King Kakashi"[quote="Kisiel wrote:So I've been dating this guy for a few months now but we've kept it to ourselves with the exception of one mutual friend who's in on this whole thing. I feel like it's a bit weird keeping it a secret but also don't feel 100% comfortable telling people we're together. I thought about it at work the other day when someone asked what my plans were for the evening and I just said "oh just hanging out with a friend"where really my honest answer should have been "I'm seeing my boyfriend tonight." It just sounds so odd in my head though. It's like I can't even say it?
I was in a long term relationship before and never really called him my boyfriend - he was always my partner for as long as I can remember. Even after we broke up I always referred to him, and still do, as my ex-partner, not my ex-boyfriend. Don't really know what I'm getting at here, but if you guys have some thoughts please let me know because my poor old brain is just completely overloaded.
- Why are you keeping it to yourselves? Honestly, it's not healthy to keep a relationship hidden. You also can call him your partner and not your boyfriend, that is totally fine and there is nothing wrong with that.
Seconded.
Bunllie wrote:I'm going to try to keep this as brief as possible. But I find myself being not able to trust myself in giving myself a chance to like this person and that it's okay. We had started off as friends and we still are but I started to develop feelings for them. So much it's lasted for 2 years and it's still strong. I have never met such a caring person in my life and perhaps that is why I grew to like them so much. Many of my friends have told me to "move on" if I can't bring myself to confess after all this time. The thing is my crush (not sure if I should really call it a crush anymore for how long the feelings have stayed around.) had a death in the family the past year and has been having trouble getting past it. I felt that it would be inappropriate to say anything given to how sensitive their feelings may be right now. I am really in a bind about what I should do to move forward.
It sounds like you've got a pattern of making excuses to avoid confessing your feelings. Maybe you should look at why that is. Why don't you want to confess your feelings, especially when they've persisted so long?