starlight. wrote:um haha its been a bit since I've been here, but i have issues again xD
right now, i know that 3 different guys like me (J, T and W)...
J is one of my best friends, but not many people like him (he is extremely mean to some people, but SUPER nice to me) I talk to him all the time, in school and out of school, and we dated for a short period of time. I broke up with him because he was being mean to T. I still kind of like him.
T is my best friend, by far. He and I are always talking, hanging out and laughing. His sister is also my best friend and we do stuff together all the time. T hates J and is best friends with W. He likes me and I like him.. the only problem is that he is such a good friend to W and feels that if he and I dated that it would hurt his best friend.
W is the quiet, shy guy. He is really awkward around girls, is always forgetful and is T's best friend... he told me that he liked me last year and has made it obvious that he still likes me.
J and T are both obviously jealous of each other's time with me. In front of each other, they will do things like try to put their arm around me while the other is watching. It makes me feel really awkward and uncomfortable being around them both at the same time.
Question is: I have no idea who I should like (J or T) or both? I mean, how could i possibly choose between two of my best friends?
If it didn't work out with 'J' before, I doubt it will work again (I speak from experience)
If 'J' is mean to other people but nice to you, that doesn't make it right. He is nice to you because he is your friend, and because he likes you. That's it.
"If you want to see the true measure of a man, watch how he treats his inferiors, not his equals." I think that kind of goes for this situation.
And going down to your last paragraph, what they are doing is obviously very immature. *frowns* I understand being around both of them makes you feel awkward/uncomfortable, but if it makes you awkward when your single, how will that change when/if you are dating one of them? If you are best friends with both of them, whomever you choose is going to still be jealous of the time you spend with the other.
I guess from the information you gave me I would choose to go for 'T'. The choosing who to like is all up to you. Those are your feelings, and judging from this, I think you like both of them.
If 'J' is mean to other people but nice to you, that doesn't make it right. He is nice to you because he is your friend, and because he likes you. That's it.
"If you want to see the true measure of a man, watch how he treats his inferiors, not his equals." I think that kind of goes for this situation.
And going down to your last paragraph, what they are doing is obviously very immature. *frowns* I understand being around both of them makes you feel awkward/uncomfortable, but if it makes you awkward when your single, how will that change when/if you are dating one of them? If you are best friends with both of them, whomever you choose is going to still be jealous of the time you spend with the other.
I guess from the information you gave me I would choose to go for 'T'. The choosing who to like is all up to you. Those are your feelings, and judging from this, I think you like both of them.