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[WastedSpace]

While i couldnt see my bf he started hanging out with this other chick. He told me a friend of his asked him to walk with his girlfriend to make sure she is safe. I asked his friend and he said there is nothing going on with them, because people have been asking me if we had broke up because they seen him with her. My aunt said they were calling her his girlfriend at his moms. He told me he wouldnt hurt me and he wouldnt cheat. I met her today when i seen him, and now she has some other boyfriend. Should I be worried? I do trust him, but i have been cheated on before and i cant help but wonder.

I think that's something you're going to have to decide on your own. I do suggest opening up to him about how you feel. Be honest about that you trust him but that you've been cheated on in the past, so the situation is causing you some doubt. Talk to him and see how he feels and how you feel. Then make a decision. Can you trust him and let it go? Or is it something that's going to keep bothering you? Because if this is something that keeps bothering you, it is going to inevitably impact your relationship. So open up and talk to your boyfriend. =)

None of us were there, so we can't give any advice on if he was cheating or not. I will say that it could be hard to trust others' words here. (Your boyfriend's friend might lie for him but on the other hand what your aunt say may have been joking and teasing that meant nothing.) So I would trust how you feel. You've been cheated on before, so you probably know some of the warning signs if someone is cheating on you and/or lying about it. So trust that - trust you and what you know.

[J-Hope]

So I'm going to try & sum this up without writing a whole essay aaaa :>
So basically, this cute boy that didn't go to my school started flirting with me back in May & I fell for him pretty hard.
He showered me in compliments like how I was pretty & beautiful & all that cheesy stuff. But then things went
downhill & he basically just left me in the dark & got back together with his ex without even telling me. My life
took a sudden turn & I found myself crying about my weight & looks. It took me about 3 months to get over him
& realize how much he had wronged me.

A few weeks ago, he had broken up with his ex & he basically came running back. I tried to ignore him at first but
I finally opened up to him when he had apologized. So etc etc we went out on a date & everything just clicked, I mean
we're both loud & we make each other laugh easily. The only problem is; he likes to leave me on read & close up on me.
Idk how to explain it, but hes the type of guy who only likes a girl if they're "pretty or skinny." I know its very bad & that
he's a very bad guy for thinking that way, but I just can't seem to get over him. I'm also getting this feeling that he only
wants me for my physical appearance, since he doesn't seem to care about how I feel at all. I'm very afraid to introduce
him to my friends bc they're all prettier than me.
Now, I'm finding myself back at that low point in my life where I'm crying bc I hate everything about me. I can't even
stand to look at a mirror anymore, I'm just so disgusted by myself. This toxic thought that everything would be so much
easier if I were prettier has come back & I'm not strong enough to fight it anymore. Some people find me cute & pretty,
but I honestly don't see it anymore. My appearance is rather rough, & I wish I looked like those cutesy adorable girls.

To sum it up, he messages a lot of girls, & although I'm not the type to be overprotective or get jealous, (I'm actually v
chill since i have a lot of guy friends) he seems to be flirting with them also, & he likes to ignore me for days & come
back when he feels like it. I don't want to be annoying, so I don't spam or double text. Even if I do, he'll probably just leave
me on read. I just know on the inside that when he starts college, he's gonna find someone prettier &
better than me.

I'm made up of flaws, & I'm afraid he'll leave once he realizes one of them. I know that I really do need to drop him out
of my life, but I can't seem to get rid of my feelings for him. I'm also very afraid that he's the best I'll ever get, since the
other people that have confessed to me basically treated me the same. I just need advice to get over him, since I seem
to have trouble with that. Maybe I should confront him? Or should I just ignore him? I know that I can't let him hurt me
like this any longer. There's a lot of details I have left out,
but he's not a horrible person either. He showers me in compliments at times & just makes me feel very loved at times,
but right now, I just feel worthless. The even bigger problem is that I can't push him out of my life no matter how
hard I try. I always hand my happiness to him & he always drops it.

[WastedSpace]

So I'm going to try & sum this up without writing a whole essay aaaa :>
So basically, this cute boy that didn't go to my school started flirting with me back in May & I fell for him pretty hard.
He showered me in compliments like how I was pretty & beautiful & all that cheesy stuff. But then things went
downhill & he basically just left me in the dark & got back together with his ex without even telling me. My life
took a sudden turn & I found myself crying about my weight & looks. It took me about 3 months to get over him
& realize how much he had wronged me.

A few weeks ago, he had broken up with his ex & he basically came running back. I tried to ignore him at first but
I finally opened up to him when he had apologized. So etc etc we went out on a date & everything just clicked, I mean
we're both loud & we make each other laugh easily. The only problem is; he likes to leave me on read & close up on me.
Idk how to explain it, but hes the type of guy who only likes a girl if they're "pretty or skinny." I know its very bad & that
he's a very bad guy for thinking that way, but I just can't seem to get over him. I'm also getting this feeling that he only
wants me for my physical appearance, since he doesn't seem to care about how I feel at all. I'm very afraid to introduce
him to my friends bc they're all prettier than me.
Now, I'm finding myself back at that low point in my life where I'm crying bc I hate everything about me. I can't even
stand to look at a mirror anymore, I'm just so disgusted by myself. This toxic thought that everything would be so much
easier if I were prettier has come back & I'm not strong enough to fight it anymore. Some people find me cute & pretty,
but I honestly don't see it anymore. My appearance is rather rough, & I wish I looked like those cutesy adorable girls.

To sum it up, he messages a lot of girls, & although I'm not the type to be overprotective or get jealous, (I'm actually v
chill since i have a lot of guy friends) he seems to be flirting with them also, & he likes to ignore me for days & come
back when he feels like it. I don't want to be annoying, so I don't spam or double text. Even if I do, he'll probably just leave
me on read. I just know on the inside that when he starts college, he's gonna find someone prettier &
better than me.

I'm made up of flaws, & I'm afraid he'll leave once he realizes one of them. I know that I really do need to drop him out
of my life, but I can't seem to get rid of my feelings for him. I'm also very afraid that he's the best I'll ever get, since the
other people that have confessed to me basically treated me the same. I just need advice to get over him, since I seem
to have trouble with that. Maybe I should confront him? Or should I just ignore him? I know that I can't let him hurt me
like this any longer. There's a lot of details I have left out,
but he's not a horrible person either. He showers me in compliments at times & just makes me feel very loved at times,
but right now, I just feel worthless. The even bigger problem is that I can't push him out of my life no matter how
hard I try. I always hand my happiness to him & he always drops it.

This guy does NOT sound healthy for you at all. His presence is causing you very toxic thoughts. His presence is causing you very toxic feelings. I really hope that you can come to understand and accept that the way he's making you feel about yourself isn't okay and that showering you with compliments as long as you continue to look a certain way to cover that up doesn't make it right.

This is a guy you need to cut out from your life. He's not worth it. You are. You are worth it. You are beautiful and valid and, yes, flawed. And all of those things make you human. You are worth it. Your life is worth it. Your feelings are worth it. You need taken care of here. And this guy is not doing that for you. He's taking care of himself, and he's making sure you take care of him, too.

Until you accept that how he's treating you is unhealthy, and until you accept that you do not deserve to feel this way, you may continue to struggle to cut him out of your life. But I really hope you can because it sounds like you're even being isolated from your friends, and that sets off a huge, terrifying warning sign for me for your safety. Spend some time with your friends and remember why you're friends. Talk to a counselor or therapist and remember that you are important. And dump this guy as fast as you can.

Your worth does not hinge upon the person on your arm, nor what the person on your arm thinks of you. Your worth does not hinge upon some boy's happiness. You are worth it, and I hope you find the courage and strength to stand up for yourself. And if you need to do that by breaking up over text and then blocking his number and then surrounding yourself with friends, then that's okay. <3

[♛sʜᴀʏ♛]

So, I have a crush on this boy from the school near mine, literally right across from mine. My best friend and another friend of mine like him, and his sister is at the same school as me and we do football together. So, HELP! And, I treat him like a friend.

Oh, and I forgot to say, My friend kissed him at the last disco and asked me to ask him if he liked her and he said not really he just kissed her and then I started saying, 'Well, let's see if I can find you someone.' And named people and he said no to every single one, so I have a feeling he likes me and a boy 1 year younger than me said I should kiss him and before my Best friend liked him she would send him snap chats saying I liked him, but I didn't at this point so it got awkward. But, we have started to get closer after my friend (the one who kissed him) asked me to snap chat him to see what he thought of her and it started from there... So, could he like me? Is it a possibility?

[eff]

So, I have a crush on this boy from the school near mine, literally right across from mine. My best friend and another friend of mine like him, and his sister is at the same school as me and we do football together. So, HELP! And, I treat him like a friend.

Oh, and I forgot to say, My friend kissed him at the last disco and asked me to ask him if he liked her and he said not really he just kissed her and then I started saying, 'Well, let's see if I can find you someone.' And named people and he said no to every single one, so I have a feeling he likes me and a boy 1 year younger than me said I should kiss him and before my Best friend liked him she would send him snap chats saying I liked him, but I didn't at this point so it got awkward. But, we have started to get closer after my friend (the one who kissed him) asked me to snap chat him to see what he thought of her and it started from there... So, could he like me? Is it a possibility?

Anyone could like you. It ranges with confidence. Say he's a cocky boy, then he'd probably ask you out. But then, cocky on the outside may just be defending soemthing on the inside. He may be really shy and doesn't know how to talk to you. I think the best way for you to find out is start to hang out with him as friends, to help develop his and your confidence.

[Youngalita]

What I'm about to write is a bit different than you usually see on here but it still has to deal with the topic of boyfriends.

Alright, I'm a single lady and I plan to keep it that way for a little bit because I really just want to work on school and finding who I am. And over all I just don't think I want to be in a relationship right no. No big deal there I know what I want and I have a plan. Now of course life doesn't work out how we want.
So my best friend of 7 years recently got a boyfriend. I think her boyfriend is nice and all and a perfect match for her. But my problem is that she may spend less time with me and she may chose her boyfriend over me. I'm very afraid that I'm going to lose my best friend to him.
And this post is mostly for a vent.

[eff]

What I'm about to write is a bit different than you usually see on here but it still has to deal with the topic of boyfriends.

Alright, I'm a single lady and I plan to keep it that way for a little bit because I really just want to work on school and finding who I am. And over all I just don't think I want to be in a relationship right no. No big deal there I know what I want and I have a plan. Now of course life doesn't work out how we want.
So my best friend of 7 years recently got a boyfriend. I think her boyfriend is nice and all and a perfect match for her. But my problem is that she may spend less time with me and she may chose her boyfriend over me. I'm very afraid that I'm going to lose my best friend to him.
And this post is mostly for a vent.

Having a best friend in a relationship can help stabalize it. You're a helping hand to her man -
you could all well be a shoulder to cry on if all goes wrong with Romeo over there. I am single
too, and I plan on keeping it that way for a while. In fact, I'm ready to keep it that way for a
long time. The hardest part in being single is having to reject people who see 'SINGLE' as a tag
to prey on - this means I reject a lot of people. Being a tomboy, I'm there to be there friend,
when everything goes wrong with Juliet. You need to know how valuable you are. Being a friend
for 7 years? I don't think that is something she is going to throw you away for. She won't throw
you away for a boy she just begun dating. The likelyhood of 'school romances' won't be common
in adult hood, and she may or he may dump one another to move on in life. You should be there
for her, invite her out to the park, or whatever you girls do {not good at girls perspective. Again,
tomboy.}.

[J-Hope]

@WastedSpace
I am not balling my eyes out I promise :')
Your words are so beautiful, I cannot thank you enough. Your words
have helped me find my courage & I finally deleted him from everything.
You've really helped me out by telling me that my happiness does not depend
on it & telling me of my self worth ; v ;
Thank you so much, it really means a lot <3

[eff]

@WastedSpace
I am not balling my eyes out I promise :')
Your words are so beautiful, I cannot thank you enough. Your words
have helped me find my courage & I finally deleted him from everything.
You've really helped me out by telling me that my happiness does not depend
on it & telling me of my self worth ; v ;
Thank you so much, it really means a lot <3

that was probably the nicest thing i ever read
even if its not to me
thats the nicest thing i ever read
glad to know people like you exist c:

[thunderofthedrum]

So I'm going to try & sum this up without writing a whole essay aaaa :>
So basically, this cute boy that didn't go to my school started flirting with me back in May & I fell for him pretty hard.
He showered me in compliments like how I was pretty & beautiful & all that cheesy stuff. But then things went
downhill & he basically just left me in the dark & got back together with his ex without even telling me. My life
took a sudden turn & I found myself crying about my weight & looks. It took me about 3 months to get over him
& realize how much he had wronged me.

A few weeks ago, he had broken up with his ex & he basically came running back. I tried to ignore him at first but
I finally opened up to him when he had apologized. So etc etc we went out on a date & everything just clicked, I mean
we're both loud & we make each other laugh easily. The only problem is; he likes to leave me on read & close up on me.
Idk how to explain it, but hes the type of guy who only likes a girl if they're "pretty or skinny." I know its very bad & that
he's a very bad guy for thinking that way, but I just can't seem to get over him. I'm also getting this feeling that he only
wants me for my physical appearance, since he doesn't seem to care about how I feel at all. I'm very afraid to introduce
him to my friends bc they're all prettier than me.
Now, I'm finding myself back at that low point in my life where I'm crying bc I hate everything about me. I can't even
stand to look at a mirror anymore, I'm just so disgusted by myself. This toxic thought that everything would be so much
easier if I were prettier has come back & I'm not strong enough to fight it anymore. Some people find me cute & pretty,
but I honestly don't see it anymore. My appearance is rather rough, & I wish I looked like those cutesy adorable girls.

To sum it up, he messages a lot of girls, & although I'm not the type to be overprotective or get jealous, (I'm actually v
chill since i have a lot of guy friends) he seems to be flirting with them also, & he likes to ignore me for days & come
back when he feels like it. I don't want to be annoying, so I don't spam or double text. Even if I do, he'll probably just leave
me on read. I just know on the inside that when he starts college, he's gonna find someone prettier &
better than me.

I'm made up of flaws, & I'm afraid he'll leave once he realizes one of them. I know that I really do need to drop him out
of my life, but I can't seem to get rid of my feelings for him. I'm also very afraid that he's the best I'll ever get, since the
other people that have confessed to me basically treated me the same. I just need advice to get over him, since I seem
to have trouble with that. Maybe I should confront him? Or should I just ignore him? I know that I can't let him hurt me
like this any longer. There's a lot of details I have left out,
but he's not a horrible person either. He showers me in compliments at times & just makes me feel very loved at times,
but right now, I just feel worthless. The even bigger problem is that I can't push him out of my life no matter how
hard I try. I always hand my happiness to him & he always drops it.

To put it simply - flaws don't matter. What matters is finding someone who is COMPATIBLE with them. Everyone has their flaws, quirks, shortcomings, bad habits, etc. But in the end, you need to be someone's FIRST CHOICE. You are not his first choice. It doesn't matter if you are unhappy with your looks or feel you have many flaws. The point is that you are not his first choice. Period. That is insulting to only use you for your company and interest when it suits him. It's selfish and disrespectful.

You are not perfect. No one is. I have a lot of flaws. In some ways I'm super mellow and understanding and patient and low maintenance, but I also have some ways in which I'm high maintenance. I can be kind of bossy, I'm really thin rather than nicely shapely. I'm awkward and dorky and have a short attention span. But you know? My boyfriend has a lot of flaws too, and a lot of baggage from his past and things he is trying to work through. And it's okay because we suit each other.

Showering you with compliments is something anyone can do. It's manipulative to keep you around, whether he means it maliciously or not.

If you want to confront him, one thing you could point out is how you are always a last resort when his other girls don't work out and how disrespectful that is. Girls have behaved that way with my boyfriend and it has taken him years to work on moving past it and resist it. Because, although he only 'needs' you occasionally, it still does feel really good to be needed and you find yourself leaping to be there for him. But patterns are hard to break and it looks like it's up to YOU to make the change. YOU deserve better as a decent human being. You don't deserve to be just an OPTION he keeps in the back of the cupboard that only occasionally gets a turn at feeling good with him. Your partner should build you up. Period. Not just occasionally, but steadily, be supportive, accepting. That requires more substance than this occasional crap. It requires being someone's priority. You deserve that.