✨Moon✨ wrote:(I don't know if I posted here already)
I still have Atlas right now but he isn't the same as he was when we got him, he's more meaner. He's about eight or one year old, and does this aggressiveness have anything to do with him not being neutered? He goes outside every day to run around in the yard and sometimes he goes over the fence, but he comes back. But I think he doesn't like me as much, any way to make him more friendlier?
Since he's still intact and goes outdoors he may be having some territorial disputes with other toms and that could be making his temper shorter. When all the queens go into heat that's sure to drive him crazy too. Getting him neutered could chill him out a bit as his system won't be flooded with all that testosterone but it's not a guaranteed solution since sometimes cats keep their pre-neutered habits.
I second Cataclasm's suggestion of playing and whatnot. He's could just have a ton of excess energy that he doesn't know how to deal with. Though I would recommend getting him neutered anyways since he goes outdoors and has a chance to be the father to many many unwanted kittens.
✨Moon✨ wrote:Alright, I'll try to play and spend more time with him often. It's just that I don't go over my grandma's that much, so that's why I haven't been with him that much.
If you don't/didn't go over to your grandma's regularly, as he grew up he may have gotten used to just your grandma and whoever else lives there. If he's not aggressive towards your grandma he may distrust strangers and perhaps even forgot you depending on how often you visit him.
Just remember not to force interaction as that could have the opposite effect of what you're aiming for. You could try pretending he's a new cat that doesn't know you at all so you can try to rebuild your relationship. Respect his boundaries and signals and he should warm back up to you in time!