TheComfortCorner | v.6

[wandzie.]

I'm worked up in a massive state of anxiety over tomorrow.

So for those who don't know, I'm a young teen girl (can't say my age obviously) yet when I'm older I want to work with kids, so I'm volunteering at my local athletics club on a Monday night.

It's so so fun, the other coaches who are all guys, get on really well with me and I feel like that one night a week, we're like family. One of them is slightly older than me and the other two are middle aged guys. Helping out with the kids there is the highlight of my entire week, hands down.

Some of the kids there have been good enough to get into competitions in our city, and there's a big one coming up. The practise for it is tomorrow night.

Normally, I would be OK, but last time there was a practise, I wasn't.

I didn't know that all the other clubs linked with ours were coming to practise too, and that included the seniors who are my age. All their helpers were there too (all middle aged adults), and didn't know I was a helper. They thought I was part of the seniors and kept looking at me like "why is she just standing there?" And I know maybe they didn't think that, but I have severe anxiety and tend to think people are thinking that stuff and started panicking.

Only one of the guys from Monday night was there, but he was teaching and I had to go off to a random group where I knew no one and just stood at the side because I wasn't taking part, I was supposed to be a coach, but the two adults taking that group didn't know me.

I'm really worried it's going to be like that tomorrow. Please could I have some advice? I really need some ways on how I can do this.
I know this is such a small problem, but I'm making myself ill with worry.

[Princess Taozi]

I'm not super upset just a bit deflated...so we are doing a very easy topic in Algebra right now (Statistics) and lately this semester I've been doing so well keeping a 98% average....but one test today it was multiple choice supposed to be easy....and I got an 80 on that this drops me down to a 96 and it's so annoying when I do well on quizzes and tests my grade doesn't raise but when I do badly it drops so much all of my hard work keeping my grades down and then I go on to be stupid and get an 80 honestly I'm deflated welll I guess I gotta study more and pay attention more....:cccc
Idk I feel like I've lost my confidence in math again

[caf.]

oh god no i messed up b a d
i'm so scared i just know i did something wrong and this is all my fault
i want to help but i can't nobody will let me i have to fix things but i'm stuck
please don't let this happen please be okay please please no

[MEAT!]

ap classes are so stressful
taking more than one ap
class makes me want to
rip all my hair out

;n;

[Totty]

I've been feeling down lately, and I can't get over how stupid I look. I'm just, ugly.
My crush pointed out to me that I have a "mustache".
It hurts even more coming from my CRUSH. Now I know that he'll never like me beCAuSe hE toTaLLY hAs a thInG f0R gIRls wiTH THat gOOD 'StAchE mAN. Ugh, and please don't be like, "oooh, you're so pretty, you just don't know it, oooh, you're pretty, and I know this, blahhh, pretty, pretty.." because you can't say that if you've never seen me!

I have no curves,
an ugly shaped face,
huge hair with disgusting frizzy curls,
a horrible sense of fashion,
I'm awfully skinny,
I have glasses,
crooked, gross teeth...

So don't tell me I'm pretty, and don't compliment me. That garbage doesn't work, and no, I'm not fishing for compliments.

I can't STAND myself. I want to barf at my horrid appearance.
If there's anything someone can tell me, please do... I've tried EVERYTHING. People tell me I'm gorgeous, and they envy my curls... I feel good about myself, I'm proud, but when I look in that monster of a mirror... I'm not good enough.

I can't stand being in school, the work is hard, and I feel like I'm being judged... I feel insecure. All the girls... are so much prettier... I'm ugly, and I can't change it... it kills me.

I feel greedy now, making such a big deal out of just looks, while there's so many people in this world suffering, injured, and I'm here... just... yeah... I'm such an idiot.

I just wish people would see past someone's skin and hair, and for once... just look at the heart?

[niconiishikino]

I need a PM.
Quickly please..

[alleyway]

I've been feeling down lately, and I can't get over how stupid I look. I'm just, ugly.
My crush pointed out to me that I have a "mustache".
It hurts even more coming from my CRUSH. Now I know that he'll never like me beCAuSe hE toTaLLY hAs a thInG f0R gIRls wiTH THat gOOD 'StAchE mAN. Ugh, and please don't be like, "oooh, you're so pretty, you just don't know it, oooh, you're pretty, and I know this, blahhh, pretty, pretty.." because you can't say that if you've never seen me!

I have no curves,
an ugly shaped face,
huge hair with disgusting frizzy curls,
a horrible sense of fashion,
I'm awfully skinny,
I have glasses,
crooked, gross teeth...

So don't tell me I'm pretty, and don't compliment me. That garbage doesn't work, and no, I'm not fishing for compliments.

I can't STAND myself. I want to barf at my horrid appearance.
If there's anything someone can tell me, please do... I've tried EVERYTHING. People tell me I'm gorgeous, and they envy my curls... I feel good about myself, I'm proud, but when I look in that monster of a mirror... I'm not good enough.

I can't stand being in school, the work is hard, and I feel like I'm being judged... I feel insecure. All the girls... are so much prettier... I'm ugly, and I can't change it... it kills me.

I feel greedy now, making such a big deal out of just looks, while there's so many people in this world suffering, injured, and I'm here... just... yeah... I'm such an idiot.

I just wish people would see past someone's skin and hair, and for once... just look at the heart?

I understand how you feel, I often feel fat but there is always someone who says you aren't fat. But it's their perspective against mine. I look fat in my eyes but to other's I don't. I don't think a lot of people understand perspective when it comes to self beauty.

[Totty]

I've been feeling down lately, and I can't get over how stupid I look. I'm just, ugly.
My crush pointed out to me that I have a "mustache".
It hurts even more coming from my CRUSH. Now I know that he'll never like me beCAuSe hE toTaLLY hAs a thInG f0R gIRls wiTH THat gOOD 'StAchE mAN. Ugh, and please don't be like, "oooh, you're so pretty, you just don't know it, oooh, you're pretty, and I know this, blahhh, pretty, pretty.." because you can't say that if you've never seen me!

I have no curves,
an ugly shaped face,
huge hair with disgusting frizzy curls,
a horrible sense of fashion,
I'm awfully skinny,
I have glasses,
crooked, gross teeth...

So don't tell me I'm pretty, and don't compliment me. That garbage doesn't work, and no, I'm not fishing for compliments.

I can't STAND myself. I want to barf at my horrid appearance.
If there's anything someone can tell me, please do... I've tried EVERYTHING. People tell me I'm gorgeous, and they envy my curls... I feel good about myself, I'm proud, but when I look in that monster of a mirror... I'm not good enough.

I can't stand being in school, the work is hard, and I feel like I'm being judged... I feel insecure. All the girls... are so much prettier... I'm ugly, and I can't change it... it kills me.

I feel greedy now, making such a big deal out of just looks, while there's so many people in this world suffering, injured, and I'm here... just... yeah... I'm such an idiot.

I just wish people would see past someone's skin and hair, and for once... just look at the heart?

I understand how you feel, I often feel fat but there is always someone who says you aren't fat. But it's their perspective against mine. I look fat in my eyes but to other's I don't. I don't think a lot of people understand perspective when it comes to self beauty.

That kinda helps... not everyone in the entire world could possibly think I'm ugly... now that you put it like that, I feel a bit better. Thanks for the advice.

[❣D o l l❣]

My girlfriend and I, Kenzie, got together last night. We were both thrilled, and this is my first re[center]

lationship. Today my crush (ex-crush? Idk.) Told me she liked me. Alice. I don't know what to do. I love Kenzie to pieces and it breaks my heart to see Alice upset. I told Alice sometime in the future maybe, and we agreed to remain friends for now, but it still hurts me :c PMs or responses would be helpful<3[/center]

[- ; bonk!]

*snip*

hey there.
I feel the same way as you do all the time, and it really is a rough fight. I totally get where you're coming from with being sick of being told "oh, but you're so pretty!" because really, it doesn't help.
I think everyone learns self-acceptance in a different way, and it's up to you to find what makes you like yourself. what works for me, personally, is to just do my best not to care. don't bring it up, don't treat it like a big deal, and it slowly seems less and less important as you realize that life still goes on, even if you're not the prettiest poppy in the field. of course, that won't work for everyone. while completely giving my negative thoughts the cold shoulder works for me, for a lot of other people doing things that makes them feel pretty i.e getting a facial or new haircut works better.
it's different for everyone, and it's up to you to figure out what makes you happy. trust me, it really is rough in the beginning, and it doesn't get much easier for a long while. but eventually, you can see the sun on the horizon. it's a long, rough road, but it's very much worth it. me personally, I've been fighting off intense insecurity since I was only seven years old, and I'm not even all the way there yet. far from it. but when I look back at where I was just last month, I can see I've already come a long way from them. I'll get to self acceptance eventually, and so will you. just try not to get down on yourself too much, okay?
you can do it, girl. I'm rooting for ya. (: