roots. wrote:I think a lot of people here seem to not understand what DNIs are, they are simply a list of groups you ask not to interact with you. (ex: minors DNI) This isn't personal information, nor can it be used to harm you. It's setting a boundary in place to people on the site. Boundaries are important, and not harmful. Having no idea who you're interacting with is pretty scary! So on sites like CS where sharing of personal info is not allowed, at least telling groups of people not to interact is a quick solution. That way, they don't have to share anything about themselves, and if they are nice, they will respect your boundaries. It would only be used to target you if that person specifically is out to harm you, in which case DNI or lack thereof wouldn't do anything, as people who want to harm you will do so regardless of whether you have them on your DNI or not. But it is a helpful tool for those that ARE respectful. For example, if I saw a page saying "CS users DNI" I wouldn't interact, to respect that person and their boundaries. The only time you will come across someone's DNI is if you are actively already trying to harm them, or earnestly trying to follow them. One of these situations the DNI has no affect on, the other it is very useful for. I grew up in the age of internet safety too, but since have found that blindly interacting with anyone is dangerous and uncomfortable.
⧗наташа⧗ wrote:Lemon Tea Rain wrote:wiener dog wrote:When it comes to things that aren’t inappropriate for cs, would it be against the rules to say something like “please don’t talk to me about X fandom” or “don’t mention X character to me” I think that may be a better alternative to not interacting with someone at all, once again, that is if it’s not against the rules and I’m not sure if it is or not.
I'd also like to know this. While I'm very much in favour of the DNI ban, I know that some characters can have triggering topics discussed that some people would prefer to avoid, and that does seem like something worth accomodating. It would likely still be an issue with exposing someone's triggers to the internet, though, so I'm uncertain.
I have something on my carrd to not talk to me about a certain show as it displeases me, but if someone did anyway I wouldn't fret that much and just tell them I don't want to talk about it
Lemon Tea Rain wrote:wiener dog wrote:When it comes to things that aren’t inappropriate for cs, would it be against the rules to say something like “please don’t talk to me about X fandom” or “don’t mention X character to me” I think that may be a better alternative to not interacting with someone at all, once again, that is if it’s not against the rules and I’m not sure if it is or not.
I'd also like to know this. While I'm very much in favour of the DNI ban, I know that some characters can have triggering topics discussed that some people would prefer to avoid, and that does seem like something worth accomodating. It would likely still be an issue with exposing someone's triggers to the internet, though, so I'm uncertain.
.:Scruffy:. wrote:Sorry - but DNI lists can absolutely be used to harm you. Not everyone is going to respect your list. If somebody doesn't like you and happens to be a bad person, they have the chance to use all of that and message you/harass you about these things - possibly triggering you in the process. Not everyone is going to respect your boundaries. It is unfortunate, it is scary, but it's true. DNI lists definitely "have an effect" on people actively trying to harm you because they now have all that information on things that make you uncomfortable or upset or have an anxiety attack.
Don't get me wrong - I always respect and adhere to DNI lists when I see them, but saying they can't harm you is a mistake at best and potentially dangerous misinformation at worst.
roots. wrote:.:Scruffy:. wrote:Sorry - but DNI lists can absolutely be used to harm you. Not everyone is going to respect your list. If somebody doesn't like you and happens to be a bad person, they have the chance to use all of that and message you/harass you about these things - possibly triggering you in the process. Not everyone is going to respect your boundaries. It is unfortunate, it is scary, but it's true. DNI lists definitely "have an effect" on people actively trying to harm you because they now have all that information on things that make you uncomfortable or upset or have an anxiety attack.
Don't get me wrong - I always respect and adhere to DNI lists when I see them, but saying they can't harm you is a mistake at best and potentially dangerous misinformation at worst.
I think you are confusing a DNI list with a trigger list. Trigger lists are dangerous. DNIs are not trigger lists
Klaora wrote:I've been following this thread for a while just because I think it's interesting, but here's something that hasn't been brought up but has happened to me a small handful of times:
People commission me for art, pay in full upfront, and then send me a character sheet. On that page is a DNI list and I fit on that category.
Or someone will follow me or send me a trade on a website and, whump, wouldn't you know it? I fit on their DNI
Like....what do you do when someone approaches YOU and you're on their DNI list?
It's a whole 'nother can of worms that mods have to deal with in these situations and there's no easy answer on this one.
Mew65ii wrote:I'm honestly glad these of getting rid of, even if I'm not that active on here and never used DNI lists myself. I have been exposed to a lot of disgusting stuff that I wished I never even heard of, due to DNI lists since I didn't know what the term was and wondered if I fell into that category. I honestly think as of recently, I been exposed to this kind of stuff way more thanks to DNI lists having certain words, rather than just scrolling through the internet on my own time.
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