by Caela » Sun Jul 27, 2014 11:04 am
I promised myself I wouldn't come here to rant but here I am, and I'm ranting.
I'm not the kind of person to share my emotions, but I've recently felt a greater need tell them to someone. Why? Because of art. I love drawing, it's basically my life, but it's also the reason that I'm so easily depressed. I can't beleive any of the compliments that my friends give me about my art. There was a time that I would have loved to hear that kind of thing and would have let it go to my head. I figured out that my art wasn't very good because I never practiced. The art of one of my classmates started getting more attention than mine and soon my artwork was ignored. That was 14 or 15 months ago. After that I was dedicated to improving and I spent much of my time drawing. When I got back to school after the summer, people forgot my classmate's art and started loving mine. I had improved over the summer though and when I looked back in what people once called good, I saw it for what it really was. A naive child's pathetic attempts at drawing. That caused me to start thinking that all my art was bad, my logic being that people praised my art when I was 9 (random number lol) to encourage me, so now they were doing the same thing. I trained myself to ignore compliments any way I could. I'm not trying to brag, but my self-disiplinary abilities are pretty good. I ended up being unable to take a compliment. I just can't force myself to believe them unless it's from a person whom I don't know. So unless the person giving me the praise has no reason (such as friendship or being a commissioner) to be doing so, I won't believe it. However I don't react this way to people on CS (unless they are a commissioner commenting on the piece I made for them) because they have no reason to comment. Even friends have no obligation to praise me on my work. The only exception to these statements is if I show the piece to them instead if letting them find the art themselves. I don't know how much of that made sense, but at least I tried. XD
I try to respond to every PM I receive and reply to every comment on my art, but I can't always do those things. Still, I never just ignore a PM. I'll read and respond to it if there's enough information to continue the conversation or I'll try to start a new conversation if there isn't. I'll take time out of my day to respond to comments and I'll put thought into what I say, trying my best to sound sincere. I'll go out of my way to be helpful or or add extra information to something and sometimes I'm never thanked. It's hard to act cheery when your not or be helpful when no one bothers to let you know that it means something. There was one commission that I did and the commissioner never bothered to thank me. I know they saw the picture, I put an image of it and a link in a PM to them. That hurt a lot, especially since I had started to develop a friendship with the user. I know how good it feels when an artist personally and individually responds to a comment I give them. Some artists just say "thanks guyz!!!" and call that a response. It's a response, sure, but it doesn't show an appreciation for the compliments that that they were given. It's what someone does when they can't be bothered to spend more than 3 seconds on a reply. And now I'm going to change the topic because this is bound to hurt someone's feeling. In a way that was the intention, but it I continue I might hurt their feelings in a manner that isn't constructive.
I've also experienced a lot of stress because of ccommissions. I often get anxiety stomachaches because I'm so worried about the outcome of a commission. I'm afraid to say no to a payment someone offers me if it's too small. I don't know why, I just am. I don't want to disappoint anyone so I spend large amounts of time on what I do. I once spent 16 hours on something only to have the commission canceled just before finishing. That kind of thing I'd what makes me reluctant to take commissions.
I don't know why I wrote this, I guess I just felt more depressed than usual.
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Caela on Sun Apr 05, 2015 2:12 pm, edited 1 time in total.
I swear I'm not a middle schooler.
For real.
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Do I ever do things in a timely matter?
I'll get back to you on that.
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I love:
languages ♥ violin ♥ guitar ♥ piano
16th - 18th century ships
quietly mourning the decline of the Irish language