♥Crushes, Boyfriends, and Girlfriends | V5♥

[britneyrox]

is anyone else here in a long distance relationship?

there's a small chance i'll be able to go see my boyfriend at the end of the summer. everything will have to work out perfectly - and it's not guaranteed that they will - so i'm trying not to get my hopes up but i'm excited nonetheless! if someone else deals with this and can share any insight as to how they avoid getting excited and then feeling awful disappointment if the visit doesn't work out, please let me know.

[WastedSpace]

going to talk about a couple of different things on my mind, so feel free to skip over this [the only things I want/need answering are bolded; the rest is just rant/story]

so recently, one of my good guy friends admitted to liking me. the thing is, he said he's stopped because "our friendship matters too much". I don't really believe him, because I feel like he's been trying to talk to me more and its kindof bugging me. I feel betrayed, and now all the things we've done seem so awkward, gross, and uncomfortable. [tbh, I never really considered keeping this friendship next year, as we wont see eachother as much.] before he confessed, I was just going to let the friendship fade slowly. but now that he's brought that up, I feel like cutting the tie right away. I feel so utterly betrayed as of now, as what I thought was a good friend was just a stupid crush. ugh. is there anyway I could break the frendship slowly without hurting him too much? [also, if you think I sound heartless, I'm sorry, I'm just really frustrated rn]

secondly, I hate hate hatteeee how people assume you have to like someone at all times. I just feel like some people go by this 'rule', and go boy crazy and then aplear heartbroken. for me, this means that whenever i talk to my guy friends, people instantly think I'm in love or something. I don't care about rumors, its just the constant rumors about me and guy 1, or me and guy 2 are just getting annoying.

thirdly, some of the girls in my class are complaining about having 20+ more girls than guys. any tips for staying out of drama and such for the future?

moving on to the final thing, I've been having communication problems [??] recently with one of my close guy friends. idk if its just me, but he seems to be drifting away from me a bit. now, I may have a small crush on him, and we've talked about dating eachother; we just like the feel of our relationship atm. I'm perfectly fine with this, but I've texted him each day, and he hasn't responded for like 3 days in a row sometimes. idk, we just used to talk a whole bunch, like 2 hours a day, so I'm just kindof worried that somethings up?? he said he just hasn't felt like talking to anyone, but that's not normally like him to do. my question is, is there a way I could ask him what's wrong/tell him to talk to me mote without seeming clingy or rude?


thank you all for any answers you might have if replying to this, you can just post the bolded part and cut everything else. thanks again for reading (3

I think I may see a slight trend of you overthinking things here.

It's hard to tell from your post, but just because someone likes you doesn't mean your friendship is a lie or that it was all a sham. I don't want to dismiss your feelings, though, because I do know there are plenty of men who pretend to be someone's friend just to start a different type of relationship.
As for his feelings, you can't control how he feels or how he reacts. All you can do is be open but gentle about how you feel.

If you don't want to be involved in drama, then don't be? If they're just complaining, then don't complain with them. If asked about it, just say you don't care to weigh in on the subject. If they push, then change the subject.

If someone is your friend, you should be able to ask if they're feeling/doing okay.

[vash ♡]

My aroflux tendencies also seem to make relationships almost.. intolerable for me and tends to ruin them. Not only that, but my family is primarily conservative in their views and they are not as keen on the idea of me dating a girl. So, right now, I am dating a girl, and my sister figure does not know. But I don't want to disappoint her so I'm debating on breaking up with my gf (for more than just this). She's the closest thing I have ever had to an older sibling and her older sister herself is gay and I don't want to upset her and make her feel like there's no way out. And I'm sorry if that phrasing offends some people, but you have to understand this is the way my family thinks and therefore I feel obligated to please them. Because they are the most important people in my life. What do I do...?

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My aroflux tendencies also seem to make relationships almost.. intolerable for me and tends to ruin them. Not only that, but my family is primarily conservative in their views and they are not as keen on the idea of me dating a girl. So, right now, I am dating a girl, and my sister figure does not know. But I don't want to disappoint her so I'm debating on breaking up with my gf (for more than just this). She's the closest thing I have ever had to an older sibling and her older sister herself is gay and I don't want to upset her and make her feel like there's no way out. And I'm sorry if that phrasing offends some people, but you have to understand this is the way my family thinks and therefore I feel obligated to please them. Because they are the most important people in my life. What do I do...?

Aww I'm sorry to hear, I know how it happens with my family , I'm also dating a girl and I'm gay too but my mom don't support and stuff. I really hope things will come for the better.
Well what about thinking more of when to tell your family and help with the relationship with your gf.

[witchypuppy]

last night my girlfriend broke up with me. In five days would've been our five month anniversary. she was my first relationship and i'm absolutely heartbroken. could i have a hug? i love her so much and she broke up with me because she said she didnt love me as a girlfriend anymore.... just as a friend.

[.rin okumura.]

last night my girlfriend broke up with me. In five days would've been our five month anniversary. she was my first relationship and i'm absolutely heartbroken. could i have a hug? i love her so much and she broke up with me because she said she didnt love me as a girlfriend anymore.... just as a friend.

Aww sweetie :c It's alright *Huggles* I understand how you feel, and it sucks to be dumped. The best thing you can do is let your feelings out and then go do something fun like swimming, drawing, hanging out with friends, underwater basket weaving (idk where that came from..) or just whatever you like to do that you find fun! I know it seems tough and the first break-up is always the hardest but just keep your head up and you'll feel better.

Best of luck! ~ ♡ Musicals ♡

[Guest]

last night my girlfriend broke up with me. In five days would've been our five month anniversary. she was my first relationship and i'm absolutely heartbroken. could i have a hug? i love her so much and she broke up with me because she said she didnt love me as a girlfriend anymore.... just as a friend.

I know your pain deary. We can have hugs together. ♡ I'm sure you'll get through this and if you ever need to rant everyone here and myself will welcome you with open arms.

Just like Musicals said. The best way to get through it all is to do something else. Someone else mentioned breaking contact for a while. Also don't blame yourself sweetie. Try not to think about it. I know its very hard and it is quite alright to be sad or angry. Just don't let it get the best of you. Don't be alone for too long either seek your family and friends.

My boyfriend broke up three weeks ago and our one year anniversary was on August 1st...

In my boat he has blocked me so I'll wait until he contacts me and I'm ready to say Hi.

[witchypuppy]

@ ethan. and Musicals

thank you guys so much! Last night I made a closed species to give to some closed friends and had lots of fun designing them and getting nothing but positive reactions from everyone! I also found some good music, and that cheered me right up.

[galaxygenet]

I think I already know what the answer to this will be but I'll go ahead and ask anyway:
so when should you tell your family that you're dating someone?

[WastedSpace]

I think I already know what the answer to this will be but I'll go ahead and ask anyway:
so when should you tell your family that you're dating someone?

Depends on your family, your relationship with your family, your age, etc. There's no solid answer that we can give here. This is something that you (and your partner) need to judge for yourself. ^^