TheComfortCorner | V.10

[pigeon.enthusiast]

I have my midterm today ouuughhh god last year this midterm killed me I can do it though I really hope I don't flop

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[mushroomish]

I am super nervous
I *finally* got an interview for a waitressing job I applied for but I have no idea how interviews work or what type of questions I'm going to be asked. Only thing I know is that I have to pretend to be confident which is going to be tough 😭 I know my brain is going to go blank the second I am asked a question so i want to write thing out and memorize them to give me a better chance at appearing confident
Ahhhhhh i am so scared but i have been waiting for this job since june and it's going to be so good to have
I also don't know what to wear or if I should try wear a little bit of makeup??? Idk but I am overthinking everything 😭
It's tomorrow at 8am so I have to figure things out today
If anyone has tips or advice it would be very very appreciated <3

Congratulations on getting an interview, that's great! It's normal to be nervous, especially since you're going into these questions blind. Luckily, a lot of interviewers tend to be looking for similar things, even if the questions vary a bit, so you can pre-plan a little. I'll go through everything

What to wear:

You want to look clean, smart and presentable. Choose clean, plain clothes, and iron them if you can as well. For interviews I typically just wear a plain button up shirt tucked into black trousers, and a plain, dark pair of shoes.

If you have long hair, I would suggest pinning it back, as this can read as more professional. Up to you whether you wear makeup, but keep it basic if you do.

Behaviour in the interview

I personally arrive 5-10 minutes early. It shows that you are punctual, and also means you have time to get where you need to be in case you have any issues finding the interview space.
Remember to introduce yourself, and to thank them for their time at the end.
Smile, look engaged when they're speaking by making eye contact and nodding along. They may also ask you if you have any questions at the end, I suggest having a couple pre-prepared, as this helps you express your interest in the role. Some examples you could ask your interviewer - What's the team like? What's your favourite part of working here? Are there opportunities to grow? (if you're looking to move up the chain of command)

Interview questions:

If you still have the job ad saved that you responded to, I highly suggest reading it again as this will help you predict what they may ask. In the interview they'll be looking for evidence that you meet what they're looking for. eg. If the job ad says 'Looking for a teamplayer with strong people skills', they will probably ask you something like: give examples of working in a team, examples of how you solve problems, or what good customer service means to you.

More generally, I would think about these things:
- Why do you want to work there? *This is really important, as most interviewers will ask this. Doing a little research on the business and their values is a great way to show interest.
- A time you've given/received great customer service.
- Examples of time management and organisational skills.
- Examples of working well as part of a team.
- Examples of times you've faced a problem and successfully resolved it.
- 3 of your strengths, with examples.
- What's your biggest weakness? I really dislike this question, but it can come up. It's important to always make a negative into a positive, you don't want to say something that makes you unsuitable for the job! For example, you could say something like 'In the past my biggest weakness was my organisation, as this doesn't come naturally to me. In order to address this, I keep a daily schedule where I list my tasks in order of priority, which keeps me on track.'

I hope this helps! You might want to try googling hospitality interview questions too, as this will give you an idea of what to expect. Best of luck for tomorrow, I hope you smash it!

[Soy Sauce]

I got my wisdom teeth out. It hurts so bad. Also apparently I had a cyst on my uterus and the anesthesia caused it to rupture. Worst pain of my entire life.

[Ch!cken]

i feel so stressed right now and i don't even know why?? ever since i got my official ocd diagnosis last week it feels like i've just been slowing losing my grip, my chest has been tight and i've been crying so much, my school situation is same as the usual for the end of a semester, am i finally just burning out or maybe its just a rough patch this week? i hope its just for this week.

[orikami]

3 years ago i met a guy. i was in a very dark place and he made me feel happy. we ended up dating just a week? two weeks? after meeting. tons of stuff happened in the beginning, there were a lot of red flags i just ignored in favor of these new feelings (first relationship and first time ever getting that kind of lovey attention). i was made to feel like the bad guy over very basic human things. if i hung out with my friends it was non stop texts from him, and even him saying "so you'd rather spend your time with [x]?" when no its not "rather" i just want to see my friend!! every time i'd even try to spend time with them i was instantly guilt tripped.there are more red flags but theres just a lot and i think they can't be said on cs.. but this ended up with him and my friends not getting along. he gave me an ultimatum. i chose him, and suddenly other than him, i was very alone. i still had some online friends, but i was isolated from them, too. more things ended up happening and i felt like i had nothing left tying me home and no other options, so i moved out of state to be with him... just 5 months after meeting him. i clearly remember him saying "most couples move in around this time" but i no longer know if its true. it's like after that, his interest in me kept slowly dwindling. he doesnt want to spend as much time with me anymore, despite demanding all my time previously. now it's more like half an hour to an hour of time every night. he gets angry with me easily. raises his voice at me when i'm upset. has this weird power dynamic towards me because he's older.

anyways.... now, i'm honestly just miserable. i feel like i'm at a standstill in life and i really don't know what to do. he doesn't treat me the same anymore, he can spend 4-8 hours straight with his best friend, then i'm sitting here considering myself lucky if i get 2. i'm tired of being yelled at. im tired of small and stupid arguments. im tired of us being unable to talk to each other like we did before. we used to talk so much. now its just weird with lack of response on both sides... he never knows how to reply to me anymore, and i don't know how to reply to his long winded league explanations because i just cannot find interest in LoL or very technical things. i feel like at some point he just began caring less while i still care for him so deeply. im just. im stuck. i find myself wanting to go back home, but i ruined things with my friends (i got them back after a long 2 year battle with him but it isn't the same :\), i don't know who i am anymore, and i'm literally drowning in debt. the job i have right now is cozy and keeps me mostly afloat, but if i go back, i wont be able to find that. i'm genuinely just locked here.

and on top of all that. i still love him so dearly. despite what hes done, despite the genuine meanness he gives me, despite his mocking, despite his refusal to spend time with me, despite his control, and despite his seemingly lessening care towards me. i still love him. and i hate myself for it. i want to care less so im not so hurt by these things, because when he is not being these things, he makes me so happy unlike anyone else ever has. and that is part of what makes it so hard to return home. its going to hurt me either way.
1. i stay and remain miserable, keep crying every day, and progressivley get worse. BUT i get to keep him, keep my job and stay financially stable, and continue on with my "normal" life. probably go to therapy to try and keep some sanity.
2. i leave and feel happy to see my parents and friends again, but i lose him, which will make me miss him severely knowing that i will never have contact with him ever again. and then i file bankruptcy because there will be nothing else that i can do, unless i miraculously find a job in my home town that pays enough.

anyways. yeah. thats my situation. i obviously didnt explain all of it lol... things get pretty bad. i feel hurt so often. im not a saint either but i dont yell at him and i dont talk down to him like hes beneath me, or rub his face in the dirt when hes already down. i just dont know what to do. i dont know my place in life. its eating me up and i am genuinely drowning at this point. im scared for my future and i dont want to keep feeling like this.

if anyone wants to pm me about this (or just reply here) i would actually really just appreciate an ear to talk to or some comfort. ;w;

[Clover_wolf]

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That sounds really tough but what I think?
You need to break up. While I know this is tough, its probably for the greater good, he's toxic, he's raising his voice at you and he's not letting you see most people. Its a major red flag. I know that it might hurt and you'll miss him. But trust me its for the greater good. Your miserable. You say that so, go home. However with also the job finding that must suck. What I suggest is maybe just research for nearby jobs before you go back. Try and and do somethings before going back (if you do.) You sound really tied up with this. You didn't even explain all of it and its still worrying. Life is hard these days.
I'm so glad that you got your friends back even if it isn't the same.
Trust me on this, that eventually your relationship will most likely get worse. I know its hard but if he's yelling and doing all that crap he isn't the one. It could get worse.
I think one of the reasons you haven't is of course because you love him but you also are trying to ignore the bad things about him. (Just assuming correct me if I'm wrong.) And looking on the greater side.
They're are plenty of people who I'm sure would agree with me.
I know its hard but I'm sure things can get better, you don't have to listen to me as its your life but I suggest this. He's a major red flag in my book.
Its going to be hard, but many people can help.
If you really need, maybe talk a bit about how you feel with him.
If you don't feel comfortable or don't trust in him as a venting support that's also a major red flag. Partners should be able to trust each-other.
Of course, saying again its your life. I won't tell you how to live it, but he doesn't sound the best, I wish you luck on whatever you do!
If you wanna talk more, feel free to PM me about it

[Neeko nordestina]

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[demodog]

im so so tired. im tired of being worried, im tired of feeling stressed over tiny things, paranoid- i suspect i have ocd and its bothering me. I cant get diagnosed it'll ruin so much. its so rough, they dont understand. they think i can stop this, no. no i cant. god i wish i could. nobody wants to listen, nobody wants to help.
I am truly, alone.
No matter what anyone else says, i am alone.

having a awful mental state for mental health day is such a pathetic feeling. just this once i should be happy, im doing so well.
but i cant bring myself to feel that way when im stressed.
but i'll end this on a good note, i know if i keep trying everything will get better. with time, love and patience everything heals. i'll find peace with myself and others. i just need to give it time ❤️ it'll all be okay.

[♥ mizu]

god i love Reflecting in The Comfort Corner Time. it's the best part of the day

ok but actually. life has been so tough recently, dad's been chronically angry. but i want to focus on the positives rn

my friend [jenny] has been having it really rough with boys recently. they all really like her, and she doesn't return those feelings. she's very sentimental and stuck on another boy - she says her heart is "locked".

i've noticed her acting distant recently. today, she called me over to her. she asked me to be completely honest and tell her if she was a good friend and if she could be a good lover. she wanted me to tell her her flaws - and i did. it can be really difficult to express such intimate feelings, because we don't share a mother tongue. we used the deepL translator because it's most effective. anyway.

we had a bit of back and forthing, it was really emotional for her because that boy really hurt her. but i think we really connected. and that says a lot, i think. i absolutely love the feeling of connecting with people. it's such a human thing, when you notice them mirroring your body movements or you see the look in their eyes.

but it felt different at that moment. it's not often i can connect so deeply with non-native english speakers because they aren't really taught the vocabulary for those types of discussions. i've noticed it seems to be especially difficult for her to express hypothetical situations, which makes me wonder if talking about those things is (grammatically) different in chinese, sort of like how pronouns are different.

regardless, there was something so incredibly beautiful about when she was reading my translation. she saw one of my responses and her eyes went absolutely wide. this sounds so corny but i watched as something dawned on her. she was like, "THIS. THIS IS EXACTLY IT. these are the perfect words!! now it all makes sense! i understand!!!" and she got so excited that she took a picture of the translation lol. and that just warmed my heart so much guys. there is something SO satisfying about connecting with somebody so entirely different from you, linguistically.

we are all human and i just think that's so beautiful. we all have human experiences. we all feel love and connection. i just wish everybody got to experience this, you know?

but then! i was comforting her. and she looked at me, and she said, "mizu, i really want to kiss you right now" and giggled and i was like "i want to kiss you too!" because i did. so i kissed her hair and she kissed my cheek. and maybe that sounds weird, but i truly think it was platonic. i didn't feel anything but love for her, and i just had to express it like that. i would NEVER kiss her lips lol but like kissing her head was so lovely. maybe this sounds creepy but, i'm glad we did. because sometimes i really want to kiss my friends, just like how i often want to hug them. i just want to hold them in my arms and kiss their head so gently and stroke their hair sometimes. and i'm glad i'm not alone. it was so beautiful. it was so beautiful to connect with somebody so deeply and to truly feel like they connected with me, too. to have somebody tell me they wanted to express that love to me, too. i love you, jenny. :)