SoupPupped wrote:oh god, this is the first drama i've ever had, and as a younger person, the smallest bad thing tears apart the little world i know, so this seems like a lot bigger deal to me than someone who's, say, 50. warning, dumb teenage drama ahead, read at your own risk. just had to vent to let it out.
last night was homecoming. it was my first time going to any dance as i'm typically a quiet person who only hangs out in small groups of friends every now and then at the beach. after a lot of talking, though, my friends in rotc convinced me to go, and hearing my crush was going made me finally decide to buy the ticket. so i went, and it was a lot of fun. my crush, his brother, and about 5 or 6 other kids from our friend group danced together and generally acted like idiots. i went outside to sit down and breathe because even in a dress, it was hot as hell in there with 300 teenagers bouncing around in a small cafeteria. i ended up sitting with one of my friends outside of rotc, and he knew i liked my crush. well, it came up in a conversation and my crush's ex happened to be sitting right there. she said that my crush had cheated on her right before they broke up, and my crush's brother agreed that it was true. i ended up getting pissed off and spent an hour or so just hanging out with yet another small friend group when one of my rotc buddies came up and told me my crush wanted to talk to me. so i decided to go talk to him. give everyone a chance to speak their mind, yeah? he was standing off away from everyone else so i went to talk to him. when i got up to him, he took off his glasses, and he looked genuinely sad and concerned. he told me how he would never hurt a girl, especially in terms of cheating, and i decided to give him a chance, whether it was true or not. we promised to make up and dance later that night. i go back to the rotc group while my crush went back inside to buy a soda. 20 minutes before the dance was over, i decided to go look for my crush to make sure he was okay. i saw his brother running towards the exit and i catch up to him, asking what happened. he said his brother was pissed for some reason and that they had to go. i text my crush, asking what happened and if what he said about not cheating was true, and he basically told me to drop it since it wasn't my business. i was kind of hurt, and i can't stop thinking about it. i don't care what he did in the past, we all make mistakes especially as teenagers, and i want to give him a chance, but now he won't respond to my texts anymore so i guess i'll just talk to him when i see him next either tomorrow or tuesday. anyone have advice as to what i should say to him? this is, like i said, the first drama i've encountered in my entire life, and as a moody teenager, i have absolutely no idea how to handle it.
I read with much interest through your entire story. First off, when you diminish your problems because they seem ridiculous out loud compared to the troubles of others, you are for sure being too kind and too gracious with how upset you're feeling. Emotion is not weighted by the same scale, so don't be nervous. No one's going to think your problems are ridiculous unless they're the one upping kind. And hearing your story I don't think it's ridiculous at all to be upset.
When a night already filled with anxiety for what's to unfold becomes the nightmare you imagined it might be, it's terrifying. How I see it from what you described is that your crush is currently in a stage where he is a little timid and afraid to take blame or own up to his past decisions. Or even deny it if it's not true. You're right! Everyone makes mistakes, especially when it comes to teens in a relationship because we don't yet value the prescence of others until consequence is slapped in our face in the form of confronting a bad rep, anger from our exes, and rumours - true or false. Since I'm a little foggy on why your ex became mad (as I'm sure you are yourself), wether or not he's a good guy is for you to determined. But please don't hurt yourself, or try to be overly supportive (more than you would naturally be with him) in order to make him at ease with you.
My advice would be to take your crush not responding to you with a grain of salt. He's mad at someone, at himself, his situation, or (possibly and very wrongly) you or his ex. Anger takes time, and confrontation should be made when you've both had a chance to clear your heads, or else pride could easily get in the way and turn it into something you didn't expect it to.
Since I'm not too clear of the situation, I may be wrong in what I'm saying, but certain things ring true for any situation. Anyways, keep your head up. Often times teenage drama is more than teenage drama. Don't dismiss your emotions as anything other than raw and true.
@blakebelladonna
Oh boy, how I understand how you're feeling. My already timid stomach is exploding with thousands of butterflies and I'm sure there's thousands of us who feel as you do right very now. Take a deep breath, stare at the wall, splash your face with cold water, and cry. If you can't force yourself to, I find that those Thai insurance ads on YouTube are the most depressing things I've ever seen. Try one or two. Please PM me if you're comfortable and tell me about it.
Sorry for the long paragraph!
) and talks to that new friend of mine. Before I know it, they're both doing stuff without me and she says things about me and makes the new person not like me.
