by Akele » Fri Apr 19, 2013 5:34 am
Dear you-know-who,
I know you're frustrated with your mom and sister, since last night on the phone they were being stupid. I know they can be a pain in your rear end. But when you say things like "it makes me not want to move anymore, because at least I have my best friend here, who supports me" makes me feel really hurt and insulted.
The plan for the past three years has been to move to a state where we could get married. It's all you've been able to talk about. About how we'll do this and we'll do that once we are married. And how we can adopt kids. And start our life together, as a married couple.
So...Because your mom's being neurotic tonight you suddenly don't think it's worth your time to move to one of the only places we can legally be married? Because 'it might not be worth the effort?'
I'm not worth the effort? Marrying me is such an effort? Having a family together is such a waste of time? :C
I know you don't mean it that way. I know that's not what you mean. You're just blowing off steam. But, it does kind of hurt when you say things like that. Same with the "I'll just move halfway across the country away and do everything by mysef." I know the 'by myself' part actually includes me. What you're upset about, is the fact your parents aren't lifting a finger to help us. I get it.
But...still. You know us moving up the coast means I'm leaving all of my friends and my entire family behind too? But it's so worth it, because we can finally get married, and have the opportunity to adopt kids, rights and abilities that we just don't have down here. Plus, it's not like my family's supportive of us anyway. I'm so excited about our move, our upcoming marriage, about our babies we don't even know about yet. So, I guess...to hear you less-than-excited about it makes me sad. Don't let your mom's occasional negativity ruin your hopes and aspirations.
I love you, and I'm sorry you're frustrated. :C
- yours truly