by Alex Danvers » Thu Sep 27, 2018 5:00 pm
(back for another so soon aha)
Dear J,
You were my best friend. You truly meant the world to me for a long-ish period of time. I was there for you and you were there for me; we were inseparable.
But then you got a new boyfriend, specifically, one who lived in our town, unlike the one before. You and I, we talked every day, almost every minute of the day.
You cared, but nowhere near as much as I needed. I forgave you time and time again for ditching me for your boyfriend. I was so oblivious. It hurt the most on Halloween night.. (days before, you invited me to hang out). That made me unbelievably happy; I’ve never spent a holiday with a friend before. When that night came, your boyfriend sent you a text asking you to hang out. You left me. You said you felt bad, but you only felt bad because you hurt me, not because you wanted to be around me. Not because you realized what you were doing was wrong. I remember how your sisters said “Wow, she just left you..” and how I was so fed up that I responded with “I’m used to it.” Of course it came back to you. I always made you feel bad for hurting me, but you always hurt me, so I think that was pretty fair.
When January came along, your responses became slower and shorter. I would always question you because the anxiety killed me inside. You always told me you were busy, which was wrong. Maybe you got busy sometimes, but when you sit in my car and tell me about your texts between you and your boyfriend, you’re a liar. I realize now why it took me so long to realize how bad of a friend you were. It’s because I had no one. It’s because my anxiety caused me to focus so much on you and what I did wrong to cause such changes in our friendship.
When we hung out at the fair, you brung your ex boyfriend along. Truthfully, I’m the one who made the night way worse than it should have been. But you shouldn’t have involved him, not when it was our night.
You, your boyfriend, and your cousin talked badly about me. You called me clingy. Your cousin said that I’m a terrible third/fourth wheel. Your boyfriend said I never gave you and him alone time. Listen, I was clingy because I was afraid. I was afraid of losing our friendship. I was clingy because I was scared that if I wasn’t, you’d leave me. And the thing about me not giving you two alone time? Well, hun, if you wanted alone time, why would the two of you stand half a foot in front of me, making out, every day? I’m not even exaggerating. You never even took up for me. I found out about this through a friend of mine (who didn’t take up for me either, and guess what? We’re not friends now either). I confronted you. You got mad. You took your boyfriend’s side.
During lunch, you would get mad if I was unhappy, but I was unhappy because you ignored me. My unhappiness caused me to ruin potential fun times with other friends. I did everything for you. I drove you home and to work. I took you out places to eat (only seldom would I pay, though). I cared for you when you were upset. I loved you. Mother tried telling me you didn’t care as much as I did, but I wouldn’t have it.
I blame you. I blame you for my terrible anxiety, I really do. I don’t normally blame people for my mental issues, but I do blame you. I hate you for the way you’ve treated me. You tried to become friends with me again on my birthday and I almost actually gave in. I did agree to hanging out, but after that, realized we were never going to be best friends again, thankfully. I truthfully hate you now.
Sincerely,
Your ex best friend.