Crushes, Boyfriends, and Girlfriends

[Official-Enjolras]

So mmy friends ex is making her feel horrible. its just kills her to be around him so much...she's cutting herself. I don't know what to do D8

You need to tell someone... like her mom guys aren't worth self-mutilation... Well, actually, nothing is worth self-mutilation. Tell her that she doesn't need to do that. As long as she keeps it up, she's going to feel worse--what's more, when she gets older she's going to have to look at those scars every day of her life and remember either 1) how she felt or 2) how low she sank for what -now- feels like no reason. Self-harm is really hard to deal with, I know, because you feel so helpless. You really need to find her some help if she won't listen to you... Or you could just tell her ex to back off? Is he bugging her or is she just taking the break up really bad? :C Self harm is never the answer, either way. There is always another option... </3

She is just taking the break up really really badly D8 her dad knows now but she called me begging me not to tell my mom she was crying on the phone, I felt really bad but I have to tell

[F e a r l e s s.]

Yesterday Shay and I were putting stickers all over each other in math class. I'm not even sure if he likes me anymore. I think he does because Isaiah keeps dropping hints, and stuff, but Shay doesn't really talk to me outside of class, though I'm hoping that once snowboarding season starts up that'll change because he told me that I'm teaching him to snowboard.
Can anyone help me out with whats going on? I mean... I'm tempted to ask him out, but I'm too shy, plus I'm too scared he'll reject me. DX

I know exactly how you feel! Cuz your pretty sure that he likes you, but your too shy to make the first mood and are scared if he rejects you! I've been debating whether I should ask out my crush for the past 3 years, but I'm super shy and scared that he'll say no... But I always think, if that's the worst he can do then why not? But I just spool scared! Lol

[Tossing Spades]

@Eiria: Wow. That's some real mixed signals. What I did, was invite my crush to do something NOT A MOVIE. But I invited him to something and said I was inviting one or two other people and he could too. Truthfully, I didn't invite anyone else. So, we ended up mini golfing with his friends and they seemed to like me, and he seemed to like me more after that. Then again, I'd probably invite one friend so that you'd have one person to talk to other than him. Like a fall back if something doesn't go right or things are going slow. Have your friend be a friend that is good at these things. Sitting in the last available spot so he's forced to sit next to you, or 'accidently' leave you two alone. The only reason I went alone is cuz I'm more of a tomboy and get along with other guys easily, so his friends were no problem.

Okay - so my birthday party, which was August 27th, was AMAZING. I invited one of my friends, Nate, and we kinda started crushing on each other from there.Then we chilled for about a month together, with me thinking he would never get with me being he has a girlfriend.... but then just two days ago he and I were texting and in the middle of a casual conversation, he asked me if I liked him. I said, "I didn't make that obvious enough? Lol" and he asked, "Would you date me?" I said, "Duhhh! ;] ". He has a girlfriend though, and from what his friends say she's rude, selfish, hates his friends, and obsessive. I can kinda see the obsessive part a little, but I still feel bad for taking him from her.... I've never met her before. I just know that she's... not his friends favorite. Is that wrong? I feel like I practically stole him from her... but I didn't mean to like him. It just happens.

[Livalathia]

So mmy friends ex is making her feel horrible. its just kills her to be around him so much...she's cutting herself. I don't know what to do D8

You need to tell someone... like her mom guys aren't worth self-mutilation... Well, actually, nothing is worth self-mutilation. Tell her that she doesn't need to do that. As long as she keeps it up, she's going to feel worse--what's more, when she gets older she's going to have to look at those scars every day of her life and remember either 1) how she felt or 2) how low she sank for what -now- feels like no reason. Self-harm is really hard to deal with, I know, because you feel so helpless. You really need to find her some help if she won't listen to you... Or you could just tell her ex to back off? Is he bugging her or is she just taking the break up really bad? :C Self harm is never the answer, either way. There is always another option... </3

She is just taking the break up really really badly D8 her dad knows now but she called me begging me not to tell my mom she was crying on the phone, I felt really bad but I have to tell

I used to self harm [for reasons that I wont talk about] but honestly the best thing to do is tell whether she likes it or not. Chances are she will seriously hurt herself if she dosnt stop, and over a boyfriend is not worth it. Just make sure your there for her also. For me to stop it was mostly my friends yelling at me, and telling me that they were worried I was seriously going to hurt myself. Maybe try someting along those lines? Just a suggestion.

[nikilynn12]

OMG i am so confused, and just idk lol if you wanna know the story PM me! I dont really wanna post it on a forum lol.

[kimmy1479]

So, I have a classic question. How can you tell if a boy likes you? And I mean 1 that you don't really talk to, but whom you catch looking at you, and who seems to be following you and avoiding you at the same time. XD Also, how do you approach someone that you like, if you don't ussually talk to? I want to kinda make freinds with him, but, where I am at least, its a little odd to randomly go up to someone whom you ussually don't talk to directly.

[Ebby20]

I just got asked out by my crush last month I have had a crush on him since 6th grade and now I am in 10th! He is super cute and Is very athletic. He has Black hair and really dark dark blue eyes that stand out! He is a skater boy and he is really funny! He has a really good personality and he has his own awesome style. Even the year book wrote about him this year, they call these close ups and there are different students, but this is his.

aww! your boy friend sounds really cool! :3 i hope you two stay together for a long time!

[blackoutTaxonomist]

So I was talking to my best friend, who I affectionately call "Lil Ry-Ry", and I told him that when I was in Grade 11 I had a big crush on him, but did not tell him because he was smitten with one of my friends and I didn't want to get in the way. He started dating her, and I started dating one of his friends, and I forgot about it, essentially. Then we both broke up with our partners around the same time and we became closer, but I always kept my distance because I didn't want to ruin our friendship with the other two.

So then Ry says "Are you serious? I've been meaning to tell you I felt the same way. This is getting weird." ((Ry and I had a crush on the same girl, too, apparently, but she remained so oblivious to our flirting that we gave up x] He is my male counterpart. ))

It was like "What? We could have been together all this time? GAH. Ry-Ry, why you do this to me?"

This is a prime example of what I've been nagging you girls to do... Talk to the man in your life. You could be surprised. xD

[kimmy1479]

Any advice on how? I want to, but I don't know what to do or say. I don't want to be rude, but "Go up and talk to the person that you have never talked directly too in your life, and whom you have a crush on." isn't helpful. Mostly because I don't have the guts. XD But nevertheless, if you could give some advce on how please?

[broken*]

Just found out by my (Pretty much) first boyfriend ever, that he turned bi while with me... I've never felt this sh*tty before...I'm literally sobbing right now. I cant help it. I loved him with all my friggin heart. He was my first boyfriend, the first guy who made me feel special. And he just told me he's Bi.. I dont even know what "we" are anymore..