Crushes, Boyfriends, and Girlfriends

[Amaretto]

This guy I like, he's been acting like he doesn't wanna hang around with me lately. I mean, some things he does make it seem like he really wants to hang around me. But for the most part it feels like he doesn't want to be around me... Im pretty sure the fact that my brother is really overprotective of me plays a big part in his not wanting to hang out with me as much. My brother goes as far as sitting between us because he has to "protect me from him" and ordering him to "keep your hands off my sister" and stuff like that. And lately it's just been annoying. At first it was funny, we'd do stuff like we'd hold hands or he'd put his arm around me and id say say "oh no, look! He's touching me" or something just to tick my brother off. But now it's lost its humor. And the most we ever really do is jab/tickle each others sides, with no sexual intent, just being silly and we all (in the group of friends) partake in that. And like all other teens, we all make perverse jokes n' stuff, but none to be taken seriously.My brother's not protective with me with anyone else, and neither of us have openly done anything to show we may like each other - I'm not even sure he likes me back. The most hes really done that might hint towards it is he sometimes tries to sit/stand next to me instead of someone else and he insists upon me singing when he gets a chance to and he's been apologizing for missing my birthday (which was in September) even though he didn't know what day it was and he's never showed an interest in it before and he occasionally calls me by a nickname only my family calls me... And everything else that might make it seem like he likes me is normal stuff for him, he's a very nice person. But, anyways, what do i do? Also, he is more my brother's friend than mine, so he's not really the type I could invite to something myself, so yeah... I guess I mainly just need to know what to do about my brother... But any advice on anything about my relationship him would be appreciated. And I just realized I haven't given him a title, you can call him D. Also, I've liked him for 4 years, if that has any impact on your advice at all.

[s y n]

First time posting here, yay/


This... guy. We'll call him O. He's super cute, hilarious, and perfect for me. But he barely knows me, and I have no idea how to start a conversation with him, because im super... well... unconfident. Which basically means im very very shy and hate talking to boys unless I know them very well, or something. But.....

When my friend, J, liked him , without knowing I liked him, everyone knew she liked him. Even him. But... fururuhahafeag. She sent me over to him, to ask him who he liked best out of J and my best friend, L, I don't know why.


When I asked him, his exact words were, and I quote,
"Um... I only like J as a friend. L, I really do like more, she's much nicer."

Oh god. His face. His faaaaccceeeeeeeeeeee.
It crumbled me. Seriously.

When he said he liked L, I... was shocked.

Why? Because L does not like him, even barely, not even as a friend (well, barely), and his... his faaaace. I didn't have the heart to tell him that L didn't like him. At all.

What do I do?

I love how I know EXACTLY who you're talking about.
Huzzah for being real-life sisters.

Well, it's not a big deal that "L" (I love knowing the names of these people ouo) doesn't like him. Just tell him. Because he said that he likes her better doesn't necessarily mean that he likes her that way. Besides, I doubt that in your grade it'd be that big of a deal. Just casually bring it up. Have her tell him maybe.
Now as to what to do about you and him... COMMUNICATION. IS. KEY! If you can't talk to this guy (who I know :3) then there's no way you'd be able to get close enough to him to start a relationship. The best way is to become his friend - Do things he does, talk to him about things you have in common, don't be afraid to share your opinion even if it opposes his. Just be gentle about it. In time, once you are good friends, then the matter of a relationship happens. Trust me, I know this. Every single guy I've dated was my friend before they were my boyfriend, and you have to be able to talk. If you don't talk to someone, then what's the point in being with them, no? It's very awkward to be around the person and have nothing to say when you're dating. Again, trust me. When I dated MC (you know who he is xD) I was scared to hangout with him alone because I was afraid we'd have nothing to talk about. But we found it easy to communicate with each other, so we had a great time and it wasn't awkward at all.
Until he dragged me into his home to introduce me to his family... But that's another story ^^.

[Cokeyote]

No good news with M. He was silent on the bus and at breakfast, he only noted how I seemed taller. He's killing me. I overheard him a little talking about K and what happened to him ... what is wrong with my school? Is this sadness spreading? D: And in the afternoon he also shunned me and said he didn't care ... God it felt good to get this out. It was ripping me apart and I was fighting tears on the way home. My friend who isn't fond of him got asked what was her problem. I've been dieing to ask him the same thing only I'm unsure if he'll just snap at me. It seems like he's not a friend anymore, when he used to talk about what happened each day at school ... more like he's someone else. Those words he said to me keep repeating in my head. "I really don't care." I hope he's just having a bad day and his friends are okay too. Please make tomorrow better. Please make him change back into the chatty person I know. Please make the side of him not slip away.

Trent Reznor (Nine Inch Nails) has been helping me through this with his amazing music that he is not afraid to make.

[climbing{the}world]

BF: So, wazzup?
Me: Hey, I have a question. List every rumor about me.
Bf: (Lists rumors.)
BF: My rumors.
Me: (Lists lies. and lies.)

(Next Day)

Me: (Finishes Lies)
BF: Give me the names!
Me: The truth is (lies again) I got it off a magazine! It's an honesty test! Tell lies, see if they believe!
BF: What?! but I told my Mom!
Me: I'm so sorry..... it was just a test....
Bf: Imma tke the heat. don't coe near me. But I still love you.


The real truth:

He gave rumors about me (really inappropriate, I thought thy were lies. Still not sure.) so I just made up similar rumors about him. In the end, he told his Mom, and if wasn't taking the heat, then I would be in FAT trouble. And their was no test; I made them up!

dear god, I am sobbing on the key board now, I don't know what to do! If I tell the truth, he'll break up with me. And I think... I think I should tell him the truth. I think I didn't need love. EVER. Please, PLEASE! Help me! :'( :'(

[Pangali]

Eek, i'm just starting high school and i don't no if i should act like myself or somebody else to get a good boyfriend. People say i'm really pretty and have a good chance of getting a boyfriend. But i don't think i look that good, so should i lie and change my name to people or just act myself. I have a really stuiped name

You shouldnt change yourself to get a boyfriend. If you did get a boyfriend by lying about your name, he'd find out and may not like the fact that you lied to him. It isn't worth pretending to be somone else on the ofg chance that a guy will like you. Just wait ,the right guy will come along eventually. I think a guy should love you for who you are anyway.

What's the big rush to get a boyfriend anyway? Just because everyone else has one dosent mean you should, there's no point going out with somone if you don't have feelings for them.

[ophelia;]

Eek, i'm just starting high school and i don't no if i should act like myself or somebody else to get a good boyfriend. People say i'm really pretty and have a good chance of getting a boyfriend. But i don't think i look that good, so should i lie and change my name to people or just act myself. I have a really stuiped name

You shouldnt change yourself to get a boyfriend. If you did get a boyfriend by lying about your name, he'd find out and may not like the fact that you lied to him. It isn't worth pretending to be somone else on the ofg chance that a guy will like you. Just wait ,the right guy will come along eventually. I think a guy should love you for who you are anyway.

What's the big rush to get a boyfriend anyway? Just because everyone else has one dosent mean you should, there's no point going out with somone if you don't have feelings for them.

Hmm, that is true. Thank you Blaze.

[WalkerNom]

UGH! My friend Darky is becoming a real creeper....
Another of my friends, I'll call her Cletous (We actually call her this at school! Idk why, it's just a thing we do... XD), said that he was a creeper and I guess it took me until now to realize it...

Lol, today in Gym, me and Cletous were playing (failing) at volleyball and I happen to look over at him and he was staring at us...so now I was kind of freaked out and kept looking at him to see if he was still staring at us (he was each time XD). I even began talking really fast to cletous for a moment, thinking she would catch on. Then, a few moments later...he comes walking over to us like he has something to say, but when he gets over to us, he just asks, "Are you two gonna play volleyball, or are you just gonna gossip all day?!" Meaning, he was watching us the whole time because the whole time we were talking about how much we fail at volleyball and laughing.

Then, at lunch, (he sits at the back of the cafeteria, and I sit at the front) I go to sit down and I notice him looking around someone to look at me...I think he likes one or both of us...and I just don't feel that way about him, we're just friends. Plus, I have a boyfriend, as you all may know.

[spaceferrari]

What's the big rush to get a boyfriend anyway? Just because everyone else has one doesn't mean you should, there's no point going out with someone if you don't have feelings for them.

A lot of my classmates were getting in and out of relationships last year, and they kept trying to pressure me into dating Glasses. At first, I refused just to show them they can't control me; I didn't care much about him at the time anyway. I ignored him; he was just another student. However, in the middle of the first semester, I had to take off for two weeks because of a surgery. During my absense, my quarter class was switched from Music to Art. Drawing and creativity is my strong point, so I was always happy to be in the class. It was around then that I noticed Glasses trying to start talking to me.
Two of the girls, Alexis and Mary, were constantly badgering me about Glasses, calling me by his last name and starting rumors. As usual, I ignored her, and I don't think anyone else caught up on the rumors either. Glasses started greeting me every day in Art class, and sometimes we would chat in our other classes. By the time third quarter rolled around, I realized I actually liked him, no thanks to Alexis and Mary. He was (and still is, really,) intriguing, a gentleman, and very intelligent, not to mention adorkable. He picked a seat next to me in our third quarter class and I started having conversations with him and getting to know him. I noticed he also went out of his way to talk to or work with me in other classes as well. Before long, we would talk and joke like old friends. I could (and still can) have a real conversation with him, unlike some people who are in relationships just to lick face.
By fourth quarter he would smile whenever he saw me, and I could see it in his eyes that it brightened his day just to talk to me. He started getting a little protective, too, defending me whenever someone bothered me or commented on our being together. One day at dismissal, he said that he always looked forward to seeing me in class every day, and just talking with me made him happy.
In May we had a day when some folks came in to talk to us (One guy talked about internet safety, a police officer talked about drunk driving, and a police investigator demonstrated some fun self-defense moves), but unfortunately I had to leave in the middle of the day for an appointment. When I returned, there was only a few minutes left in the self-defense talk, so I sat on the sideline and watched. Afterward, Glasses came down from the bleachers (the investigator presented in the gymnasium), and said he'd missed me while I was gone. I mentioned something about feeling conflicted about whether I should be happy or sad I attend my high school, since if I didn't, that would mean my father wouldn't have passed away two years ago, but because he did, I do attend it and thus met Glasses. He said he wouldn't try to understand, but that he was sorry about my father, and put his hand on my shoulder. At the end of the day, I had to stay after school; however, I had planned to give him my cell number, in case he wanted to talk outside of school. It turned out he had decided that as well, and we traded numbers before he left.
Glasses called me a few times after that, just to talk, and the conversations gradually got longer, from twenty minutes, to half an hour, to forty, until I would talk to him over an hour at a time. Every time my phone rang I would smile because I knew he was willing to take time out of his day just to speak to me.
Also in May I had to have surgery a second time, and missed an entire week of school. This time, though, Glasses called me every day without fail around four o'clock to give me the assignments I missed (seeing as we had five out of eight classes together, it was VERY helpful). At the end of May I decided it was now or never, so I called and asked if he would like to see a movie (Pirates of the Caribbean: On Stranger Tides) with me. At first, he said "I don't think so," but eventually I bothered him enough to get him to agree. From there, we started seeing each other more often, we agreed that the Summer of 2011 was one of the best we'd ever experienced, and now here we are. C:

Holy crap. I just gave you a freaking history of my relationship. o_o I'm sorry, I didn't mean to go on.

[peachie.]

What's the big rush to get a boyfriend anyway? Just because everyone else has one doesn't mean you should, there's no point going out with someone if you don't have feelings for them.

A lot of my classmates were getting in and out of relationships last year, and they kept trying to pressure me into dating Glasses. At first, I refused just to show them they can't control me; I didn't care much about him at the time anyway. I ignored him; he was just another student. However, in the middle of the first semester, I had to take off for two weeks because of a surgery. During my absense, my quarter class was switched from Music to Art. Drawing and creativity is my strong point, so I was always happy to be in the class. It was around then that I noticed Glasses trying to start talking to me.
Two of the girls, Alexis and Mary, were constantly badgering me about Glasses, calling me by his last name and starting rumors. As usual, I ignored her, and I don't think anyone else caught up on the rumors either. Glasses started greeting me every day in Art class, and sometimes we would chat in our other classes. By the time third quarter rolled around, I realized I actually liked him, no thanks to Alexis and Mary. He was (and still is, really,) intriguing, a gentleman, and very intelligent, not to mention adorkable. He picked a seat next to me in our third quarter class and I started having conversations with him and getting to know him. I noticed he also went out of his way to talk to or work with me in other classes as well. Before long, we would talk and joke like old friends. I could (and still can) have a real conversation with him, unlike some people who are in relationships just to lick face.
By fourth quarter he would smile whenever he saw me, and I could see it in his eyes that it brightened his day just to talk to me. He started getting a little protective, too, defending me whenever someone bothered me or commented on our being together. One day at dismissal, he said that he always looked forward to seeing me in class every day, and just talking with me made him happy.
In May we had a day when some folks came in to talk to us (One guy talked about internet safety, a police officer talked about drunk driving, and a police investigator demonstrated some fun self-defense moves), but unfortunately I had to leave in the middle of the day for an appointment. When I returned, there was only a few minutes left in the self-defense talk, so I sat on the sideline and watched. Afterward, Glasses came down from the bleachers (the investigator presented in the gymnasium), and said he'd missed me while I was gone. I mentioned something about feeling conflicted about whether I should be happy or sad I attend my high school, since if I didn't, that would mean my father wouldn't have passed away two years ago, but because he did, I do attend it and thus met Glasses. He said he wouldn't try to understand, but that he was sorry about my father, and put his hand on my shoulder. At the end of the day, I had to stay after school; however, I had planned to give him my cell number, in case he wanted to talk outside of school. It turned out he had decided that as well, and we traded numbers before he left.
Glasses called me a few times after that, just to talk, and the conversations gradually got longer, from twenty minutes, to half an hour, to forty, until I would talk to him over an hour at a time. Every time my phone rang I would smile because I knew he was willing to take time out of his day just to speak to me.
Also in May I had to have surgery a second time, and missed an entire week of school. This time, though, Glasses called me every day without fail around four o'clock to give me the assignments I missed (seeing as we had five out of eight classes together, it was VERY helpful). At the end of May I decided it was now or never, so I called and asked if he would like to see a movie (Pirates of the Caribbean: On Stranger Tides) with me. At first, he said "I don't think so," but eventually I bothered him enough to get him to agree. From there, we started seeing each other more often, we agreed that the Summer of 2011 was one of the best we'd ever experienced, and now here we are. C:

Holy crap. I just gave you a freaking history of my relationship. o_o I'm sorry, I didn't mean to go on.

awuh, I read that whole thing, and I loved it. I also call my boyfriend Glasses on here too, because he wears Glasses x)

[spaceferrari]

Holy crap. I just gave you a freaking history of my relationship. o_o I'm sorry, I didn't mean to go on.

awuh, I read that whole thing, and I loved it. I also call my boyfriend Glasses on here too, because he wears glasses x)

Oh, well, thanks. I see things on here (and especially DearBlankPleaseBlank) where people say they're x years old, most often older than me, and have never had their first kiss, and I feel a bit guilty for having a boyfriend at fifteen. What I can say, though, is that I'm not rushing it, I'm not in a relationship just for the physical aspect, and I care a great deal about my Glasses. Over New Year's break his oldest sister got engaged, and seeing him so happy about it is just wonderful. My sister's older than his, has lived with her boyfriend for almost five years and still doesn't have a ring, and I'm always complaining about how my future brother-in-law is taking too damn long and Glasses has no room to say it's "about time" his sister was engaged. =P He puts up with so much crap from me. But I put up with all his crap too and that's why I love him. X3