Crushes, Boyfriends, and Girlfriends | V4

[forecast]

ooh we're having alot of "he" on this thread

well, i'm bi, blah blah. i have some crush on this girl, she's really sweet and whatnot.

but she's straight, everyone in my class is. if i admit my feelings i'll most likely get bashed //shot//

what do i do, i can't get over her.

[thє dσctσr]

Hai guys. Wow, I haven't been on cs in a while.

But, yet again I need advice.

I've been dating my boyfriend for a little over a month now. Things have been good, up until a ton of girls have been messaging him. And theres one who hes always trying to hangout with, and from past events, I know she's not the one to "respect" him having a girlfriend.

He knows this.

He's always trying to hangout with other girls and never really wants to be with me anymore. I dont really understand.

I have really strong feelings for him, and he doesnt seem interested with us being a couple. I don't know if I should just ignore it, or what.

[Refugee]

@Oliver Sykes: No, you shouldn't ignore it. Address your concerns to him. And if he doesn't give a crap, or throws a fit about you being "jealous" you should leave him. You deserve a guy that actually cares about you. Hope this helps, and if you need any tips on what to say, feel free to ask me!

My problem: Whenever I ask out a guy, it always goes wrong. Granted, I used notes most of the time, and the guy would always think either 1) it's a joke or 2) they forget about it.

Last time I asked out a guy, it was over text, and that went over better. But still, he wasn't interested. But he's my best friend, I think he wants us to stay close and not break up and ruin our friendship.

So next guy that comes my way, should I even bother to ask him or wait indefinitely until he does? 'Cause I mean, no guy I've really liked asked me out, and I'm a bit impatient.... so what should I do?

[Pikmin12]

Alright two things:

Número uno: There is this guy I have liked for about four months, including summer. Usually over summer I lose interest, but this time I didn't. I would like to be friends with him, except I am not that great at making friends, and his group of friends are slightly antisocial. I am very shy and uncomfortable at times, the type that feezes like a deer in headlights when nervous or uncomfortable. Then there is the side of me when I am in a group of people in my grade. I get uncontrollable and annoying. I don't think before I speak and I offend a lot of people. Bu it's only when I'm with my grade, otherwise I'm pretty quiet and antisocial. How should I try to befriend him? We are in different grades...

Problem Number Two: I knew this guy, a great guy, we became friends in seventh grade and in eighth grade we were inseparatable. He got a girlfriend in eight grade and we still remained good friends even though I didn't really get along with her. Then they broke up and he began to crush on me. I liked him as well, yet I wasn't ready for a boyfriend. He got upset bu we still remained friends. He asked out a couple other girls but in the end they decided to remain friends. He went through a depressive phase where he hated everyone and everything, including myself. I was devastated he was like this, but he wouldn't let me talk to him. Then he began hanging out with a bunch of girls in the winter musical group. He and them hung out a lot at the practices and they became extremely good friends. Now, these were very nice girls, they can be very GIRLY at times, but overall they are good people. They fawned over my friend, and he lapped it up. He acted more sensitive than he was and like he was all alone. Which increased the girls pity for him. "Oh ____! You're so sensitive!" Was what they typically said. They followed him around, similiar to a harem, which many people started to call it. He now acts like a loner around me and his old friends, and social around "his girls". Has anyone encountered this or know what to do to make him to snap out of it, or is there nothing I can do?

[Sorophora]

eh...i had a crush on this kid from my art class last year...i still sort of do, just a little.

[Cosmi]

Finally somewhere I can talk about my felling ^_^

Ok well my problem : I have a crush on this very alethic guys but here I am, one of the anime nerds. I really like him but I'm just to shy to ever ask anyone really and well... I cant ask him out the main problem is my parents, they don't want me to date till like.. sophomore year which kind of defeats me when it comes to my crush. I also know this one guy, he's a total nerd like me even watches doctor who but I drought any of the two will ever ask me out, even if they do my parents wont allow it. I mean, parents are stubborn never letting you do anything. Well.. hopefully I can talk out more of my felling's later.

[bast,]

Zelda; Well, there's several things I could respond with to this, so I'll just go through all of them. It's normally a good rule of thumb to be certain this boy likes you before you ask him out. Partly because rejection hurts, but also because if word goes around at school that you're asking a new boy out every week, people won't want to date you because they'll think you get bored too easily, and that you'll move on almost immediately. Also, depending on the boy, some prefer to be the one to ask out the girl, so they can feel all tough and manly. cx But, some might be too shy. It all depends on the guy, which is why you should really get to know them first. With all of my crushes and boyfriends, they're my best friend first. c: It normally turns out pretty well. It also shows you better to your crush, so they feel more comfortable around you.

Healing; Okay, starting with number one first. Well, it depends on how your school is set up. Do you have a locker near him? Do you have any mixed grade classes together? Do all grades eat lunch together? Just try and get near him to strike up a conversation. Don't be to creepy about it though, waiting around every corner for him or appearing out of nowhere. If he has a class near yours, wait outside it and say that you were passing by and you thought you could wait for him to walk to your next class together. Just simple things. Don't go out of your way to run into him either, or he'll know somethings up.
Now on to number two. This one is slightly easier to answer. I would just let your friend be. Forcing somebody into a group of friends they don't want to be in is just rude. If he's moved onto new friends, it's just probably better to accept it and move on with your own life. From the way you worded it, it sounds like this happened a year ago, maybe two? By trying to get him back as a friend now you might come off as creepy and clingy, even though those other girls seem to be. At this point I would just let it be, and if he comes back to you, tell him that is hurt when he dumped you as a friend for those other girls.

Soro; Well do you have any classes with him this year? Or any clubs you two could both be in?

Sailor; Well, if there's one thing you don't want to do, it's go around your parents. If they find out that you're secretly dating someone, you'll betray their trust and it'll take a while to build it up again. Also, never doubt love. c: At one point two years ago I had a crush on one of my friends (before we were best friends, we were just locker buddies). I didn't know until about a month ago, but at that same time he had a crush on me, and I'm a huge nerd. But, as I said before, if you're not allowed to date then it's not a good idea to go falling head over heals for someone. It'll only hurt you more in the end, sorry to say.

[Pikmin12]

Thanks! Lunches have all grades and I am taking some classes for grades above me. I believe I may have one of those with him! With my friend, I do think you're right, I guess I was being slightly clingy to him now that I think back to the year. Oh, and it was last year, in freshmen year that it happened.

[izzydrink]

I have a crush...
He doesn't seen to notice me though...

[Dia.]

Oliver Sykes - Definitely talk to him about it. If you want your relationship to last more than a month or so. My friend was in a similar situation and it did end with her breaking up with him because she found him cheating.

Zelda - Do it in person. It's always best, even if it's embarrassing.

Marta - If you don't like something, change it. ^^ He's not going to notice you unless you try to get to know him.

And I actually have a problem for this thread...
My dad walked downstairs while me and boyfriend were 'kissing' goodnight before he went home. It was the first time he's seen us kiss for the nearly 8 months we've been dating. And it was more than a simple kiss...
Boyfriend is now super embarrassed. >.>