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[WastedSpace]

I have a boyfriend, which i am pretty much fine with. We used to be going "click, click, click" But now i feel like are relationship is going down and is no longer going click, etc. it started going down when he moved. I still email and send letters to him sometimes. But i feel like i need a new one i haven't see him in 3 years, and thats not a lie. I haven't got a reply from him for at least 1 month i don't wanna break his heart? What to do what to do? But how will I find a new one? and the thing is its hard to let go cause he's my only boyfriend. Can i have more answers? Thank you.

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[plot]

I came here, possibly to vent because I've burned out a lot of options with this one.

So I'm going to explain a bit here, in early/elementary school, I was the kid who never really had 'friends'. I was the kid who was passed around from friends group to friends group and made everyone laugh, but I never had a best friend who I could trust until I met him.
He was about a foot shorter than me and he was far more girly than I was, he danced ( which amazed me ), and he was the kid who all the immature boys picked on because he was odd and didn't play football or soccer

Anyway, flash back is over, here we are a while in the future and we are still amazing friends, there's just a few issues. We've dated more times than I can count on one hand, and his insecurities break it off with me, he falls into a depressive state, then comes back and I suppose relapse with me and I fall for him head over heels and get my heart shattered over and over and over again.

Today, he came to be and told me he had fallen for a boy, and I knew somewhat that he was bi or bicurious but, I wasn't thinking about it that much until now when he mentioned it. He had told me he needs something I can't give him, the attention from another guy, and it shattered me to I suppose realize that I can't really ever be what he needs.

I don't know what to think anymore. We went through this before about a year ago, when he first confronted me about him having possible emotions for a guy and then we dated again afterward and he broke up because he didn't want to ruin our friendship and he used the same excuse he used every break up, that he just didn't like me like that-even though he thought he did, he didn't. As much as I say I just want to give up with him, I don't want to be hurt anymore, I don't want to be upset over my best friend romantically.. Every time I think I'm moving on he's back at my door
I don't know what do do. How can I make my heart finally say enough? I can't love him if he doesn't feel the same with me and no matter how many times I tried to fix him, to love him different, to show him I cared, every time we ended up with the same fate-Bestfriends and exes all over again.
I don't know how to let him go

[WastedSpace]

I came here, possibly to vent because I've burned out a lot of options with this one.

So I'm going to explain a bit here, in early/elementary school, I was the kid who never really had 'friends'. I was the kid who was passed around from friends group to friends group and made everyone laugh, but I never had a best friend who I could trust until I met him.
He was about a foot shorter than me and he was far more girly than I was, he danced ( which amazed me ), and he was the kid who all the immature boys picked on because he was odd and didn't play football or soccer

Anyway, flash back is over, here we are a while in the future and we are still amazing friends, there's just a few issues. We've dated more times than I can count on one hand, and his insecurities break it off with me, he falls into a depressive state, then comes back and I suppose relapse with me and I fall for him head over heels and get my heart shattered over and over and over again.

Today, he came to be and told me he had fallen for a boy, and I knew somewhat that he was bi or bicurious but, I wasn't thinking about it that much until now when he mentioned it. He had told me he needs something I can't give him, the attention from another guy, and it shattered me to I suppose realize that I can't really ever be what he needs.

I don't know what to think anymore. We went through this before about a year ago, when he first confronted me about him having possible emotions for a guy and then we dated again afterward and he broke up because he didn't want to ruin our friendship and he used the same excuse he used every break up, that he just didn't like me like that-even though he thought he did, he didn't. As much as I say I just want to give up with him, I don't want to be hurt anymore, I don't want to be upset over my best friend romantically.. Every time I think I'm moving on he's back at my door
I don't know what do do. How can I make my heart finally say enough? I can't love him if he doesn't feel the same with me and no matter how many times I tried to fix him, to love him different, to show him I cared, every time we ended up with the same fate-Bestfriends and exes all over again.
I don't know how to let him go

This isn't something you're going to be able to control with your heart. This is going to have to be something you decide and stay firm with your mind and just wait for your heart to heal, whatever decision you make.

It may be that you need some time and space from him in order to move on. But you know you best. That's something you're going to have to decide for yourself. Good luck. <3

[hollyglow]

Well...I, for one, am sick and tired of one of the more important people in my life being treated like garbage. I mean, I'm sorry, but frankly, any teacher who tells someone "Well, you're lazy, and I don't think you're that smart," is a complete moron. Specifically regarding my crush, who's one of the smartest people I know. So I guess I'm happy if he's going somewhere where the teachers will teach him better. Even if it also breaks my heart because my parents won't let me go there. My friend said that she thinks he'll be happy there, so I can't really ask for anything more.

Still, I'm completely sick of it. I'm sick of people reinforcing the idea that he's useless and lazy and stupid. "He cries a lot."
"He's weird."
"Don't listen to anything he says."

Well, thank you for reinforcing stereotypes and ruining everything, teachers and students alike! He's better than all of you. So...

I don't know. I really desperately needed to express my frustration at all of this once again.

[JustDucky]

So my boyfriend is in jail. It's partly my fault because he got a ticket for my dog not being on a leash, but it's also partly his because he didn't even try to go get it taken care of. I feel really bad. His mom told my aunt that there was some other reason he didn't go take care of it, but it was supposed to stay between them, and she never really told my aunt why after that, but my aunt said she would ask her about it again tomorrow. I just hope he's not mad at me. He did kind of volunteer to take the ticket and refuse to take care of it. He should be out tomorrow, but I can't say for sure right now. I just wanted to rant, cuz it's kind of depressing to be without him.

[Bunny!!]

Hi everyone, I'm new to this club. I am looking for a little advice. So I like this guy, buy all my friends don't really like him since he dated one of my not so close friends. He is really nice and smart, but I don't know what to do since my friends don't like him.

[Keletheryl]

So my boyfriend is in jail. It's partly my fault because he got a ticket for my dog not being on a leash, but it's also partly his because he didn't even try to go get it taken care of. I feel really bad. His mom told my aunt that there was some other reason he didn't go take care of it, but it was supposed to stay between them, and she never really told my aunt why after that, but my aunt said she would ask her about it again tomorrow. I just hope he's not mad at me. He did kind of volunteer to take the ticket and refuse to take care of it. He should be out tomorrow, but I can't say for sure right now. I just wanted to rant, cuz it's kind of depressing to be without him.

Where on earth do you live??
In my country it's illegal to put somebody in jail for delayed payments. I think the only time you can actually put somebody in jail for not paying a fine/ticket is if they outright refuse to.

[WastedSpace]

So my boyfriend is in jail. It's partly my fault because he got a ticket for my dog not being on a leash, but it's also partly his because he didn't even try to go get it taken care of. I feel really bad. His mom told my aunt that there was some other reason he didn't go take care of it, but it was supposed to stay between them, and she never really told my aunt why after that, but my aunt said she would ask her about it again tomorrow. I just hope he's not mad at me. He did kind of volunteer to take the ticket and refuse to take care of it. He should be out tomorrow, but I can't say for sure right now. I just wanted to rant, cuz it's kind of depressing to be without him.

He actually got put in a cell for that? They didn't just slap a fine on him? o_O

I'm sorry. There's no reason for you to feel bad, though. I'm sure he'll be out soon enough. ^^

Hi everyone, I'm new to this club. I am looking for a little advice. So I like this guy, buy all my friends don't really like him since he dated one of my not so close friends. He is really nice and smart, but I don't know what to do since my friends don't like him.

I guess you have to judge which is more important to you: your relationship with your friends or a potential relationship with this guy. If you admit to liking him, will try to accept him? Do they not like him because he treated your not-so-close friend badly or just because they broke up? Are you willing to risk making your friends mad by talking about him? All things you need to think about and make decisions on. ^^

[raezel]

don't know if posting w/o asking for advice is allowed but
yesterday my boyfriend and i celebrated our three years together and i'm honestly speechless. i can't believe i spent that long with who i consider to be the love of my life. through all the ups and downs we've made it work this long and i can't believe it.

best part is, i'm aiming to meet up with him this october. it's finally happening since i have a working income now and all the puzzle pieces are falling into place. everyday i fall more and more in love with him, even on the worst of days. the idea of within a few months being able to finally be held and touched by my best friend really, really gives me butterflies. <3

[plot]

I came here, possibly to vent because I've burned out a lot of options with this one.

So I'm going to explain a bit here, in early/elementary school, I was the kid who never really had 'friends'. I was the kid who was passed around from friends group to friends group and made everyone laugh, but I never had a best friend who I could trust until I met him.
He was about a foot shorter than me and he was far more girly than I was, he danced ( which amazed me ), and he was the kid who all the immature boys picked on because he was odd and didn't play football or soccer

Anyway, flash back is over, here we are a while in the future and we are still amazing friends, there's just a few issues. We've dated more times than I can count on one hand, and his insecurities break it off with me, he falls into a depressive state, then comes back and I suppose relapse with me and I fall for him head over heels and get my heart shattered over and over and over again.

Today, he came to be and told me he had fallen for a boy, and I knew somewhat that he was bi or bicurious but, I wasn't thinking about it that much until now when he mentioned it. He had told me he needs something I can't give him, the attention from another guy, and it shattered me to I suppose realize that I can't really ever be what he needs.

I don't know what to think anymore. We went through this before about a year ago, when he first confronted me about him having possible emotions for a guy and then we dated again afterward and he broke up because he didn't want to ruin our friendship and he used the same excuse he used every break up, that he just didn't like me like that-even though he thought he did, he didn't. As much as I say I just want to give up with him, I don't want to be hurt anymore, I don't want to be upset over my best friend romantically.. Every time I think I'm moving on he's back at my door
I don't know what do do. How can I make my heart finally say enough? I can't love him if he doesn't feel the same with me and no matter how many times I tried to fix him, to love him different, to show him I cared, every time we ended up with the same fate-Bestfriends and exes all over again.
I don't know how to let him go

This isn't something you're going to be able to control with your heart. This is going to have to be something you decide and stay firm with your mind and just wait for your heart to heal, whatever decision you make.

It may be that you need some time and space from him in order to move on. But you know you best. That's something you're going to have to decide for yourself. Good luck. <3

It's probably for the best that I do that.. I just think it's going to be rough. He's really a great guy, I just don't know how he can be so quick to turn off 'romantic' feelings for me and turn them back on etc. It's really quite hurtful.. But I think it's a step I need to start taking. There's a chance that I can't ever be what he needs and wants and I just want him to be happy and have the world. We both have been through a lot, and I know he deserves it.

Thank you for replying and giving advice to me <3