Rosemoon wrote:You know I wish after all these years I learned how to deal with bullies. I'm pathetic trash apparently, I'm constantly told things like this though so instead of dealing with it I just tolerate it. Not sure what's wrong with me tbh.
Perhaps try to separate yourself from the situation. Think about things objectively. Why are these people saying these things? Confront them, ask them why they are saying these things. Is there something legitimate to their claims that can be worked on (we are not all perfect after all, everyone has flaws). If they're claims are unfounded, they can't give any constructive criticism, or they can't give an example of the behaviour, then you can likely dismiss them. Sometimes, people in your life are dead weight, and it is best to let them go.
If it is family giving you grief, ask them if you can have a conversation and express your feelings about the situation, let them know that you are being serious, if they don't think you are or if they try to play it off as a joke. And in that vein, try not to feel belittled or guilty if they say you take things too seriously. Sometimes things are a joke, but sometimes a joke is taken too far.
In my role at work, I was a team leader of sorts. I have a very blunt personality, and a lot of the time when I am trying to teach someone or show someone an error they've made, I can come across as really nasty and condescending. It's all in the tones I use and I never noticed it.
After hearing this from multiple people, some who I consider my friends, I realised that it wasn't just people out to get me, and I needed to work on those attributes, try and be a little more tactful when correcting issues with my team, be more mindful of what I'm saying and how I'm saying it.
I don't know if advice was what you were looking for, but I've experienced many forms of bullying through school and work, from people below and above me, so I really connected with your post. I hope you manage to get past this.