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[Dill]

Okay so I definitely post on here more than I should but ya know everybody's got to rant at some point.

I think I still have feelings for guy. And he has a girlfriend. Who is one of my friends.

I've tried to deny for ever, and I still do but I get so excited to see him or talk to him or even just text him, but I just spent the day with his girlfriend and I just realized how awful the situation is. I text him quite frequently, but he is one of the only people I feel comfortable sharing my personal side to, and I don't think she knows how much I talk to him. I've texted him a lot before they officially started dating, but I almost feel like I'm betraying her by not telling her, but it would also be weird telling her...

The guy is also a bit unusual. When I first met him I thought he was a total flirt, but the more I got to know him he's just a personable person. I don't really know how to describe it, and I'm not trying to make excuses either but he's the type of person that gives massive bear hugs to everyone he knows. So it shouldn't be weird that we are friends, right? Especially since I know he knows we are just friends.

I can't like him. I can't. I can't betray her, even if I never act on it. I feel horrible. But I can't deny that my heart skips a beat when he texts me and says he is excited to see me again. I need to get away from him, to cut myself off, but he is a good friend of mine and that would hurt me more than anything.

Help what do I do

[Karia]

So, I'm pretty confused.

Yesterday, I was on a learning journey with the whole level, and my crush, A, was trying to talk to my friend (let's call her S). And now, today, he jokes with me and stuff. Like, he even went over to me and said,"Bookworm." No idea why xD Perhaps referring to me?

We also played a few rounds of Hangman and had a great time. Earlier, too, he made a kinda inappropriate joke (we both have rotten minds, haha) in the library when S was sitting beside me.

But, there are some other things. I have this other friend, L. She sits in front of him and they keep talking and laughing together. Not that I'm really jelly or anything, but idk. There's also the fact that he also calls another girl's name, M, mostly when talking with his best friend, R (M and R sit together and they probably like each other).

I have no idea what to make of the situation...

[Firedancer77]

Hey guys. I'm looking for some advice & I kinda need to rant about a situation. I know I've posted quite a few times about it, but I would like to start from the beginning in explaining and it's rather long, so can someone shoot me a PM? I really would appreciate it.

ALSO, what do you do when a guy says that you never seem to notice the nice things they say about you, so that's why they tease you instead? He's my crush, and everyone I talk to thinks he likes me back. I do notice, however I don't have a ton of self-esteem and I'm an extremely anxious person, so I never know how to respond to the nice things. Help?

[WastedSpace]

So, I have this girlfriend who I've been dating for a while now, were almost at our year anniversary. But now, her best friend, who is also a guy, has asked her out and she's mad at me for falling asleep during a movie we were watching. I'm sort of scared to lose her. Does anyone have any suggestions? I don't really know what to do now, since she's mad at me and she has a chance to be with someone else. Should I even worry about it?

If she leaves you because she got mad at you once, it doesn't sound like a very stable relationship.

Has she said she wants to leave you? Did she hide the fact that this friend asked her out? Did she tell this friend yes or maybe or even that she'd think about it? Is she using you - she just wants to be in a relationship no matter with who? Tbh, I'm not sure why this is something you're worried about.

I'm worried because they are extremely close. My girlfriend is basically all I've got, since I lost my ex girlfriend a year ago. She dumped me for a guy, which broke my heart, so I'm scared to lose her, too. She said he asked her out, and when I asked her if she was going to, she looked at the ground and didn't say anything. When I tried to question her, she brought more things up, which made me mad. Finally, she convinced me to watch the movie and I fell asleep because I had barely slept the previous night. So that's the story behind that, and why I'm worried about it.

It sounds like you guys really need to have an honest talk about your relationship. What do you both want, how do you both feel, do these wants/needs still line up?

Okay so I definitely post on here more than I should but ya know everybody's got to rant at some point.

I think I still have feelings for guy. And he has a girlfriend. Who is one of my friends.

I've tried to deny for ever, and I still do but I get so excited to see him or talk to him or even just text him, but I just spent the day with his girlfriend and I just realized how awful the situation is. I text him quite frequently, but he is one of the only people I feel comfortable sharing my personal side to, and I don't think she knows how much I talk to him. I've texted him a lot before they officially started dating, but I almost feel like I'm betraying her by not telling her, but it would also be weird telling her...

The guy is also a bit unusual. When I first met him I thought he was a total flirt, but the more I got to know him he's just a personable person. I don't really know how to describe it, and I'm not trying to make excuses either but he's the type of person that gives massive bear hugs to everyone he knows. So it shouldn't be weird that we are friends, right? Especially since I know he knows we are just friends.

I can't like him. I can't. I can't betray her, even if I never act on it. I feel horrible. But I can't deny that my heart skips a beat when he texts me and says he is excited to see me again. I need to get away from him, to cut myself off, but he is a good friend of mine and that would hurt me more than anything.

Help what do I do

You're not a bad person OR bad friend for liking him. We can't control who we like, only we we act on it. It seems clear from this post that you wouldn't tell him your feelings while he's dating your friend nor would you act on them.

I don't think you have to tell your friend how you feel, and I don't think that's betraying her. The only betrayal would be if you cheated with her boyfriend or something like that.

As for getting some space from him, that may be a good idea. Don't think of it as cutting him out because you don't have to cut him out forever or even completely. You just need to take a little break and spend less time with him to sort out your feelings.

[the trickster]

She said she was sorry for getting mad at me. She said she loved me and she didn't know about him. When I asked her about it more, she said he was her best friend and that she might go with him, and that she liked him a little, which made me jealous. I told her to leave me alone, and she left upset. I messed up, and I don't know what to do. I could try texting her? I'm not sure.

[tsuka]

So there was a girl on my cross country team and it seems like she wants to be my friend... but I'm way too nervous to ask to be her friend. I really like her in a crush kind of way. She flirts with me a bit and loves complimenting me. What should I say to her?

[mikoliko]

I moved house recently. Then I found out that one of my old meaningless primary school crushes lives a street away from me. I hate him now, because he's a snobbish, immature boy and I see him whenever I go outside. Ughhh >:c

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I moved house recently. Then I found out that one of my old meaningless primary school crushes lives a street away from me. I hate him now, because he's a snobbish, immature boy and I see him whenever I go outside. Ughhh >:c

Aw I'm sorry to hear *hug*

[tsuka]

She said she was sorry for getting mad at me. She said she loved me and she didn't know about him. When I asked her about it more, she said he was her best friend and that she might go with him, and that she liked him a little, which made me jealous. I told her to leave me alone, and she left upset. I messed up, and I don't know what to do. I could try texting her? I'm not sure.

maybe actually talk to her face? texting people causes more problems and can seem rude to someone who's hurt. just take it slow and apologize to her face.

[forecast]

So I recently got a girlfriend (yay me!) and I LOOOVE her, but one thing, we don't talk much. Basically, since we're a lesbian couple in a generally homophobic environment and rumours have already went around, we can't hang out much in case we raise suspicion, and we talk over facebook sometimes, but it's always a little awkward and one-sided.

We also went to the movies and attempted to go see Suicide Squad, but we weren't allowed in, so we went to see the BFG but I lost my ticket and we had to get a reprint - it was REALLY awkward after that and we barely spoke.

TL;DR - Things are a bit awkward with my girlfriend after failing to see a movie and me losing my ticket, and we can't hang out much during school and I suck at conversations, so I need conversation advice.