New Rule: DNI (Do Not Interact) Lists are Banned

[zyderm]

i am really happy to see this new rule. i think overall, its very unhealthy and just asking for trouble to list all of your triggers for anyone to see. as other people have stated, people who enjoy triggering others are not going to be dissuaded from bothering you because you made a public list of things you dont want to interact with. instead what youve done is given them an easy list to reference. same goes for dni, do you think a racist or homophobe is going to read through your list and think oh i guess im not welcome here? or do you think either a. theyre going to ignore it, or b. know exactly what to send you to upset you? (speaking partially from things ive seen on tumblr. ive seen someone who listed they were a certain age in their about, and suddenly received a plethora of nasty inappropriate messages. if they hadnt listed their age, do you think they would have gotten those messages?)

i think also this is a very big problem with younger kids, especially on tumblr, where they list every personal detail, including triggers, on their about. its not healthy nor is it safe, what person online needs to know all that about you? especially any joe schmoe who happens across your tumblr blog or your carrd. those are very public spaces, anyone can access or view them.

i also want to say, it is not everyone elses job on the internet to protect you or accommodate you. that may sound mean but its absolute true. YOU are in charge of cultivating your online experience, and only you. if you see something or someone you dont like, you can easily navigate away from their page/block them etc. its even easier on chicken smoothie than most sites, because you have an option to turn off signatures, images, etc. if you know that a certain website triggers you, makes you uncomfortable, than you need to decide if its worth that to continue using the site. chicken smoothie is one of the safest sites that ive ever been on, in terms of its rules and regulations, the amount of features, and how active and involved their mods are. i really think this is an excellent rule to have here considering the user base, and i wish this would be implemented on other sites as well, honestly.

[rhysbees]

I fully support this rule. DNI lists are hard to moderate and enforce and furthermore do very little to protect the people with such lists as they often do not prevent unwanted people from interacting which often requires a user to block another user anyway. In addition, it isn’t staff “requiring users” to hide information about themselves. This is a digital pets trading website. You shouldn’t be sharing your specific traumas on here.

[koegami]

woah boy i finished reading all of that

i won't like, offer my personal feelings or anything bc it doesn't matter CS is a kids-based site for a reason
but on the premise of safety i will say that this rule is ok [with me] as long as it doesn't get out-of-hand. (like turns
into a mess i mean). I've been here since 2011, and a lot has changed since then back then this wasn't an issue
but now with the way things are now, i can see why it's [the rule] being made.

do we have a notification system in place for big changes like these?
like i know we have the notifications board but when i log in that is the last place i'd look i only found this
through people talking about it haha

[mecha sonic]

I stand by saying I don't care for DNI lists but I do have a concern - I've seen several users with a variation of "DNI if you have flashing gifs on your profile" due to photosensitivity, which I feel is ABSOLUTELY reasonable. Would these users still be allowed to request this? I can imagine seeking out users with flashy gifs in profile to block them would MORESO put them in harm's way due to exposure to the material. I do not personally struggle w any photosensitivity issues so anyone who does is extremely welcome to chime in or correct me.


Images that effect photosensitive users are against the CS rules and aren't allowed to be posted, so the correct course of action would be to report a user with images like that so that we can remove them. I would encourage non-photosensitive users to report these if they see them as well so that we can help keep photosensitive users safe. There is therefore no reason to have a DNI for this since it is just rule-breaking anyway.




would this mean eyestrain images are also against rules ?
asking more out of curiosity than anything else

[Startedraining]

As an adult player, am I still able to say something like, for example, "please don't send me a PM if you are a minor since I am an adult", or is that too similar to DNI?

idk if this was answered but it seems reasonable to me and it doesn’t feel like a DNI to me, it’s a polite request.

[SurgeFire]

As an adult player, am I still able to say something like, for example, "please don't send me a PM if you are a minor since I am an adult", or is that too similar to DNI?

idk if this was answered but it seems reasonable to me and it doesn’t feel like a DNI to me, it’s a polite request.

By the way this was answered actually! Here
Just letting you know as I was curious about it as well.

Also I do wonder about eyestrain images as well like someone brought up in the previous page.

[Seasonal]

Images are assessed on a case-by-case basis as every image is different, but generally we will ask users to remove images that can cause harm to another user. When in doubt, send a report!

[MegaGoatBabe]

Thank you Mods! You have a hard job and coming to this decision was probably difficult. But as someone who started off on CS at a much younger age, and is now not that age obviously, I understand the "complaints" from some of the people who want DNI's and in my first years on CS I may have agreed, but now I know this is really a minor safety issue.

There is an allure to sharing things that make you anxious/trigger you because you might find people of like minds, suffering from the same thing as you, or maybe you do prevent someone from talking about something that upsets you. But ultimately it puts you at risk and whether or not you think that's true, I can promise you it is. Please trust that the Mods are aiming to (and successfully achieving in my opinion) a fun and safe atmosphere for everyone to enjoy. You cannot have fun without safety, and safety does need to be the priority.

If you find that without a DNI list you are becoming triggered/anxious, it may be best to take a step back from CS and seek some professional help, which is absolutely not a bad thing. Somethings are not meant to be a part of our lives forever, and somethings we need to take breaks from.

So thank you Mods for your hard, but incredibly important and appreciated work. I know there are a lot of comments in here that are angry with this decision, but you can sleep at night knowing you did make this site safer. And not everyone is going to be able to see that in the moment. And for those still upset, I feel for you, I am sorry you lost something that made you feel safer, but I hope you can understand this decision did make you safer,

[skyline]

overall i totally agree with this change. i never understood the huge deal over dni lists due to multiple reasons that a lot of people have talked about already. but one small thing, seeing started's comment ^ as an adult user, i also feel specifically having to remove that small request of minors not interacting is a bit of a stretch. you don't know who is a minor and who isn't, and a lot of the time you can't even tell. so the argument of "just not replying" in the event of even suspecting it, isn't really a fair way to solve it. the main concern is that i don't want to grow closer to someone who is much younger than me, especially without prior knowledge to it.

adults and minors interacting here on cs specifically i really don't think is a huge deal. but the comment up top is just my two cents.

[yharnam boy]

very happy with this change. thank you.