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Re: ♥Crushes, Boyfriends, and Girlfriends | V5♥

Postby eff » Sat Sep 03, 2016 8:53 pm

Girl & Dreamcatcher wrote:
I need advice..

So I had a crush on a guy last year who I asked to the dance, later found out he didn't like me like that. I wasn't super close to him though.

So now I have a crush on the same guy yet again. But he knows me me now, we talk a whole lot more and he's unfortunately one of my closest friends. Homecoming is in 4 weeks, he's probably asking someone in two. The subject came up because I jokingly said something on the topic, he asked if I was going with anyone as a conversation continuer I assume, we talked a bit off topic and he said he would wait until 2 weeks before to ask someone (so 2 weeks from now).

The thing is, I don't want to build up any hope in those two weeks. We talk a lot but I don't want to get confident and just get let down. We have a great friendship going and I am so happy with our friendship that I don't want to be disappointed and become distant for a while in recovery. That happened last time but it's different now. We're actually good friends and I know him better now. Everything is different this time, so I can't really compare it to last year. I just don't want to ruin anything. How do I avoid getting my hopes up? If it's unsolvable I think I can hang on for 2 weeks.


    You may be good friends with him, but that isn't an indication of him fancying you in that way. I don't think you can avoid getting your hopes up, if you really want it, it'd be spending a good time pondering in your mind. I suppose you could try to avoid the thought with other thoughts.
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Re: ♥Crushes, Boyfriends, and Girlfriends | V5♥

Postby Karia » Sat Sep 03, 2016 10:54 pm

Does this mean anything?

This Wednesday, some people were tasked to give a speech in front of the whole class. And there was one speaker that was so quiet that some of us (including my crush, A, and I) went to sit down right in front of him. He finished and we stayed there to listen to another one, this time a girl that I've actually suspected that he likes. Or either, they're friends.

So, A probably went to the toilet or something and came back when she was speaking. He stood near the table behind me, and I looked back as I sensed something there. I was kinda annoyed at that time because of a rather unpopular (not that I have anything against her) girl doing something. A moment after I looked back at A, he went forward and stood beside the table that was next to me. He was swinging his foot (like, his leg was still and the foot was rotating), making it bump into my left knee. He didn't seem to really care that he was doing that and did it a few time before I nudged his leg with my fist. XD

He then said,"What?"

I don't remember what I said, but it was something like,"Your foot's bumping into me."

He didn't say anything and actually kinda continued it, heh. It wasn't long before he sat down in front (not directly) of me. His hand actually touched my knee or foot accidentally again (I moved to the front a little), but I don't think he said anything.

So... that's it.
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Re: ♥Crushes, Boyfriends, and Girlfriends | V5♥

Postby rosietesmen » Sat Sep 03, 2016 11:36 pm

There are some questions.....
You're getting ready to leave. What do you do to prepare and what do you wear?
Getting bored, you decide to ask him/her to go somewhere with you. How do you ask?
Morning time! You're watching morning television and he/she calls. What is the first thing you talk about?
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Re: ♥Crushes, Boyfriends, and Girlfriends | V5♥

Postby Constellation. » Sun Sep 04, 2016 4:00 am

Insanity, wrote:
Girl & Dreamcatcher wrote:
I need advice..

So I had a crush on a guy last year who I asked to the dance, later found out he didn't like me like that. I wasn't super close to him though.

So now I have a crush on the same guy yet again. But he knows me me now, we talk a whole lot more and he's unfortunately one of my closest friends. Homecoming is in 4 weeks, he's probably asking someone in two. The subject came up because I jokingly said something on the topic, he asked if I was going with anyone as a conversation continuer I assume, we talked a bit off topic and he said he would wait until 2 weeks before to ask someone (so 2 weeks from now).

The thing is, I don't want to build up any hope in those two weeks. We talk a lot but I don't want to get confident and just get let down. We have a great friendship going and I am so happy with our friendship that I don't want to be disappointed and become distant for a while in recovery. That happened last time but it's different now. We're actually good friends and I know him better now. Everything is different this time, so I can't really compare it to last year. I just don't want to ruin anything. How do I avoid getting my hopes up? If it's unsolvable I think I can hang on for 2 weeks.


    You may be good friends with him, but that isn't an indication of him fancying you in that way. I don't think you can avoid getting your hopes up, if you really want it, it'd be spending a good time pondering in your mind. I suppose you could try to avoid the thought with other thoughts.

I think I solved it, thank you! (:
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Re: ♥Crushes, Boyfriends, and Girlfriends | V5♥

Postby Blueberry » Sun Sep 04, 2016 9:25 am

Ah!!!! I have a crush a guy and I'm so excited! So I just got out of a long term relationship that I wasn't really happy in. Anyways, there's this guy in one of my classes, he's so cute and he's tall!!! I'm 5'9 so finding guys my height or higher that aren't super popular or dating someone is pretty difficult. The most surprising thing is that he's a ginger. I tend to go for brunets so this is a bit different. I haven't really spoken to him yet but I plan to on Tuesday. He hangs out with someone I know so It'll be a good excuse to talk to him. I haven't felt this bubbly in so long. My only concern is that I'm not very pretty or curvy. We're not allowed to tell our ages so all I'll say is that at the age I'm at I should be like all the other girls in my classes and have curves but I was gifted with what people would call the 'stick figure'. Either way, I'm excited to see what will happen between me and him. I'd rather date him but I'd be completely okay with being his friend.
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Re: ♥Crushes, Boyfriends, and Girlfriends | V5♥

Postby ghostie✞ » Sun Sep 04, 2016 1:14 pm

Okay so my sister's/my friend needs some advice

She has a crush on her friend but she doesn't know how to tell her. Keep in mind that they are almost best friends, so she would appreciate some tips :)
    work in progress, i will work on it when i feel like it
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Re: ♥Crushes, Boyfriends, and Girlfriends | V5♥

Postby plot » Sun Sep 04, 2016 1:56 pm

I have a question about a guy:

I asked around, my dad, my brothers, even a few friends of mine who gave me mixed answers, so I'm searching here for another opinion.
I started talking with a guy around Thursday. I sent a semi-cheesy pick up line to him, and at first his reply was, "so I opened my messages and saw this" and I apologized and I believed he was wanting to get to know me, so he introduced himself, likewise with me and we have been doing a Q&A back and forth.

How ever, since we began talking, he's been slow. Like, a couple hours here or there.
I'm unsure if he's busy; last night he replied nearly every 10 minutes before I went to bed, and today he's left me for hours upon hours at a time.
(And I know he read it. It's on "Read")

So does it mean he's uninterested?
Why would he even reply if he wasn't? Wouldn't he have ignored my initial pick up? I'm just a bit confused.
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Re: ♥Crushes, Boyfriends, and Girlfriends | V5♥

Postby WastedSpace » Sun Sep 04, 2016 2:15 pm

Karia wrote:Does this mean anything?

This Wednesday, some people were tasked to give a speech in front of the whole class. And there was one speaker that was so quiet that some of us (including my crush, A, and I) went to sit down right in front of him. He finished and we stayed there to listen to another one, this time a girl that I've actually suspected that he likes. Or either, they're friends.

So, A probably went to the toilet or something and came back when she was speaking. He stood near the table behind me, and I looked back as I sensed something there. I was kinda annoyed at that time because of a rather unpopular (not that I have anything against her) girl doing something. A moment after I looked back at A, he went forward and stood beside the table that was next to me. He was swinging his foot (like, his leg was still and the foot was rotating), making it bump into my left knee. He didn't seem to really care that he was doing that and did it a few time before I nudged his leg with my fist. XD

He then said,"What?"

I don't remember what I said, but it was something like,"Your foot's bumping into me."

He didn't say anything and actually kinda continued it, heh. It wasn't long before he sat down in front (not directly) of me. His hand actually touched my knee or foot accidentally again (I moved to the front a little), but I don't think he said anything.

So... that's it.


Best way to know if it meant a vague something is to ask him.

Touching you a lot would seem to indicate he's interesting in something besides friendship, but none of us can read his mind or speak for him. Maybe he's just physically friendly or maybe he found it amusing.

plot wrote:I have a question about a guy:

I asked around, my dad, my brothers, even a few friends of mine who gave me mixed answers, so I'm searching here for another opinion.
I started talking with a guy around Thursday. I sent a semi-cheesy pick up line to him, and at first his reply was, "so I opened my messages and saw this" and I apologized and I believed he was wanting to get to know me, so he introduced himself, likewise with me and we have been doing a Q&A back and forth.

How ever, since we began talking, he's been slow. Like, a couple hours here or there.
I'm unsure if he's busy; last night he replied nearly every 10 minutes before I went to bed, and today he's left me for hours upon hours at a time.
(And I know he read it. It's on "Read")

So does it mean he's uninterested?
Why would he even reply if he wasn't? Wouldn't he have ignored my initial pick up? I'm just a bit confused.


Maybe you should be asking him about this? "Is this a bad time to talk? We can talk later if that's better for you." or something.

I personally just do not have much energy for 1x1 chatting/messaging/texting, so it always takes me a long time to reply. Perhaps he's like this or perhaps he prefers face to face or perhaps he thinks of you as a friend and isn't interested in flirting but also isn't interested in losing you as a friend. Or maybe he's multitasking, so sees the message but needs time to reply. Perhaps he's just bad at chatting and has a hard time thinking of answers. It is common for people to make more of an effort in responding quickly if they have a crush one you, but he's really the only one that knows for sure how he's feeling.
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Postby storm coming. » Sun Sep 04, 2016 2:24 pm

plot wrote:I have a question about a guy:

I asked around, my dad, my brothers, even a few friends of mine who gave me mixed answers, so I'm searching here for another opinion.
I started talking with a guy around Thursday. I sent a semi-cheesy pick up line to him, and at first his reply was, "so I opened my messages and saw this" and I apologized and I believed he was wanting to get to know me, so he introduced himself, likewise with me and we have been doing a Q&A back and forth.

How ever, since we began talking, he's been slow. Like, a couple hours here or there.
I'm unsure if he's busy; last night he replied nearly every 10 minutes before I went to bed, and today he's left me for hours upon hours at a time.
(And I know he read it. It's on "Read")

So does it mean he's uninterested?
Why would he even reply if he wasn't? Wouldn't he have ignored my initial pick up? I'm just a bit confused.


      maybe he's trying hard to think of what to say to impress you? or there's the whole busy concept. the possibilities are endless, really. i would be confused if i were you to so i don't blame you! i wish you the best of luck with him though.

      here is an article i found addressing your situation (i quoted the main ideas/answers below):
      1) If I wasn’t that into her.
      2) If I was really busy with work.
      3) If the girl was being needy.
      4) If I honestly did not have my phone near me.
      5) If I’m with another girl (note: If I’m in a relationship it’s monogamous, I never cheat, but if not dating around is fair game.)

      but keep in mind whatever you read on the internet isn't always true and that it could be a lot different in reality. whatever you do, i would advise refraining from asking why he's slow on replying because it might make you sound desperate or needy, and you definitely don't want that <3

      i apologize if any of this is wrong but i tried my best to help you out and i hope it made a difference :^)
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Re: ♥Crushes, Boyfriends, and Girlfriends | V5♥

Postby ~IronRose~ » Sun Sep 04, 2016 4:40 pm

I can't stop thinking about her...
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