WastedSpace wrote:Banana. wrote:Okay so how do you let your partner know you think they need to delete the pictures of their ex? And I don’t mean selfies. I don’t want to bring it up out of no where but I feel like I kinda should because how is that convo ever even going to come up? Do you think I’m over reacting
I think you're making an... adult connotation that you can't actually say on CS? If so...
Keep it short, simple, and calm. Tell them you need to talk, make your request, and explain why you're asking. There's no way to just wait for this to come up naturally or just ease into a conversation like this. Find a quieter time when it's just you to, take a deep breath, and make the plunge.
But if you're just talking about pictures of them hanging out together, then you can't delete his past, and you either need to be able to trust him or re-think this conversation.
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I think every person has the right to have whatever they want on their personal cell phone, in my opinion. If it's really bothering you bring it up and maybe he can also provide some insight to why he decided to keep them, be it maybe he forgot or just simply would rather not delete them. Don't force him to, and don't get upset and be unfair to him if he says no. Jealous is a sucky feeling, I think, and it's just important to remember photos aren't reality.
Try bringing it up calmly and like you're not going to tear his throat out for whatever answer he gives you-- I know some guys can get nervous and try to make up a lie they think you'd want to hear based on how you come at them.
Thank you both and I do want to clarify (and I did edit that it was a mistake in my original post)I did not mean anything adult by that, that was an honest mis wording LOL so sorry, didn’t realize it sounded like that until you said something. Thank you for the advice but I’ll try and bring it up. It’s innocent pictures I guess I feel insecure that he’s still holding onto those memories