TheComfortCorner | v.6

[blathma;;]

It's just a little thing, but I accidentally stepped on my cat's tail today and I feel really guilty. She's fine, and she likes me, but I just feel really bad.

That type of thing happens sometimes, I'm sure she won't hold it against you xD. When I was younger, I'd accidentally step on my cat's tail all the time. Granted I never felt great about it, but you can't go back and change things.

[SkullyNat0r]

hey, I haven't really been here before but I really need to vent.
I don't want to bother my real life friends because they get really judgy at times and most online friends sleep right now
(yay timezones.)

I've been jobless for a year now and finally gathered up the courage to seek help within the local autorities which are supposed to help with young people that have trouble of finding a job.
(note on the side I've been actively searching and applying the whole time and keep getting rejected it's really starting to take a toll on me mentally)

Now even my desperate cry for help gets rejected, because I am basically to old for that system I also got a load of suggestions to help of which I've allready done that.... do they really think I am that stupid? to not look for a job outside of the employment field I studied for?... I've tried all the jobs available that one won't even need and education for and still get turned down...
even though I'm getting compliments on my work, first impression at an interview and so on.

Been crying for pretty much whole day now.. I'll figure it out probably I just can't handle it anymore today.
I just want a reset button to go back to my school days and somehow try to do better....
I dunno >.< I really dunno...

thanks for letting me vent though, atleast typing it out along big lines (aka without details) calmed me down a little bit.

[~IronRose~]

well i'mback again
to talk about something that i have only talked to my sister about, and not even fully.
its about her. she is just poison and is working her way back into my life and i'm terrified. i can't push her away because she will blow it out of proportion i cant speak my mind because our parents are friends and if she says something to her mom her mom will get mad at my mom and it would get rotten for me. she would take the friends that we have as mutuals and twist my words.

i met her about 6 years ago. she was manipulative, every other week said she didn't want to be my friend and then she would come back. not once has she said sorry to me. she would kick me and hit me and reel me back in my trying to boost myself esteem but then bring it down again. she would call me names then a week or two later say she was kidding, but again she would never say sorry. whenever something she did to me that hurt me, she would twist it around and make it seem like it was my fault. she didn't want me to be anyone elses friend, she want ed me to only be her friend and it scared me, she tried to keep me away from people because she didn't like them. and i believed it was. i became so stressed out i stopped eating i lost twent pounds and i wasn't healthy. she made me feel like absolute crap, she made me take the blame, she made me, knowing i had anxiety, make all the big decisions when she is the most social person i know. she would put me in the most uncomfortable situations, and whenever somewthing bad happened she would play victim adn im writing this while panicking because its been months and i thought she was gone for good but now she is back just because i was nice and talked to her just because we shared a class and sat at the same table just because we shared a friend and now she thinks she can come back and i cant handle it and i cant push her away because i cant stand up to her i dont know what to do. my friends dont know about what she has done they dont know how i feel around her and i cant stand it. i dont want to call her abusive because we werent in a romantic relation but my sister tries to tell me she is toxic that she is abusive and i dont understand it. i dont understand and i cant handle it i fee l like im going to explodde.

Okay, right off the bat I am going to agree with your sister and say that she is abusive. These are common abusive behaviors designed to control and manipulate people, and it is wrong, you don't deserve this. Know that it is not your fault, not at all, there will not be any victim blaming here. What I would suggest doing is telling a parent, a teacher, or a counselor, they can give you better advice on the situation because I want to make sure that you are safe. If you have to, and it gets to this point, you may want to consider a restraining order against this girl. This is not right and you need to take charge of your own life and your happiness. You are important and you matter. It is not your fault. Please message me if you need to talk some more but I hope this helps.

i dont know how to feel about whats going on right now
i just feel like everyone is going to leave soon or start hating me
and im losing the girl i love and i cant say anything because im not out
as bi yet and she doesnt know i like her

i might get kicked from something important at school because i cant
find a stupid slip of paper and im honestly ready to just give up on this

Hey, there will be no giving up today. I want you to go out and seek your happiness, take charge of what you want because you deserve to. Tell that girl you like her before it's too late, she may even like you back and it's always better to get it out of the way now instead of never knowing which tends to eat at you for some time. And listen, don't worry about everyone leaving or hating you, and if they do then that's their loss, you can always meet new people and make new friends. I wish you all the best and I hope you feel better soon. And I hope you find that paper slip, it's probably hiding in plain sight. Feel free to message me any time you want and I'll respond asap.

It's just a little thing, but I accidentally stepped on my cat's tail today and I feel really guilty. She's fine, and she likes me, but I just feel really bad.

I accidentally hit my dog with a door today, i felt really bad but I know she still loves me because she probably knows that it was an accident. Just give your cat a few treats and I'm sure she'll forgive you. Message me to let me know how it goes if you want to.

My best friend, my really close friend, actually the first friend I have trusted just a little bit, and I, are having problems. It's a long story, but basically, she grew attracted to someone over the summer during band camp. We are both in band together, BTW. Anyways, she has decided to not walk with me but instead her crush. She has also stopped to talking to me and go to her crush. She spends every waking moment she has with them. We only have first and last period together, and she has last period with her crush. Last period is band BTW. Anyways, we talk on the phone but it's awkward silence most of the time. She always say we are best friends and we aren't going to drift apart but at this point, I feel like she isn't there.



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Different problem, I have three guys who like me, problem is, I don't have feelings for them. I hardly know them. First guy, is totally not my type and is a little annoying, second guy just broke up with my good friend and he is very flirty with me and I know he is trying to ask me out, he told my friend he was going to. Last guy, is super narcissistic and follows me every where, I saw him in my lunch period staring at me and he doesn't share the same lunch period as me. He is always flagging me down in the hallway and asks me stuff like, do like skating? Are you going to the football game?, I know I sound stupid but it just creeps me out. I guess Im just overreacting but eh...

I'm sorry about your friends, but that's what people do. Love can make people irrational and rude sometimes and at most times they don't even realize it. Try talking to her about it and make sure to say that you are happy for her but that you also don't want to lose your friendship. If she understands she'll put more effort into your friendship but if not, I'm sorry and I know that you can find someone even better. If she doesn't think you're worth it then she shouldn't be worth your time either, I know it's harsh but sometimes that's the truth of it. And don't be afraid to go make other friends if you are feeling alone and feel free to message me any time. And with they guys that like you, don't worry about not liking any of them back, you don't owe them anything. You are allowed to find someone who makes you happy and that you want to be with. It's okay to think about yourself, because you are important and worth it.

hahahhhhaaaaaaa - so i talk about having romantic cravings and shiz, and it turns out my crush really likes me, but is too stuck up to talk to me. So much so that if I were to try talking to him, he'd do his best to turn his nose up at me, but he's always trying to impress me in front of my parents, and he smiles at me and teases me. He tries his best to spook me and get my adrenaline flowing. He's hot, he's nice [at times, most of the time he's a total.... AAAAUGH] he flirts like a second grader. He'd be the one that pulls and tugs on my hair, and I yell at him and kick him in retaliation, and as we get older we have crushes on each other... but like, I'm at the I want to date him stage, and he's still at the I want to pull your hair and get you in trouble stage.

Okay, first off, tell him to stop pulling your hair. It's rude and is not a sign of love, he should be hugging you and lightly bushing his fingers trough your hair, not pulling it. And if he is too stuck up to talk to you about his feelings then bring it up to him. It's better to get this conversation out of the way instead of waiting in silence and wondering if you two will end up together. I'd also suggest posting this on the "Boyfriends Girlfriends and Crushs" fourm.

hey, I haven't really been here before but I really need to vent.
I don't want to bother my real life friends because they get really judgy at times and most online friends sleep right now
(yay timezones.)

I've been jobless for a year now and finally gathered up the courage to seek help within the local autorities which are supposed to help with young people that have trouble of finding a job.
(note on the side I've been actively searching and applying the whole time and keep getting rejected it's really starting to take a toll on me mentally)

Now even my desperate cry for help gets rejected, because I am basically to old for that system I also got a load of suggestions to help of which I've allready done that.... do they really think I am that stupid? to not look for a job outside of the employment field I studied for?... I've tried all the jobs available that one won't even need and education for and still get turned down...
even though I'm getting compliments on my work, first impression at an interview and so on.

Been crying for pretty much whole day now.. I'll figure it out probably I just can't handle it anymore today.
I just want a reset button to go back to my school days and somehow try to do better....
I dunno >.< I really dunno...

thanks for letting me vent though, atleast typing it out along big lines (aka without details) calmed me down a little bit.

I'm sure you'll find a job soon and be able to put this all behind you. Don't cry, please don't cry. Things get tough but that is what makes you tougher. Just relax, keep your composure, and focus on your goal. Maybe try revising your resume, that can help.
I hope you find a job soon, good luck and message me if you need any more help

[Prolix]

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[SkullyNat0r]

hey, I haven't really been here before but I really need to vent.
I don't want to bother my real life friends because they get really judgy at times and most online friends sleep right now
(yay timezones.)

I've been jobless for a year now and finally gathered up the courage to seek help within the local autorities which are supposed to help with young people that have trouble of finding a job.
(note on the side I've been actively searching and applying the whole time and keep getting rejected it's really starting to take a toll on me mentally)

Now even my desperate cry for help gets rejected, because I am basically to old for that system I also got a load of suggestions to help of which I've allready done that.... do they really think I am that stupid? to not look for a job outside of the employment field I studied for?... I've tried all the jobs available that one won't even need and education for and still get turned down...
even though I'm getting compliments on my work, first impression at an interview and so on.

Been crying for pretty much whole day now.. I'll figure it out probably I just can't handle it anymore today.
I just want a reset button to go back to my school days and somehow try to do better....
I dunno >.< I really dunno...

thanks for letting me vent though, atleast typing it out along big lines (aka without details) calmed me down a little bit.

I'm sure you'll find a job soon and be able to put this all behind you. Don't cry, please don't cry. Things get tough but that is what makes you tougher. Just relax, keep your composure, and focus on your goal. Maybe try revising your resume, that can help.
I hope you find a job soon, good luck and message me if you need any more help

Thanks for your responce, I'm doing a bit better now, just kinda feel empty. Cuddled my animals alot and send out more applications. I always make sure my resume is on point same for my cover letter those are things I get complimented on even, it is mostly that in my country people are looking for employers with a lot of experience which someone who recently graduated doesn't have since internships don't even seem to count
Also reached out to government instances which is hard to do for me because I have tons of anxities and insecurities on the social level. I will manage advantually it is just really hard to cope with at times, causing me to completely break down into a useless puddle of tears >_<

[chirp.]

well i'mback again
to talk about something that i have only talked to my sister about, and not even fully.
its about her. she is just poison and is working her way back into my life and i'm terrified. i can't push her away because she will blow it out of proportion i cant speak my mind because our parents are friends and if she says something to her mom her mom will get mad at my mom and it would get rotten for me. she would take the friends that we have as mutuals and twist my words.

i met her about 6 years ago. she was manipulative, every other week said she didn't want to be my friend and then she would come back. not once has she said sorry to me. she would kick me and hit me and reel me back in my trying to boost myself esteem but then bring it down again. she would call me names then a week or two later say she was kidding, but again she would never say sorry. whenever something she did to me that hurt me, she would twist it around and make it seem like it was my fault. she didn't want me to be anyone elses friend, she want ed me to only be her friend and it scared me, she tried to keep me away from people because she didn't like them. and i believed it was. i became so stressed out i stopped eating i lost twent pounds and i wasn't healthy. she made me feel like absolute crap, she made me take the blame, she made me, knowing i had anxiety, make all the big decisions when she is the most social person i know. she would put me in the most uncomfortable situations, and whenever somewthing bad happened she would play victim adn im writing this while panicking because its been months and i thought she was gone for good but now she is back just because i was nice and talked to her just because we shared a class and sat at the same table just because we shared a friend and now she thinks she can come back and i cant handle it and i cant push her away because i cant stand up to her i dont know what to do. my friends dont know about what she has done they dont know how i feel around her and i cant stand it. i dont want to call her abusive because we werent in a romantic relation but my sister tries to tell me she is toxic that she is abusive and i dont understand it. i dont understand and i cant handle it i fee l like im going to explodde.

okay, honey, from one abuse survivor to another, you need to know that your sister is absolutely right. what's happening here is abuse - textbook abuse -- because abuse doesn't only happen within a romantic relationship. it can be from parents, siblings, classmates, uncles, aunts, anybody who will constantly manipulate and hurt you on a long-term scale. this is a really big issue, and it shouldn't be diminished by anyone. this is more than just a "bad friend," it's verbal abuse and physical assault, and people need to know that. the next thing you should know is that what's happening is not your fault; you're trying to be nice to her and she's using it to hurt you. she's trying to trap you, but you can get out. you don't have to deal with her again. you need to get away from her, though that'll mean doing some things you didn't think you could do, and it'll mean you'll have to be brave. you can do it, and you should, because it's the best thing you can do for yourself and anyone else this girl has hurt.

i've been in a similar situation, and sometimes the easiest way to get away from it is to reach out. please don't keep this to yourself. it is really hard to open up, however i promise you that by telling people close to you, you'll find that you're much stronger than you think. if you don't want to bring it up in person, you can write a letter or an email to the person you need to tell, or text them if they have a phone. your mom needs to know so that you have an adult who can back you up and advocate for you. i would speak to her first. i also recommend seeing your school counselor and telling them, or if you can afford it see a private therapist. if you have friends who you know will believe you, it might be a good idea to let them know as well. it's really, really important to build up a support network before taking action. they'll be able to catch you if you fall, speak up for you if you can't, and help you access resources that will help you recover. a support network functions as airbags in a car; they'll cushion bad things that come your way so that you won't get the worst of it.

when you have your mom on your side and adults to advocate for you, you (and your network) can take this to your abuser's parents. if they know what's going on they'll be able to help you nip this in the bud. now, there is a chance they won't care, and if that happens you'll want to go to the school and get their support. they might ask you for a statement, which is a letter specifying your 'friend's' abusive actions and behaviors. you might have to give examples of things she has said and done to you. emphasize the effect it's had on you, mentally and physically, because that's an important thing for them to know. without seeing the damage done by a storm we have no way of knowing how bad it is. ask to be moved to a different class. keep a copy of this statement for yourself as well, because if the school doesn't anything, you may have enough evidence to get the police involved if that's what it takes. at the very worst, you may have to find another school away from this person (if that's an option), but don't worry about that unless you have no other way, alright?

please consider these suggestions, okay? you don't have to take this kind of treatment. you don't have to take this kind of abuse. there are people who will stand up for you and fight for you, but they can't unless they know what's going on. it's okay to be afraid, and it's okay to be hurt. this is a scary situation... if i could help you from here, i absolutely would; no one should ever have to deal with this. you deserve so much better. just know that you're not trapped, even if it feels that way. it's possible to get out, and you have options. you can get away from her. you can be safe again. it'll take some doing, and you can do it. you deserve to feel safe.

if you're comfortable with it, please keep me updated, okay? if you need any one-on-one support to get through this, my inbox is always open to you. ❤

[UltimateKitty]

some dogs came here while i was at school and they killed one of the kittens that live outside

rip mac, we loved you

[SilentMelody]

I'm so depressed.
I'm so confused about my sexuality. it hurts my head just to think about it, and it stresses me out so much. no one around me understands how I feel, so I have no one to talk to.
sometimes I feel like I might be lesbian and like girls, but there's another part of me that says I'm straight and like guys. there's also this part that tells me I'm bisexual and like both. there's also the chance that I'm queer, which is just a whole different story.
I don't even know anymore..ugh. people tell me I have my whole life to think about it, but what if I'm middle aged or old when I finally figure it out? I won't find love then, and I don't understand how to find it now.

[SkullyNat0r]

I'm so depressed.
I'm so confused about my sexuality. it hurts my head just to think about it, and it stresses me out so much. no one around me understands how I feel, so I have no one to talk to.
sometimes I feel like I might be lesbian and like girls, but there's another part of me that says I'm straight and like guys. there's also this part that tells me I'm bisexual and like both. there's also the chance that I'm queer, which is just a whole different story.
I don't even know anymore..ugh. people tell me I have my whole life to think about it, but what if I'm middle aged or old when I finally figure it out? I won't find love then, and I don't understand how to find it now.

People are right, you do have your whole life to think about it, I understand this very well,
I switch a lot on what I like as well and that is nothing to be worried about.
I bet that once you meet the right person it will just feel good, no matter what gender they are
Those are just labels and labels don't define persons in my opinion, thats how I learnt to be at peace with the fact that I change my mind often, just follow your heart and it will lead you to the right person and don't be afraid to make mistakes inbetween,
because mistakes are just part of the journey and you will definitely learn from those.
Hope I managed to somehow calm your mind a bit dear,
stay strong and try not to worry to much <3

[arabella !!]

My grandmother is dying and I can't wrap my head around it enough to feel anything... I'm just empty. My mother is really upset, but there's nothing I can say. You can't say that things will be alright; death isn't curable.

Death is also a part of life. I bet your grandmother is really sweet and kind, and I'm sure she'll be in a better place when the time comes. We're all gonna go someday, make sure to spend every last moment with her and try to reassure your mom. <3