by Brûlée » Sun Apr 28, 2019 8:14 am
dear dad,
i miss you a lot. obviously.
i wish i could turn to your guidance for career paths. do you think i could handle doing public health? it's what i'm interested in, but i just worry about hard science classes. i think i can minor in it without them. i know you would have advice.
i feel the absence of you in the funniest ways. you'd always send me far too many emojis and gifs if i got a good grade on an exam. the pause i still take when i now text mom, instead of our group message.
i think about the argument we'd often have - i'd bring up an issue i had with your behavior, and you'd say "oh, so i'm the bad guy now. i'm just the absolute worst, i agree." it always infuriated me! did you genuinely believe that, or were you just trying to deflect? i'm still not sure. but in a way, i did want that. if you were truly a bad person, then i thought it'd be black and white. if you were awful, then i wouldn't have to be conflicted. i could hate you and i'd be justified, as opposed to the reality of you being a complicated person.
we're all complicated people. sometimes i feel like you never got that about me. but that's a biased memory. i worry that i'll start to lose every real memory of you - i go back and replay it, changing the memory and its accuracy. and now i can't get any new ones.
things may seem grim from this letter - it's just because i'm venting all the bad stuff! i think that things are actually pretty good for me right now. my relationship with my girlfriend is still going great - i wish you could have met them. grades are good, and i end most days satisfied.
you're gone, but your impact isnt. your fingerprints are all over my life. it's nice.
i love you so much.
from,
B.G.
SO WADDYA SAY
SUNSHINE ,
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