BeccaScribbles wrote:@WastedSpace
I was never able to thank you last year when I was last active on here for talking sense to my judgemental, rude butt haha. I was in a troubled ocean of emotion and it was engulfed by anger that was most probably petty and caused by jealousy idk. I don't know if you even remember my d*mb rant (It may have actually been on the comfort corner, I'm unsure) but anyhow I thank you dearly. I've returned to my normal self now and have managed to put those negative feelings behind me, or at least I hope to continue to do so. Thank you again. Your comment really made me thing about how stupidly I was acting and how petty my opinion really was, being driven by anger, envy and over all a lack of open-mindedness.
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Thoughts on a friend offering that you and him sign a card together and subsequently give it together? He even put a gift in it and said it was from the both of us. May have just been being considerate as I hadn't even thought about getting a card QwQ
But I hadn't actually stated I didn't have one. He just kinda gave me a pen and said we could sign this card he pulled out of his bag together. And I kinda only see this happening with
1. Friends who are REALLY CLOSE basically a duo
2. A group of people, whether that be friends, family or work colleges
3. A couple
I'm so glad you're doing well! <3
As for the gift, I've actually done this recently. =o Now it was actually with a friend of the same gender (as far as she knew anyway; I'm closeted) as I who is also married to someone else. But we, this woman and I, met in an exercise class. We made a few other friends in this class and went to a few dinners and parties with them, which led to some good friendships. We ended up going to a few birthday parties for which she didn't make it to the store. However, I could and we talked about what maybe to get someone (saved us both money to split)! So we actually gave a couple co-gifts together!
I think this worked for us because:
- We were clear on being friends and platonically giving these gifts
- She was married but her husband didn't know any of these people or really want to come to these functions (which she was fine with)
- It saved us money
- I was pretty much the only American in the group. She was Colombian and the rest of our friends were either Indian or Mexican (at times, an Egyptian would join us), so there was quite a bit of cultural mixing going on where we kind of all merged social niceties as it suited us.
Point being that we were both comfortable co-gifting. It was never any big deal between us. But if you're not comfortable, then don't do it! No reason you have to. Just thank him for offering and decline in the future. =)
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Thank you so much Laozsho!
