RabbitFluffy wrote:Oh gosh this feels like the last straw. I'm trying to stay friends with my ex but he keeps getting me angry. I still value his friendship but he put me through so much I don't know if it's even worth it at this point. My friends said I should ignore him but I still want to give him one more chance.
I need some advice, he said he still cares for me a lot and he's had a great influence on my life. would it be better just to cut him off or try and stay friends?
If you need to take some space to get over him and sort out your feelings before you work on your friendship with him, that's a-okay and definitely allowed. Needing space from him now doesn't mean there isn't a possibility of friendship between you guys in the future if that's what you both want.
nuvola, wrote:would somebody be able to help me understand the difference between
romantic love and infatuation? considering this, as well, is it possible to
feel love for a friend beyond that of platonic without dating them? Which
also then brings me to my next question: where does the line between
friendship and romantic love blur? and, how the feelings may get confu
sed? thank you to those who answer!
There is no solid answer to this. It can vary by person. It's something you have to try and suss out for yourself by how you feel.
If you haven't heard of queerplatonic/quasiplatonic relationships, you should look into them. It's basically when you feel love aside from platonic love for a friend but don't date them. It's like a committed friendship, kind of. So a lot of people do feel that you can feel something other than platonic or romantic love for someone, yes.
gemini feed wrote:i've this friend who i consider my best friend since year five (fourth grade) call him G. he's been such a big ladies man ever since we met which is no wonder, people (including myself) consider him attractive and hot. and he's nice and fun too so.
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What do you feel like you need to do? This is your life and you know these people best.
I can't offer much more than that because I'm not really sure what you think you need to do to deal with G? But maybe accepting M's offer would help in dealing with G?
♡Cookie+Fox♡ wrote:Ok well, how do I start? Ok well I like this boy who is not in my class. The only time I see him is P.E, Break (sort of like Recess but after lunch, but we just hang out outside), or Lunch, and maybe at random times in the day. At P.E I see his friends and him looking at me, at break I see him quite a few times but I'm not sure if he notices me. And at Lunch I see him a lot and I see him staring at me quite often. I feel the need to ask him why he's staring at me or just to simply talk to him. But sometimes I'm not sure whether he is just looking at me because I'm weird or he likes me. But when he looks at me I don't do weird things, or try not to. So, I dont know, how do I stand up and talk to him? Any advice?
There is no magic answer to deal with being nervous about talking with someone. Basically, you just do it. One day you decide that talking is more important than hiding, then you take a deep breathe and you go over and talk to them. Starting with sending/passing him a note might be an easier transition, though?
Lily wrote:I'm so confused right now, am I the only one that these things happen to?
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If you think talking to a counselor would help and you want to do it, well - that's what they're there for. That's a perfectly acceptable thing to do.
Except for certain circumstances, I usually try to encourage people to do things like breaking up in person as well. However, it's unfair that you can't break up with someone you want to break up with because they can't even give you the time of day. If they're not giving you a chance to do this in person, it would be perfectly acceptable to send them a text or call them or whatever. It doesn't sound like Kn particularly cares about this relationship, anyway, so just do it and free yourself. ;3
{~Jack_Spades~} wrote:Err... okay.
So I like a lot of fictional characters. {Of course! xD}
But, there's a real guy I like, too.
He just happens to be my best friend.
We're pretty much like siblings, and we've know each other for 5 or 6 years.
It's just really weird and akward to me, and I know he'll feel weird and akward about it if I told him.
I'm not really sure what to do, whenever anybody jokes about us being in a relationship he says;
I'm pretty much his sister and he wouldn't be in a relationship with me.
I'm pretty sure he'll friend-zone me, so I don't want to even try.
But... should I? It might actually be worth a shot.
First off, I just want to say that I have absolute distaste for the term "friendzone". It's a term for entitled guys that don't value the friendship of women and only pretend to be their friend to get in their pants. It's a term utterly devoid of respect for the great relationship that friendship actually is. There's a whole context behind this term that is just sexist and gross. =x
Like, yes, it's totally hard to have an unrequited crush (a term for what you're feeling but without the gross implication that you're only his friend so that you can sleep with him), and it would be totally fair to need to take a short break from the friendship to gather yourself if you tell him and he doesn't return your feelings and things get awkward. But there are words out there for you besides friendzone. ^^
This is a decision that only you can make, though. Would it make you feel better to open up about your feelings? If he isn't interested in you, do you even want to continue to be his friend? If you want to tell him, then tell him! But if you don't want to, then you don't have to tell him. It's totally up to you.
Choi Kisu wrote:Okay, so.... I have an issue, and I don't even know if I would consider it an issue, but here it goes anyway...
Ever since I started going to school, I have really liked this one guy, and I'm talking REALLLLYYY Like him. Only thing is, he's a few years (2 and maybe like a half) younger than me, and I feel like that's..... Weird.
So, as a result of that, I decided that to try and cover it up and also keep my mind off of him, I decided that I was going to try and give someone I like in my own classes, and I did.... But it's NOT Working. AT ALL. Recently, me and the boy a really like have been talking and hanging out more, and I can't keep it in anymore, and I'm falling hard...
He is really sweet, to the point he is killing my heart. Like, earlier today, I made a comment about how I wanted to be smaller and skinnier like someone else I knew, and he said, and I quote, "Don't take this weird, but I think your beautiful just as you are". We get along good, and I feel like he might possibly like me too, but I'm not sure..
I'm not really used to doing this, but is there any advice anybody chugged possibly give me? Thank you so much either way... I needed to get it off my chest a bit, because I'm having like, allot of butterflies just thinking about it xD
If you're a teen or even a very young adult, two and a half years really is too much of an age gap. There is a huge amount of difference in the wants, experiments, and desires of teens that are two years apart. Their logical reasonsing skills, their idea of romance, their sexual awakenings (if they have one), etc. are leagues apart. You wouldn't even have to mean to, but it'd be incredibly easy to take advantage of this kid if you guys had a relationship besides platonic. He could easily become dependent on you, and it would be very easy for you to sway him to do things he isn't ready for just because of the differences in your growth.
I know this isn't at all what you wanted to hear, but if it's becoming hard not to act on these feelings, then perhaps you need to take a break from this friendship. =x
SilverIcyCat wrote:Do you think there's something wrong with me?
All my friends and classmates have crushes except me, I can't tell a cute good looking guy from a regular guy. I study in an all girls school, and the only guy in my family is my dad so I don't usually talk to other male humans 030
Maybe you're a late bloomer. Maybe you're lgbt+, such as aromantic or asexual. Either way, no, I don't think there's anything wrong with you.
