♥Crushes, Boyfriends, and Girlfriends | V6♥

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@house of gold- Thank you so much!(:
Aww great (:

[doglover22468]

Just a little back story it's important to this.
My family and I move around about every school so I have to make new friends then leave them but we finally stayed here for 2 almost 3 years ok now for this

Ok so I have known this guy lets call him A since my first day of school in this state 2 years ago we really connected but just as friends we were in two classes together and he was the first person I talked to and really trusted as nothing happened we were just friends. But the next year came along we were in all the same classes like that past year we were just friends but this year change a lot two months ago I I found out I had feelings for him my best friend told him two weeks ago but when she told him we stoped talking till yesterday. One of my other friends said he said I like one girl but I kinda like this other girl but when we were talking I felt a connection between us I had never felt before so now I don't know if he likes me
If you need more information send me a message and I will
But some one please help

[Lincoln]

Any tips on long distance?
My boyfriend and I will be separated towards the end of July, and it might be several years, so I want to learn how to have a long distance relationship before I leave. We've been dating for 6 months, and we both want each other in our lives forever. So we'll try our best to be together, and I know it'll be hard, but if I keep him in my life it's worth it.
So, anyone here in a long distance relationship? Any tips?
Fortunately, I'm only going to be living 12 hours away, so I will be able to visit as soon as I settle down. And he will be able to fly out to my location, so we will see each other every once in a while.
Patience, y'know?

[Vvildern]

Any tips on long distance?
My boyfriend and I will be separated towards the end of July, and it might be several years, so I want to learn how to have a long distance relationship before I leave. We've been dating for 6 months, and we both want each other in our lives forever. So we'll try our best to be together, and I know it'll be hard, but if I keep him in my life it's worth it.
So, anyone here in a long distance relationship? Any tips?
Fortunately, I'm only going to be living 12 hours away, so I will be able to visit as soon as I settle down. And he will be able to fly out to my location, so we will see each other every once in a while.
Patience, y'know?

So I'm just jumping in here, I hope you don't mind. I know what having a long distance relationship is like, and it is hard. But it's not impossible. My boyfriend and I have been together now going on 6 years, all the way through high school and college. And now we actually live together with our fur babies. The main thing is communication, and understanding. You won't always be able to pick up your phone the instant he messages, and vice versa. Don't panic over the little things like that. Phone calls are also much better than texts, if you have the opportunity. It's nice to set up a regular phone call schedule, maybe a couple times a week when you're both free.
Keeping conversation alive can also become difficult over time. It may feel like you run out of things to talk about. So instead of trying to find things to tell him all the time, make sure you give him lots of opportunities to tell you about how he's doing, what new project he's working on, the cool movie he went to see, etc. Hopefully he will reciprocate, and prompt you to tell him things too.
Jealousy can get all up in there too sometimes. I remember developing a really unhealthy jealousy of my boyfriend's college classmates, because they got to see him every day when I couldn't. Try not to let that get to you too much. It's part of whats keeping him happy and occupied while you can't be with him.
If you're really serious about this guy, it's gonna take a certain level of maturity along with mass amounts of patience. From both of you.
That's another thing to be aware of. Don't be the only one hanging on. If you feel like he isn't connecting with you as much anymore, be sure to talk to him about it in a calm, and rational way. Make sure he feels like he can be honest with you, and make sure you feel like you can be honest with him. If one of you gets too tired of the distance, and it becomes more difficult than what can be fixed, don't drag each other down.
Okay, before I finish writing my little book here (sorry lol T^T), I have one more tip: Try to stay as positive, supportive, and loving as you can. If you can tell he's feeling down, don't drag him down more by going on about how hard it is. Find the uplifting things as much as you can, for both of your sakes. For example: this situation will teach both of you how to be more independent, and how to see the light in things even when you're alone, because you know you're loved. You are each getting to experience wildly different things, and grow so much. And once you're back together, you'll both be stronger and better people for it.

(P.S. I'm not used to giving advice, so I really hope this came across as helpful in some way, even if not all of it applies!)

[liv :)]

So, my crush has a girlfriend.

Which is fine with me. I wouldn't exactly say I'm jealous? Just sad. This is the way crushes always end for me. I know my feelings for him won't last forever, but I'm worried that things will always be this way. Unreciprocated feelings of attraction. Never to be romantically loved by someone who I romantically love. I'm probably jumping to conclusions here... But it would make sense. I'm not attractive nor am I a good person. Why would anyone want me to be their significant other? I can't see a reason.

[kittykore]

When some friends and most of your family say "We don't see you ever marrying. Only living with cats" it's very upsetting it makes me feel like there is no one for me. Don't they see that hurts me.

[Vvildern]

(I hope it's okay to reply to two ((or three?)) posts consecutively. I'm feeling super empathetic right now and want to try to help all of you even if I don't know what I'm talking about prolly T^T)

@bahznoir I wish you wouldn't think of yourself that way... ;-; I know it's hard when nothing seems to work out right, but I hope someday you can see that your attractiveness and worth doesn't depend on romantic feelings from others. I felt that way for a long time. It's painful, and feels hopeless. But if you don't feel like you're a good person, maybe that's the first place to start? Find ways to grow and become the person you want to be. Your definition of a "good person" I suppose. Take time to self reflect and see the parts of yourself you don't like, and nurture yourself into a healthy and happy person who emits a radiant self-worth instead. Then for sure, the right person will see you for who you really are with the layer of low self-esteem pushed away. And even if it takes a while, then with that mindset I'm sure you'll realize that it's okay <3

@mimiblitz that's a sucky feeling... I'm 100% positive they don't realize that it hurts you. Maybe they think they're making light of the situation, and trying to be supportive in a kind of backwards and naive way. It could be that they think of you as really independent, or that perhaps they feel no one is good enough for their awesome friend/family member (in a "you're so great they don't deserve you" way)? Maybe try opening up to the ones you trust and telling them your concerns. Let them know that it does make you feel a little insecure about the subject, and I'm sure they will assure you that's not what they meant to do at all.

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Just a little back story it's important to this.
My family and I move around about every school so I have to make new friends then leave them but we finally stayed here for 2 almost 3 years ok now for this

Ok so I have known this guy lets call him A since my first day of school in this state 2 years ago we really connected but just as friends we were in two classes together and he was the first person I talked to and really trusted as nothing happened we were just friends. But the next year came along we were in all the same classes like that past year we were just friends but this year change a lot two months ago I I found out I had feelings for him my best friend told him two weeks ago but when she told him we stoped talking till yesterday. One of my other friends said he said I like one girl but I kinda like this other girl but when we were talking I felt a connection between us I had never felt before so now I don't know if he likes me
If you need more information send me a message and I will
But some one please help

I wish you luck! I really hope he will like you.
Maybe you want to tell him that feeling by making a hint like putting a small note or writing a poem,
Anyway if you need more help, PM me.

[Lincoln]

@Vvildern
Thank you!
I've sent it to him and we will be sure to think about your advice. I think things are going to work out, as we're both pretty excited to do LDR.