( People Ive learned from; Kirsten Neff, Steven Hayes, Jon Kabat Zinn, Elizabeth Wurtzel, Russ Harris, Marsha Linehan, Rick Hanson, Jack Kornfield, Christopher Germer, Eckhart Tolle, Byron Katie, Dalai Lama, Augusten burroughs, Ruby Wax, Stephen Fry, Andrew Solomon, Ajahn Brahm and many others).

[tea rose]

Advice on how to deal with depression from a fellow sufferer;
- Find a balance between acceptance and not giving up.
- Allow yourself to be lazy, to sleep, to just hang but dont wallow, eat, take your meds, talk to your friends, keep your house and yourself clean.
- Practice mindfulness/meditation.
- Read, read, read and then read some more good books on things like selfcompassion, acceptance, mindfulness etc. Alternatively if youre not into reading, get an audiobook, check out youtube vids or sign up for a course of your choosing.
- Practice, try out coping skills and stick to what works for you.
- Be gratefull, even in the darkest night there is beauty. Take note of it!
- Remember that one step is more then no steps, so applaud yourself for every little thing you manage. Set only small goals, the rest will follow naturally in time.
- Dump unsupportive friends and cherish the good ones. Invest in them, do not shut them out. If you dont want to talk ask how they are. If you lack friends join a club of your choosing even if it is "only" online.
- Fuel your passions, feed them. If you do not know what your passion is search for it, what interests you, what did you like as a kid, try out things.
- Give your time to a good cause, find a cause that speaks to you and somehow contribute. You have worth and you can do good in this world.
- Practice (self) compassion like your life depends on it, it actually does! Learn to give yourself what you need.
- Listen to your gut. Do not be afraid to set bounderies, be your own advocate, protector. This is your job. If you dont no one else will, youll lose yourself and there is nothing more depressing then that.
- If you love animals consider getting a pet, they can be very therapeutic.
- There is absolutely no shame in seeking proffessional help. The most interesting people are those that have or have had tons of therapy
- Express yourself. Doesnt matter how, find what suits you; writing, painting, acting, dancing, talking, photography, singing, whatever.
( People Ive learned from; Kirsten Neff, Steven Hayes, Jon Kabat Zinn, Elizabeth Wurtzel, Russ Harris, Marsha Linehan, Rick Hanson, Jack Kornfield, Christopher Germer, Eckhart Tolle, Byron Katie, Dalai Lama, Augusten burroughs, Ruby Wax, Stephen Fry, Andrew Solomon, Ajahn Brahm and many others).

Thank you so much. I suffer from depression too and I'll be saving this ^^

[sillies]

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[HomicidalBeanbag<3]

Hi, this is going to be long, but I really need some advice. Also, I’ve never posted on a thread like this before, so I’m terribly sorry if I did something incorrectly. Anyways, I’m a fairly young furry; I’ve been in the fandom for quite awhile. When I first joined the fandom, I really wasn’t at my best state of mind (I was in two toxic friendships at the time, so that took a toll on me.) After toxic “friend” A and I had a fallout, I put the fandom in the back of my mind because I was extremely upset about what happened. I got back into it again after I healed, until my other toxic “friend” B and I had gotten into a relationship (and later broke up, thank goodness), then that sent me into a downward spiral, and I wasn’t really into anything after that. I was simply depressed and didn’t have much to do.

My mom and I weren’t close when I was with my toxic friend and toxic ex. I always annoyed her when I talked about fursuits and the fandom (which, I agree, I talked about it too much.) So, she’s never favored furries because of what I did when I was younger. Though, I’m at a much better state of mind, and I just told her that I believe I’m a furry again.

We fought about it last night; she told me it’s not a smart thing to be into, and that you shouldn’t waste money on a fursuit, and that I wouldn’t be getting a suit under her roof.

So, now to my question. Do you guys think I should stay in the fandom, and simply wait to get a suit and be out about being a furry when I’m out of the house, OR should I leave the fandom? I really don’t want to leave the fandom, but I love my mom, and she and I are very close, so I want to make her happy—but I also need to make myself happy, too. What should I do?

[‘’’]

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[fiirstcrush]

akkskhhk my friend just got his pc from his home and has it set up at his college and uh I texted him asking him how is he doing cause i really missed him, he literally was my friend when i had none =w= and i kinda got completely ignored and i want to wheeze cause now i feel really bad for bothering him probably