Imzadi83 wrote:KiraWolf wrote:My three babies are getting pretty old, I can't even imagine life without them. If they were to pass, I'd have no idea how to deal with it, as they've been my dogs for such a long time. Are there any ways I can mentally prepare for when they do go?
I don't think one can truly be prepared mentally for that sort of thing. I would just try to enjoy each day with them and try to do something special for every one each day. You could even make them a bucket list.
To make things easier on yourself I would consider what you plan on doing when it's time. If you need to euthanize are you okay taking them to the vet, does your vet make house calls, or maybe you want to find one that does? Do you plan on burying them on your property, somewhere else? Are you considering cremation (what will you do with the ashes?), freeze-drying, taxidermy? You could check out your options both locally and online. Get an idea of what the cost is and maybe start saving?
Also check to see if there are pet bereavement classes/support groups near you. Local shelters and rescues might be able to point you in the right direction.
I'm in a similar boat with Chloe. She's getting older, and is in heart failure. It's hard and I'm struggling myself with how to deal with it. It's never easy and you're not alone *hugs* Feel free to have a good cry when you need to but just remember their here with you now so when you start to get depressed just go do something with them instead.
True! you really should do this, as hard as this may sound. one needs to think about this too.... a bucket list is good idea too....what to do to make last day-week-month-year the best, where to go, what to do or feed to make dog happy, what you two want to see in this time be it only some h or months. To be together and be loving to your friend.
I like the idea to make a memory book or box or something like this....or a shadow box filled with your dog’s favorite things. Put your dog’s photo in a pet memorial photo frame, pics, a film Clip or movie/film with pictures , fur, paw prints,frame your favorite photos, a claw part, storys and that....plant a tree for every year with them or year they have..or just one tree for each dog, you can add things and look at it together with your dogs and fmily or friends....make good memorys...like going out to eat ice or for nice walks, have fun playing, just sitting there with each other^^ and dont think about it all the time, in some part yes like tht you know if you need to go to vet and what to take with you or if vet comes home and that...but dont think that it can happen soon, live on, make the best time with your dog, be there for them
Im always for doing this at home when it Needs to happen some day,...there they most often the most calm and happy.....or when your dog/ horse like to be outside then do it there, on the grass under a tree or such... all peaceful and calm.....or atleast do it at a nice place at the vet not on the cold table...like on there bed/blanket with there loved food or toy...under a tree...
....and please... dont make it not nice and calm for your dog, dont wimper, howl and cry and shriek or that, dont act strange....smile talk silently, stroke or brush your dog...you can do this crying and all that away from your loved animal, but not when it goes to sleep, try to Keep it down and together....it is terrible, but it makes your pet unsure, unhappy or fearful and can make it a bad Moment full of stress. If you cant then ask someone else the dog is close to to tay with them til last moment.
or ask your doc that they give you something that you can stay calm at this moment....
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retro » Sat Jul 18, 2020 9:01 am
hey everyone, i need some help. im not the best at explaining but hopefully you guys can understand what im trying to say
ive been staying at my friends house for about a week now (for fun) and she has a yellow lab thats about 9 months old named bella. the problem is, bella constantly thinks she's in trouble when shes 100% not. for example, whenever somebody gasps out of excitement (like perhaps something interesting happened on tv and we're reacting to it) bella immediately thinks she did something wrong. she will put her ears back, lower her head, and swiftly walk into her crate.
Are you 100% sure the dog was never shouted at or hit, or send to the crate when she did something wrong....be it by breeder or someone in family or friends?
But for now try to close the crate over the day, sometimes that can help that they start to think and dont run away but see if all is alright, but give her dog bed away from it at a calm place, use a thin rope on harness when someone is there so she cant just walk away (but dont let it stay on when not watched), with this you can stop her in a gentle way and play with her or stroke her or such.
dont act all sorry when she just does this, be normal but calm, just call calmly and offer to play wih her, throw a feeding toy or some treats in a game , try to show her that nothing happens, nd when you just sit next to her and read a book till she is calm and walk around. not ure if this does help, one can only try out things....and some dogs are just very senitive or fearful to loud noices or hard movements^^