TheComfortCorner | V.9

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i am so so confused and it's making me confused because i feel one way and i also feel the other??

also i need to really get good practicing habits when it comes to piano. i don't think i have ever had good habits and i really need, seriously i need, to have them. wouldn't it make my life so much easier if i was productive and disciplined. lol.

[Meowdle]

Honestly I'm feeling pretty crappy about my art right now. I have a gazillion ideas but I can't seem to focus on just one. I just seem to be too out-of-energy to work on much lately ;u;

And I feel like my art has been looking lazy recently, and I HAVE been a bit lazy about it -- I just have SO much on my mind art-wise and I want to do it all but my mind seems to constantly change on what I should be doing. So I just run out of energy and get either too tired to do anything or to restless to have the patience to finish.

Any advice would be cool, but ya'll don't have to. I just needed to let this out.

I can definitely relate to this. My advice is to go on a site like artprompts.org and just play around with different styles/colors/themes until something feels right again! Also, try and focus on finishing one thing, be it a sketch or fully-rendered piece, it'll help a lot to just refocus your mind if you can. And know that it is okay to take breaks, not everything has to be done at one time^^ Best of luck to you♥

Thank you so much for the help!! I just now did a sketch based on a prompt from that site and it definitely helps with motivation ^^ I'll do my best to keep my mind focused on one thing at a time!! Thanks <3

[KiraWolf]

I can definitely relate to this. My advice is to go on a site like artprompts.org and just play around with different styles/colors/themes until something feels right again! Also, try and focus on finishing one thing, be it a sketch or fully-rendered piece, it'll help a lot to just refocus your mind if you can. And know that it is okay to take breaks, not everything has to be done at one time^^ Best of luck to you♥

Thank you so much for the help!! I just now did a sketch based on a prompt from that site and it definitely helps with motivation ^^ I'll do my best to keep my mind focused on one thing at a time!! Thanks <3

Very happy to help!! I'm so glad you got use from my advice!!♥♥♥

[| nefelibata |]

I don't even have costochondritis, I have Tietze Syndrome.

My grandmother told me I was faking the pain for attention
yesterday yet she has the audacity to tell me today that it's
genetic.

[fika.]

so many of you are hurting; i’m so so sorry i can’t respond.

hello guys,

i already dread writing this message. firstly, i just want to say you're all so amazing. every day we face a struggle that only makes us stronger. whether that be our favourite jumper pulls because we walked past a door to quick, or we had to cut ties with a toxic person, or other things. we lived with difficult people, and there are things we hate about ourselves. but each day we learn how to cope with it that little bit more, and each day is a new day. each day is a new day to start a new routine, a new hobby, a new career-path. a new day to start revising, to start exploring facts and figures of your favourite topics. a new day to make new friends, become the person you want to be.

you should all be so proud of who you are. no matter how many years we have been on this earth, no matter your religious beliefs or skin colour or the discrimination you have faced or the bullying you have been hit by, who you are today does not define who you were in the past and who you are in the future. you're doing amazing and no one could ask for anything more than what you are all already doing, which is your best.

secondly, my absence. i have been absent from posting on this topic for a while now. after coming back from my hiatus i had the urge to fulfil what i was doing a couple years ago; supporting each and everyone of you while offering comforting words as much as i could and sometimes advice. i love to do it, it's one of my favourite things. knowing i get to help you guys means the entire world to me no matter who you are or your past mistakes. having someone there to be a shoulder to lean on does so much and i am proud and glad to be that shoulder.

however, my absence. my mental health has gone downhill. the only thing on my mind is my nan that passed and other mental battles i face and the anxiety that comes with it. therefore, i feel as though my own depression is on the rise again. the only way i can battle this is to just become 'slightly' inactive. i still trade, answer pms (albeit it takes me a few days to bring up the mental strength and motivation to), and post in a couple forum game threads. however, i cannot keep posting on here. i wish i wrote this message sooner. helping everyone else only takes a toll on myself, and i am not doing great, not in the slightest.

i am travelling abroad this wednesday (8th of july, 2020 to be specific) and i will be gone for six weeks. i will not have that much access to the internet (my 3g is awful abroad), but, saying that, i will still be online one or two times a day. i will not be answering PMs for the simple fact i hate using PMs while on my mobile phone. however, i will be active on discord a few times a day. my discord is in my signature, but for clarification, it is " loopy coconut mcroni#3050 ". you are not a bother if you private message me, if you need support i can attempt to offer it with what little wifi i have to offer and mental strength lol.

i will always take the time out of my day to help you individually if you reach out to me, but at the moment, i do not have the mental ability to. when my own health is not right, i feel as though my words won't be either when i take up to two hours a day responding to all your posts when my mental state is not top-notch sparkly clean.

therefore, my next post here will be in august or september. i am gone for a very long time, and i need this time to breath. i will still post the daily links once a day or every other day. i'm sorry i'm gone for so long, you all mean so much to me. and, i reiterate, my discord is always available for your messages.

i send each and every one of you my upmost love, luck and support, you're doing amazing.

love,
xxxxxxfika.
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if you ever feel down or need a shoulder to cry on, my inbox is open. i have gathered links to help everyone when they need a distraction or are feeling low:

to help you smile:
list of little things - list of little things to help make you smile and be happy
smile things - cute colours and tumblr page to help you out
adorable - basically another tumblr that does the same as the ones above

to help you with anything else / distractions:
emergency compliments - if you ever feel poo, and nothing seems to cheer you up, this site is full of 'emergency compliments' which can make you laugh at how ridiculously brilliant they are.
casanova - where you stretch the giraffes neck to kiss other giraffes - like a soothing video game.
thunderstorms - control them!<3
how to change your life - just read it. it's amazing. too good.
player two - if you're feeling hurt or upset, visit here. it's a game. it's good.
koalas - if you're in need of a distraction that lasts a good five minutes, play this. it's fun, and if you love koalas it's even better!
stick man game - good distraction with a hopefuly message i made at the end!
random acts of kindness (video) - may make you feel all warm and gooey at how kind people are
list of things for those having a bad day!
quiet place project - one of my favourite places <3
comfort box - i highly recommend looking at this because it's the most amazing idea i've ever seen
ground box - similar to the one above

to help you with panic attacks:
i have loads of things that can help with your anxiety and panic attacks.

facts !!!!:
what not to say !!! - to someone who is having a panic attack, do not say these things

HERE IS SOME UPLIFTING NEWS IN THE TIMES OF THE BAD
'karunavirus'
'reddit'
'positivenews'
'huffpost'
'culture'


TUMBLR
i had made a tumblr a few years ago, but just recently remember my log in details. i hope to start using it again.

[breezey]

why are they SO DAMN CONFUSING .
can't believe i'm one of them too .

[Yibeullin]

why do i have to wait so long before i can have you

[bubbaberriboo]

x

[halo]

i did nothing to u but u still insist on torturing me. how do u not know ur wrong. itll be my fault when i break.

[Winstalgia]

hey guess who feels like a [crappy] person and a terrible friend? I DO

Last year, I was basically in love with this guy I had known for a while. Only at the beginning of the year had we actually started talking often, and hanging out. Turns out, he liked me too. I wasn't allowed to date, but I mean c'mon, it felt like a relationship, minus the kissing and holding hands and crap.

But then things got messy, and there was miscommunication, I was an anxious mess, and I couldn't handle myself so I left him.

It was the right choice to cut him from my life, I'll be frank; I definitely wasn't the most comfortable around him, and I don't think it would've lasted; even If I was the girl of his dreams, or he was the guy of my dreams, it wouldn't have worked and I stand by my actions. I did screw up before everything happened, and afterward,and I desperately want to apologize to him. My best friend says I shouldn't - that he is perfectly okay now, and tht I shoudln't apologize.

Is it better off with him thinking I'm a lying ass and that he didn't deserve me? If I apologize, he may feel bad that the reason we "broke up" was basically just miscommunication. I think I would rather him think I was lying about school, and that I really was going behind his back; it'll make him feel better about everything; in fact, he is glad it's over between us.

I don't miss him. I just feel like [crap]. I should've been a better friend to him- He said he didn't deserve me - I agree, he deserves someone better than me. Someone who will give him 100% more attention than I ever did. Someone who isn't afraid of growing close to someone

Oh, the problems I never knew I had-

I can never be in a relationship or even a strong freidnship until I sort out myself. I can't process my damn emotions properly; I put up a mental wall - my friends and even my Mom have pointed it out - I don't feel ecstatic anymore, my answer to anything about how I feel is "i dont know" How can I not know? It's myself; my emotions; my actions; my consequences!

And I swear the root of this is because of my Bio. Father. The person who hurt my Mom, the perosn who kept prommising me they would visit me and call me every week, but then stopped calling when I was 11.

I've tried to forgive my Father countless times. I can't. It's SO hard. I try month after month after year after year and I cannot. My Mom says I don't have to. I have an amazing step Dad.

I can never see myself in a long term relationship. Why go that far with someone if they may hurt you? Even if you fix the issue in the relationship, there's going to be trust issues that remain- so I learned with my Mom and Step-dad. Both awesome btw, but I can tell, it doesn't look the same since they first got married.

I don't think I'll ever accept and process myself until i get over my Father. It's been 5 years since I talked to him last. Ithink he's the reason I ignore my emotions- and every perosn who leaves me or upsets me adds to it-

Gosh.