- trying to recover from years of repeated toxic relationships and trauma is.. difficult, a lot more than i expected. i don't know what's a red flag and what isn't, and any time i feel hurt i feel like it's wrong of me to feel that way even though people tell me that it's completely reasonable. ionno. i hardly even know what's "bare minimum" and what isn't. currently sitting and crying to myself because this guy i've been 'courting' or whatever can't even make any time for me; not because of work, just because he always goes to other people and i feel selfish for wanting any quality time with him.
i communicate with him the best i can, i tell him what bothers me and what i want/need out of our situation and i encourage him to do the same too. and it seems like he acknowledges it and understands it and just.. doesn't care, doesn't make any moves to make it better no matter how many times i tell him, and then gets confused when i'm too hurt and tired to even be excited to see him because i know that he's just talking to me in his 'spare time' while he freakin goofs off with our friends.
it feels wrong and unfair that i'm upset because it's only been a little over a week but my friends keep telling me that i have a right to be. i don't know.











