Crushes, Boyfriends, and Girlfriends

[anarchy, inc.]

Is this the first time you've mentioned A, Cali?

[CaliDutchess]

@WithWhiteWolves- I'm not sure. If I've mentioned him before, it's only been once and over nothing big. Today is really the first time something more than friendship has happened, but it's also the first day we've actually hung out as friends.

[anarchy, inc.]

Maybe you two should hang out more first, then.

[lolster15]

Help!! The guy I like and I used to go out, ages ago, but it didn't really work out. We're mates again now, but every so often when we're hanging out in class someone else will bring it up in a really awkward way. Which makes me go red and him go red and usually walk off somewhere else. How on earth do I get those idiots to stop talking about it?

On the bright side he said he likes my hair down XD

[Midnight Star.]

I need help again xD
How am I supposed to get my crush's number? Should I a) ask one of his friends straight You're joking; I'm too shy to do that xD
b) Ask one of his friends via FB all the number of people he knows, and maybe he'll have my crush's number?
c) Wait till my crush gets online and ask him? He almost never gets online
One of his friends are online now; should I put plan B into action; or are there any other ways that you guys have?

[dozy]

I have a slight dilemma with a boy ;;
Now, first of all, I do not like him in that way. I love him in a brotherly way. He's my friend, my "brother". He, however, has loved me romantically for just over a year. I'll name him R.

I've had five people try to persuade me to go out with him, but I've said no to them all. First was one of my friends when the rumour went around, then some of his friends who had taken it on themselves.
One of his friends came around yesterday - and spent four hours failing to persuade me.
First of all, I asked him what R saw in me. He didn't know, but made a guess.
"You have a nice figure, you don't take s**t from anyone, you are nice, you are unique and talented, but you are odd too. You are one of a kind, Cae."
He then phoned R, and R said
"She's kind, reliable and beautiful, and I'm always smiling when I am around her." He then asked his friend to ask if there was anything I liked in him. I said that I thought he was reliable and he lets me eat his food. (I am a rather ditzy person XD)
His friend, said that I should date him as a trial run and if I don't like him, dump him. I said that would hurt more than outrightly rejecting him. We debated for a while, and then he said to me.
"I don't really care to be honest, it's just that I am the one picking up the pieces."
I knew that he did care, but I just can't date R.
We're all going out tomorrow as friends...
on Wednesday, R's going to be told the news. He won't talk to me.

*sigh*
This is my best friend of six years.
I told him I don't want a lover.

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I have a slight dilemma with a boy ;;
Now, first of all, I do not like him in that way. I love him in a brotherly way. He's my friend, my "brother". He, however, has loved me romantically for just over a year. I'll name him R.

I've had five people try to persuade me to go out with him, but I've said no to them all. First was one of my friends when the rumour went around, then some of his friends who had taken it on themselves.
One of his friends came around yesterday - and spent four hours failing to persuade me.
First of all, I asked him what R saw in me. He didn't know, but made a guess.
"You have a nice figure, you don't take s**t from anyone, you are nice, you are unique and talented, but you are odd too. You are one of a kind, Cae."
He then phoned R, and R said
"She's kind, reliable and beautiful, and I'm always smiling when I am around her." He then asked his friend to ask if there was anything I liked in him. I said that I thought he was reliable and he lets me eat his food. (I am a rather ditzy person XD)
His friend, said that I should date him as a trial run and if I don't like him, dump him. I said that would hurt more than outrightly rejecting him. We debated for a while, and then he said to me.
"I don't really care to be honest, it's just that I am the one picking up the pieces."
I knew that he did care, but I just can't date R.
We're all going out tomorrow as friends...
on Wednesday, R's going to be told the news. He won't talk to me.

*sigh*
This is my best friend of six years.
I told him I don't want a lover.

It's a good idea to tell him that you don't feel the same way than doing the trial run, it'll just make the situation complicated and in my opinion, annoying. I have a friend of mine who faced a similar relationship issue like this, who made the wrong decision by dating him for six+ months even though she didn't like him and ended up facing an unpleasant ending for both of them.

Yes, you'll probably lose him since he's going to need some time to be alone and to move on, but getting rejected isn't as painful as getting dumped nor will it last very long.

That's only my opinion though so I suggest you to wait for someone who is more experienced when it comes to dating and give you a better advice then mine. But I do wish you good luck and hopefully he will agree to continue to be your best friend.

[dooze]

Just bookmarking this thread! Thanks Cali!

[InTheDepths]

I need help again xD
How am I supposed to get my crush's number? Should I a) ask one of his friends straight You're joking; I'm too shy to do that xD
b) Ask one of his friends via FB all the number of people he knows, and maybe he'll have my crush's number?
c) Wait till my crush gets online and ask him? He almost never gets online
One of his friends are online now; should I put plan B into action; or are there any other ways that you guys have?

Ask him, not his friends. Texting him without him giving you his number will make him wonder where you got it, which may come off creepy, or one of his friends may view it as creepy, not give you the number, and tell your crush what you did.

[Midnight Star.]

I need help again xD
How am I supposed to get my crush's number? Should I a) ask one of his friends straight You're joking; I'm too shy to do that xD
b) Ask one of his friends via FB all the number of people he knows, and maybe he'll have my crush's number?
c) Wait till my crush gets online and ask him? He almost never gets online
One of his friends are online now; should I put plan B into action; or are there any other ways that you guys have?

Ask him, not his friends. Texting him without him giving you his number will make him wonder where you got it, which may come off creepy, or one of his friends may view it as creepy, not give you the number, and tell your crush what you did.

Yeah, I guess. I never see him though; he lives about 40 minutes to an hour away But I would be creeped if someone sent me a text and not explaining. That happened to me. I deleted everything from that person; still don't know who it is. So I'll send a message to him right now; thanks for that