Crushes, Boyfriends, and Girlfriends | V4

[thunderofthedrum]

Okay, thanks for the advice! :3 Just one sad thing is, I don't think my crush likes me. ;-;

You said you love your boyfriend. Why is this sad? xD
You were worried about being a cheater and now that you can't be classified as one, you are worrying about this other dude's feelings towards you.
Don't act on it until things are finished with your other boyfriend for good. You don't want to be labeled as a cheater or a player.

Yeah, but I'm a teenager/thing >w< MEEEEEEER! I wanna be little again so I wasn't like this. *Sigh* I don't even understand myself...

Uh... so? I don't understand. What does your age have to do with anything?

And it's totally possible (common, even) to have feelings for multiple people. And since each person is different, it's hard to truly 'measure' who you like more because you like different bits of each person. For example, I liked that my ex didn't smoke but on the other hand he got weird when he drank and he was terrible at communication, but he would always try to pay for me. My boyfriend smokes and is often broke, but he's a nice drunk and much much better at communication (it's him that brings up the 'us' talks, not me!). There is also the issue of experience - ex had very little, boyfriend has a lot, but each way has its good and bad parts to it.

But yeah, still baffled as to why your age matters about cheating or having feelings for someone other than your boyfriend.

[kafka]

Uh... so? I don't understand. What does your age have to do with anything?

And it's totally possible (common, even) to have feelings for multiple people. And since each person is different, it's hard to truly 'measure' who you like more because you like different bits of each person. For example, I liked that my ex didn't smoke but on the other hand he got weird when he drank and he was terrible at communication, but he would always try to pay for me. My boyfriend smokes and is often broke, but he's a nice drunk and much much better at communication (it's him that brings up the 'us' talks, not me!). There is also the issue of experience - ex had very little, boyfriend has a lot, but each way has its good and bad parts to it.

But yeah, still baffled as to why your age matters about cheating or having feelings for someone other than your boyfriend.

I think they mean that when we were kids, we didn't have to deal with relationship problems and love. It was just easier, you know? :3

[Thomas Hickey]

Ok i need some serious advice.

There is a guy I like but he is not interested in me he ignores me. its been a full year know since I have had this crush I no longer work with him and hardly see him at all just once or twice when I work a week. I can't get him out of my head it is frustrating.
Any tips or advice how to get a guy your crushing on hard out of your head?

[bless the vic]

Ok i need some serious advice.

There is a guy I like but he is not interested in me he ignores me. its been a full year know since I have had this crush I no longer work with him and hardly see him at all just once or twice when I work a week. I can't get him out of my head it is frustrating.
Any tips or advice how to get a guy your crushing on hard out of your head?

Don't worry !
The best way is just enjoy yourself and do stuff to get him out of your mind. OR you could look for a guy who likes you and crush on them ? Trust me, if ignores you, he is not very nice and you deserve better.

[Thomas Hickey]

Ok i need some serious advice.

There is a guy I like but he is not interested in me he ignores me. its been a full year know since I have had this crush I no longer work with him and hardly see him at all just once or twice when I work a week. I can't get him out of my head it is frustrating.
Any tips or advice how to get a guy your crushing on hard out of your head?

Don't worry !
The best way is just enjoy yourself and do stuff to get him out of your mind. OR you could look for a guy who likes you and crush on them ? Trust me, if ignores you, he is not very nice and you deserve better.

ok thanks

[northern downpour ;;]

I have a crush on my cat

Umm...what?

My thoughts exactly... o_O I'm hoping this is a troll...

[Vampyrum Spectrum]

Hey -again- guys. I'm here with yet another update on my situation.

My ex boyfriend told my friend H while she was over at my house for a sleepover via text what the answer I was searching and hurting over finally was. He still seems like he believes there is some likeliness we could get back together (implied on how he worded things and what he said before) and both me and H are convinced he did not cheat on me or anything. Well, what he told H is that 'he doesn't want to be in a relationship if I can't trust him'

Suddenly, everything clicked. I had become increasingly paranoid about the girl that was -and is- making the moves on him as well as other things. I of course told him this while we were still together. The same day he broke up with me in the morning actually, I remember mentioning it, but he seemed to have planned it from the night before anyway. Maybe it's just my love-sick mind thinking it perfectly fits, but I think it helped me finally gain the right perspective.

I have decided at this point that I want him back. I'm not going to force it on him, of course, just try to gain our closeness back--and show that I can and do trust him and won't be paranoid like that again. After all, my paranoia was mostly self-inflicted so I can change and help with it in time. I just need to show him this. We already made our peace. I apologized for not seeing it before and for the paranoia and mistrust in the first place and now I have a plan I'm going through to help distract myself from missing him, but at the same time gain our closeness back. Even if we don't get back together, our friendship and closeness will be healed as well as the trust.

Some of you may think I'm crazy (like my friend H who thinks I should just move on, but I say--not yet!) but he did not just stop loving me. We were both getting irritable with each other because the trust thing was stressing both of us out though it was technically all me. I know I can't decide what he wants or if he'd be happy with me again, but when you have been in love with someone and it wavers for some reason, it can always likely be brought back with tenderness and care from the opposite person. If I can fix and mend this, we'll both be happy; and it's only up to him if it's as friends or more than friends.

[Thomas Hickey]

Turns out the guy I was crushing on is very very raciest to people not Japanese so yeah not happening ever ( thank you brother D)

[talos]

Just gonna kinda keep this thread here uvu Sorry if this is spam or what ever

But I really do like htis one girl, she knows I like her...but she does not like me back because she is does not like girls, but, she used to, and I don't know I really have no idea

[Keletheryl]

So.. I recently erm, well, it's not really a relationship but it's like.. dating stages. Anyways, so I recently got into a 'dating stage' with this guy, and oh my lord it is much different than I thought it would be. He's my first everything, my first date, my first kiss, etc. And he's 3 years older than me... here comes the problem.

I'm still in school, two years left before I leave. And he just graduated, so in a year or two he'll be going off to college. My guy friend said it would work because he lives like, two blocks from me but I'm a little worried.
Also I wanted my guy friend to see him for himself because his 'dating stage' girl (my other friend as well) keeps telling him bad things about my guy, and I don't know why she's doing this?