This is something that accumulated over the last one and a half year.
All the things I have encountered personally yet and which make me overthinking what's going on.
Cancel with a message (most often a simple "No thanks") => Get called Rude.
Cancel without a message => Get called rude.
Cancel saying "Please do read my rule about wishlist pets" => Get called rude and a liar, since they are on my wishlist so I have to want to trade for them no matter what and am obviously not allowed to cancel/decline a trade.
Letting a trade sit because I am not at home, and Chickensmoothie keeps me logged in 24/7 => rude.
Cancel a trade in general => rude rude rude...
That's all I get nowadays.
Literally all canceled trades get glared at because I dare to not send a message and be rude, or send a "no thanks" and be rude, or tell people to read my rules, which is supposedly rude too.
Or I am canceling trades because I don't want to overpay. Seems to be the highness of rudeness nowadays, and totally require people to go at me because it's all my fault.
The reason why I cancel so many trades nowadays, even fair ones, just because I don't really want to bother.
if I get a trade canceled, without a message, or a no thanks, I know "Okay, the person probably didn't like my trade or didn't want to trade that pet" and I shrug and go on about my day.
Why do people feel the need to pm me after I cancel, just to berate me about my rudeness, demanding answers why I did cancel, or why I did feel the need to show them the link to the lists, or why I did only say no thank you?
It's depressing, and lowering my trade morale quite a bit.
And I do not understand it.