badguthrie wrote:yoyoyoyo my gays
so i know that one of my really close friends likes me and i'm trying to figure out if i like them? cause like we're b e s t f r i e n d s and i love them a lot and i don't really want to have a relationship with anyone currently but i also wouldn't say no because like i said i love them a lot and and they're great and amazing and beautiful and yeah
thanks gays for youre help
Personally, if you don't want to have a relationship right now, I would go with your gut. It's unfair to both of you if you enter into a different stage of your relationship when you don't really want that or aren't ready for it. Maybe you two could explore a queerplatonic or queerplatonic-like relationship instead, at least for the moment?
chat noir. wrote:Hello,
So about a few months ago (I want to say around Jan-Feb) I got a dm on Instagram from my friend and he asked me if I liked his friend.-aka my crush- I said yes, because I trust him, anyway... He told me that my crush likes me! Which then I freaked out. In class, we(my crush) are assigned to sit next to each other which is very awkward because I'm a very awkward person. So the teachers always have us do these little group discussions at time to time, and when it came to that we would always talk to each other, like just about random stuff.
When we came back from Spring break this week, we got new seating and we sit across the room from each other. (So I sit in the back corner and he sits in the same row but on the other side, and he can just sit back and turn towards me to get a glance. which I have caught him do-it was so cute but anyways.
I always go to Study Hall with my friend, and my crush and his friend is always there, so we always have this awkward encounter. On Thursday, we were talking a lot more than usual which I was really glad.
Then yesterday(Friday) I found out that this girl likes him, which I'm not to that mad because like... he's very attractive, but she wanted to ask him to this Spring Fling thingy we're having in April if my friend asked her crush-which is his friend. But she knows he'd say no because he likes me, and he confirmed it. So she isn't going to, but another girl likes him as well and she asked me if I liked him, I didn't answer because like bruuuhh... but she's planning to ask him to the dance. And I don't know what I should do. Should I ask him to the dance, or just try to ignore this 'drama', or what? I'm freaking out because I really like him and I don't know if he'd say yes or not!! ahh ):
Sorry for making you read this long story. ;-;
It sounds like there's negative drama here. Actually everyone is being really, really kind and thoughtful here. But you don't get to just... stake a claim to him when you're both still friends, even if crushing on each other. You either ask him to the dance or accept that other people are allowed to ask him and he might even say yes because he wants to go to the dance with a girl.
Ask him, don't ask him - totally your choice! But... make a decision. Do you want to go to this dance? Do you want to go with him? Do you want to ask him to date but not go to the dance? Whatever, it's fine! But the dance is coming up, so you should make a decision. =)