♥Crushes, Boyfriends, and Girlfriends | V5♥

[WastedSpace]

okay, I seriously need some help getting over my ex-boyfriend.

honestly, over the past few weeks, all I've been doing is crying over him and playing it off like I'm okay.

I don't understand why it should be so hard because we broke up about two months ago, but during our relationship (which was 7 months long), he would break up with me often for odd reasons. sometimes, he'd like another girl and break up with me to try to go after them, only coming back to me when he realized that they didn't like me.

our last breakup was the definite end. only, that time I broke up with him. I lied by giving him the excuse that I just wanted a relationship where we saw each other more often (because he was giving me excuses about why we couldn't hang out all the time), but the real reason was that a friend of mine told me he liked someone else so I was scared he liked her more than me.

they started dating the day after we broke up, and it hurt me because he had moved on so quickly, but they only dated for a few days.

I talked with him a little until he blocked me on social media and my number on his phone.

now, he has a new girlfriend, and I'm jealous of them because I want that to be me with him instead of her.

what do I do? I'm so torn.

gosh, I'm such an over emotional wreck...

To me, it sounds like you're having such a hard time moving on because instead of just letting yourself feel your feelings and move on with time, you're beating yourself up for how you feel and so not really letting yourself feel your feelings or be able to move on.

It's quite common and human for us to not be able to separate heart and head. Just because he hurt you doesn't mean you didn't care for him. And it's okay that you did care for him. It's not wrong or incorrect for you to still care for him, even though he hurt you and even though you two are no longer together. It's okay.

I think you should give yourself a night or a weekend to just full-on wallow. Watch sad romcoms or read your favorite book. Take long baths. Eat lots of ice cream. Cry until there's nothing left to leak out.

Then swallow it. Get a good night's sleep. Face the next day. Face your feelings kind of with a meditative method. Accept feelings of sadness/loss/jealousy as they come, feel them, then breathe in - breathe out, and let them go. Don't beat yourself up if it takes time. Just keep breathing and keep going on with your day.

With time, you'll learn how to put those feelings in a little corner of your heart so they aren't so distracting or overwhelming. You will move on. You will feel better. <3

[SilentMelody]

okay, I seriously need some help getting over my ex-boyfriend.

honestly, over the past few weeks, all I've been doing is crying over him and playing it off like I'm okay.

I don't understand why it should be so hard because we broke up about two months ago, but during our relationship (which was 7 months long), he would break up with me often for odd reasons. sometimes, he'd like another girl and break up with me to try to go after them, only coming back to me when he realized that they didn't like me.

our last breakup was the definite end. only, that time I broke up with him. I lied by giving him the excuse that I just wanted a relationship where we saw each other more often (because he was giving me excuses about why we couldn't hang out all the time), but the real reason was that a friend of mine told me he liked someone else so I was scared he liked her more than me.

they started dating the day after we broke up, and it hurt me because he had moved on so quickly, but they only dated for a few days.

I talked with him a little until he blocked me on social media and my number on his phone.

now, he has a new girlfriend, and I'm jealous of them because I want that to be me with him instead of her.

what do I do? I'm so torn.

gosh, I'm such an over emotional wreck...

To me, it sounds like you're having such a hard time moving on because instead of just letting yourself feel your feelings and move on with time, you're beating yourself up for how you feel and so not really letting yourself feel your feelings or be able to move on.

It's quite common and human for us to not be able to separate heart and head. Just because he hurt you doesn't mean you didn't care for him. And it's okay that you did care for him. It's not wrong or incorrect for you to still care for him, even though he hurt you and even though you two are no longer together. It's okay.

I think you should give yourself a night or a weekend to just full-on wallow. Watch sad romcoms or read your favorite book. Take long baths. Eat lots of ice cream. Cry until there's nothing left to leak out.

Then swallow it. Get a good night's sleep. Face the next day. Face your feelings kind of with a meditative method. Accept feelings of sadness/loss/jealousy as they come, feel them, then breathe in - breathe out, and let them go. Don't beat yourself up if it takes time. Just keep breathing and keep going on with your day.

With time, you'll learn how to put those feelings in a little corner of your heart so they aren't so distracting or overwhelming. You will move on. You will feel better. <3

thank you so much for that.

honestly, I will try and take you advice, but I struggle with self-esteem and emotions due to some mental disorders I suffer from.

but I promise I'll try.

thank you again <3

[tuesdaysart]

okay, I seriously need some help getting over my ex-boyfriend.

honestly, over the past few weeks, all I've been doing is crying over him and playing it off like I'm okay.

I don't understand why it should be so hard because we broke up about two months ago, but during our relationship (which was 7 months long), he would break up with me often for odd reasons. sometimes, he'd like another girl and break up with me to try to go after them, only coming back to me when he realized that they didn't like me.

our last breakup was the definite end. only, that time I broke up with him. I lied by giving him the excuse that I just wanted a relationship where we saw each other more often (because he was giving me excuses about why we couldn't hang out all the time), but the real reason was that a friend of mine told me he liked someone else so I was scared he liked her more than me.

they started dating the day after we broke up, and it hurt me because he had moved on so quickly, but they only dated for a few days.

I talked with him a little until he blocked me on social media and my number on his phone.

now, he has a new girlfriend, and I'm jealous of them because I want that to be me with him instead of her.

what do I do? I'm so torn.

gosh, I'm such an over emotional wreck...

Honestly, the best way to get over someone is to take the love and devotion that you gave to your ex in the past and give it to yourself. Trust me, it's not that easy...especially after a breakup. I should know- hardly even two days ago, my ex who I obsessed over and loved with all my heart for almost a month broke it off with me and it took a bigger hit to my self-esteem. It wasn't until I changed out of the sun dress I'd been in for days (and sobbing for hours before then) that I felt better. It's honestly his loss. You're a wonderful person, I'm sure, and you deserve someone who loves you as much as you love them and won't leave you so much. You deserve to appreciated and clearly he didn't appreciate you enough.
You also have to kick him out of your life for a while. That's not easy either (I'm still getting used to not talking to my ex after chatting with him daily and spending 90% of my time on him), but it will help you heal and get over him. Ignore him and his new girlfriend- if he hasn't changed after all these years, it might not even last that long. Focus on yourself and your goals. Take your emotions and use them constructively. Use that energy to do something for yourself or for your loved ones. Listen to upbeat music, especially those songs with a positive message. Listening to sad breakup songs, at least for me, only makes things worse. Don't focus on his absence, focus on being independent and confident instead. It may not happen overnight, but this period of your life will be over and it'll hurt less if you give it time.
I'm not an expert but had I had more confidence in myself and more independence, my last relationship wouldn't have lasted so long (or even happened at all) and the break up wouldn't have hurt me so much.
I hope this helps!

[Alpen]

I'm pretty sure I'm just lonely and he has filled the void for so long that I can't let it go. I'm just beating the dead horse

[northern downpour ;;]

Okay this is a complicated one.
I am dating this boy who treats his... now ex (?) best friend like crap. Possibly out of jealousy, I'm not sure.
So his best friend is now my best friend because I know how to be nice to him and basically I took over the role no one else had, which is to be his emotional support.
But uh. The thing is. I have a habit of dating people I don't actually like, but that... wasn't really the case this time. I... DO like him, but...
The issue is that I now... like my best friend. Probably more than I like my boyfriend.
And I don't know what to do about it.
I can give more context if necessary, I typed this really quickly and probably left out a bunch
I just... need help.

Oh, maybe this is important:
Neither of them know or even suspect anything

[Kazin]

So I miss someone a lot, but the catch is I haven't talked to him in a year now, and I haven't seen him in person for a good 3 and a half years. We did Skype message quite a bit 2 years ago, then stopped, and he Facebook messaged me a couple of times, but now we just haven't talked in a while and I miss him.

I also have had a crush on him for quite some time, but before he moved away I never told him and now that we haven't seen each other in so long I think it would be weird to tell him... In fact, my brain keeps telling me it would be weird to message him at all.

I really want to message him, and next time I see him online I think I will, just to ask what's up and how's everything going. But what should I do if I still have feelings for him?

I'm a wreck and I need advice xD

Like he's super friendly and nice I just don't want to be creepy since he hasn't heard from me in a year if he doesn't want to be friends anymore. I don't know how I'd handle that rejection but at the same time I don't know how to handle not talking to him.

[SilentMelody]

okay, I seriously need some help getting over my ex-boyfriend.

honestly, over the past few weeks, all I've been doing is crying over him and playing it off like I'm okay.

I don't understand why it should be so hard because we broke up about two months ago, but during our relationship (which was 7 months long), he would break up with me often for odd reasons. sometimes, he'd like another girl and break up with me to try to go after them, only coming back to me when he realized that they didn't like me.

our last breakup was the definite end. only, that time I broke up with him. I lied by giving him the excuse that I just wanted a relationship where we saw each other more often (because he was giving me excuses about why we couldn't hang out all the time), but the real reason was that a friend of mine told me he liked someone else so I was scared he liked her more than me.

they started dating the day after we broke up, and it hurt me because he had moved on so quickly, but they only dated for a few days.

I talked with him a little until he blocked me on social media and my number on his phone.

now, he has a new girlfriend, and I'm jealous of them because I want that to be me with him instead of her.

what do I do? I'm so torn.

gosh, I'm such an over emotional wreck...

Honestly, the best way to get over someone is to take the love and devotion that you gave to your ex in the past and give it to yourself. Trust me, it's not that easy...especially after a breakup. I should know- hardly even two days ago, my ex who I obsessed over and loved with all my heart for almost a month broke it off with me and it took a bigger hit to my self-esteem. It wasn't until I changed out of the sun dress I'd been in for days (and sobbing for hours before then) that I felt better. It's honestly his loss. You're a wonderful person, I'm sure, and you deserve someone who loves you as much as you love them and won't leave you so much. You deserve to appreciated and clearly he didn't appreciate you enough.
You also have to kick him out of your life for a while. That's not easy either (I'm still getting used to not talking to my ex after chatting with him daily and spending 90% of my time on him), but it will help you heal and get over him. Ignore him and his new girlfriend- if he hasn't changed after all these years, it might not even last that long. Focus on yourself and your goals. Take your emotions and use them constructively. Use that energy to do something for yourself or for your loved ones. Listen to upbeat music, especially those songs with a positive message. Listening to sad breakup songs, at least for me, only makes things worse. Don't focus on his absence, focus on being independent and confident instead. It may not happen overnight, but this period of your life will be over and it'll hurt less if you give it time.
I'm not an expert but had I had more confidence in myself and more independence, my last relationship wouldn't have lasted so long (or even happened at all) and the break up wouldn't have hurt me so much.
I hope this helps!

thank you so much <3 I'm sure if I really put my mind to it, I can do all of those things that you've listed.

I never actually thought I would get so much feedback from this, and I'm surprised.

[Shiny Sylveon]

I think I'm falling in love with my best friend. FML! >.<

[mikami]

i have a crush on a close friend of mine..
i really wanna talk about her all the time, aa
i feel like i'm annoying everyone by always talking about her though??
i just really like her and i'm really happy about it!!
though there's a really really slim chance that she likes me back.....

[.ｃｈｅｒｒｙ ｂｌｏｓｓｏｍ.]

So, school just started and my crush just announced that he's switching schools NEXT YEAR. I'm really heartbroken, I have a big crush on him. I'm thinking about transferring schools too, so there is a slim chance we will be going to the same school, but it's not big enough. He doesn't know I like him and I've been thinking about confessing on the last day of school. But, there's a chance there that he won't make it, and then he'll know I have a crush on him forever, which would be humiliating. He just said that he doesn't like his crush anymore, but they still talk a lot and stuff. I want to maybe make a move. There are two other guys I have a small crush on, but my first crush is my biggest by far. He doesn't really know me, so I don't know what to do. I will be a wreck after he leaves, so I want to spend time with him befor he leaves. Any advice?