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[Dèvil]

Im so happy right now guys and here it goes from the start!:
I met this person called T on FB (my friends know him) and when he inboxes me first saying "hey" we started hitting it off well, we first talked about what we do in our lives and we have so much things in common! Apart from him dating 2 girls throughout his life and me dating 0 guys lol XD, he is such a sweet,attractive,cute and friendly guy that I'm just shocked, words cannot describe this to be honest! Soon after a week or so I asked for his phone number and his snapchat user and he told me them which was good and practically we've been talking to each other all night on snapchat about everything! He has opened up to me and I've opened up to him about anything and we've even played truth or dare which was fun because he has told me secrets and I've told him secrets and at one stage he asked me do I have a crush on anyone and because I was sick and tired of being a wimp or a chicken I told him the truth that I've started to have a crush on him and I think he was satisfied and we've even started sending each other kiss emojis as a joke! Whenever I told to him he makes me smile and be weird which he likes and I really want to get to know him in real life but I want advice from guys for his part, if it was your first date where would you want to hangout with a girl? (Of course I'll bring a friend to watch me) just in case something happened.

[Paranoia]

OK PEOPLE

So, i have never had a real boyfriend, never had a guy hit on me, never had my first kiss, and i am going into my third year of high school. And i dont know what to think of it. One one side, me being self-conscious, maybe there is something wrong with me? maybe im not the datable type? or im just weird? On another side, me being a hopless romantic, Im just super sad that I dont have a really nice relationship, or a guy that would do anything for me, or a cute story about my first kiss.Also, my friends really want me to go to junior prom, and I know its totaly fine to go with friends, but i would really like a date... Finally, me being practical, do high school relationships even matter? I mean, should i even be worried about guys at all at this point in my life?

Id really like as many opinions as possible :D

I'm going to be a senior in high school this year and I just got my first boyfriend when last school year ended ^^;
And it's hard to say if highschool relationships matter, a LOT of them do end but why not just have fun with it anyways?
My friends parents have been together for 20+ years and they started dating in highschool. There's too much that goes into if they matter of not. I can see the hype of "needing" a boyfriend but not having one isn't the end of the world by any means.
The whole you not having one yet doesn't mean you aren't datable, it just depends on what you do and who you meet.
My boyfriend didn't even go to my school at the time (I honestly met him online// and he graduated soo clearly he won't this year either haha)
But you'll find the person who thinks you're worth dating and you think the same for. Some people don't even have a bf/gf until they go into college or are 20 years old.
Don't worry about any of it, especially since prom likely isn't until later in the school year. You may meet new people and maybe meet a guy by then.

[thunderofthedrum]

OK PEOPLE

So, i have never had a real boyfriend, never had a guy hit on me, never had my first kiss, and i am going into my third year of high school. And i dont know what to think of it. One one side, me being self-conscious, maybe there is something wrong with me? maybe im not the datable type? or im just weird? On another side, me being a hopless romantic, Im just super sad that I dont have a really nice relationship, or a guy that would do anything for me, or a cute story about my first kiss.Also, my friends really want me to go to junior prom, and I know its totaly fine to go with friends, but i would really like a date... Finally, me being practical, do high school relationships even matter? I mean, should i even be worried about guys at all at this point in my life?

Id really like as many opinions as possible

Honestly.. yes and no.
It IS normal to go through high school without those experiences (I didn't experience any of that until college, myself). However, things that occur in high school can certainly be very meaningful! It is still hard because people go through a BIG transition from ending high school to getting into their twenties. They finish school, experience college, get more serious jobs, learn to be more independent, develop more preferences, learn to plan and handle responsibilities and such, etc. They meet knew people and make new friends, and of course are naturally somewhat influenced by those new friends. Sometimes that can be neat new things, but sometimes they could be bad influences or things that make your friend/lover more different and incompatible.

I've seen people marry their high school sweethearts and end up divorcing because they just develop into incompatible people with really different goals and such in life. And I've seen people get married fairly young (like 21, same age as the other couple) and say together for like 40+ years.

Do you NEED to get those experiences started in grade school? No.
It does NOT mean that you are unappealing, unattractive, boring, dumb, hopeless, 'forever alone', whatever. Anyway, high school is SUCH a small gene pool and you've seen those people go through puberty and weird stuff, so it's understandable if none of them interest you.

I didn't start dating until I was about 21 and sure I've only been out with 4 guys and only two of those turned into serious relationships. But you know what? I'm still with one of them, quite happy, and discussing some rather big plans of a future together. :3

High school does not determine your future.

[Beebs]

OK PEOPLE

So, i have never had a real boyfriend, never had a guy hit on me, never had my first kiss, and i am going into my third year of high school. And i dont know what to think of it. One one side, me being self-conscious, maybe there is something wrong with me? maybe im not the datable type? or im just weird? On another side, me being a hopless romantic, Im just super sad that I dont have a really nice relationship, or a guy that would do anything for me, or a cute story about my first kiss.Also, my friends really want me to go to junior prom, and I know its totaly fine to go with friends, but i would really like a date... Finally, me being practical, do high school relationships even matter? I mean, should i even be worried about guys at all at this point in my life?

Id really like as many opinions as possible

Might as well give an opinion? Im certainly not the best person to talk with about stuff but I'll give it a go. ;w;

Let me start off by saying my current relationship was a total accident. I never meant to fall for someone, I was so used to having guy friends that I figured it wouldn't happen, and nobody had ever liked me in that way that i never thought it would happen.
It was just...it just happened.

I will say though, I know what you mean by the self conscious part. I am still that person, im not confident whatsoever, I have such low self esteem, I can get dragged into bouts of depression rather easily, and I may not act like it IRL but im very sensitive when people bash on me about certain subjects. I suppose that comes with the territory of past experiences but long story short, I know what you mean.
You are not unappealing because of this, I promise you that.
Before I even got into a relationship, I was well aware of this fact. Relationships just never interested me, and it's not like I was pining for one. I figured that if anything, if I were to date, it would be once I was settled in life and actually doing things out in the world.

So having all of these firsts isn't necessarily something you desperately need. I promise you it'll all come in time. Don't force it because it just makes it...I guess, in my opinion, it doesn't make that experience special. Don't be sad about not having a nice relationship either, because you're all still growing up and maturing and (this is even one of my worries) people change and those relationships you thought might last forever, they can end up ending beause both you and your significant other changed over the course of time.
You're going to meet plenty of new people, and that right person for you is out there somewhere, im sure of it. c:

And about the junior prom thing, go with friend, have fun! Im probabky not going to my prom (i moved homes, boyfriend and I are both shy dorks when it comes to stuff like this, etc.) buti would highly encourage that you go! I mean, what could go wrong, right? You're just going to be there, having a good time, and prom isn't an experience you'd want to miss.

I think that's it. :'D Geez I talk for ten thousand years.

[Paranoia]

guys, i need some help. i broke up with my boyfriend a few weeks ago
and i recently caught up with my bestfriend who goes to the same school & same group my ex,
was, in. well the problem is, ever since i broke up with, uh, lets call him paul,
apparently he's 'changed' into what i would call a troy. basically troys are the type of boys
who would go out and party all night, do illegal things and talk to girls. i'm really worried
that its my fault now, because this happened before with my other ex, oscar.

i really don't know what i did wrong, and this is actually the thing i was worried about the
most. him turning into one of them. i can't but feel responsible for this and feel like i did
something wrong for him to change.

yes, i broke up with them, but they fully understood why i did what i did.

I meant to reply to this yesterday but didn't have time during break.
Why do you blame yourself for this? There are all too many people that do those things for recreational purposes. I'm against it 900% as well but why this has anything to do with you I don't see. Just because they happened to change after you broke up with them doesn't mean it's your fault. They're single now, even I act differently when I'm single and sometimes not for the best. Don't blame yourself for them changing, be glad they didn't act like that while you were in a relationship with them and call it that. There's no reason for you to be responsible for other people's actions.

[tavvicat]

So I have a HUGE crush on the boy, lets call him D. Anyway D likes this other girl, lets call her H. So D loves H but H hates D. Its really annoying. Hes awesome and like my best friend. I have never met H, but H's best friend told me D loves her. Its driving me insane.

[.nubs.]

...
My boyfriend is dying.
...
I'm trying to keep this calm exterior for my friends and it's ripping apart my insides.
My brain is fried, my heart is shattered. And I can't stop crying and throwing up.
My heart had honestly been shattered so many times before I met him I didn't think I had any left.
Then the shuffled his way into my life and picked up all the broken pieces. Before him not ONE person had been faithful, and now he's dying.

I need help you guys.
I don't think I can handle this...

[mads,]

So I have a HUGE crush on the boy, lets call him D. Anyway D likes this other girl, lets call her H. So D loves H but H hates D. Its really annoying. Hes awesome and like my best friend. I have never met H, but H's best friend told me D loves her. Its driving me insane.

I'm new to this thread, so my advice may not be the best. i think you should maybe get to know him better if you haven't already. once thats all cleared up, maybe hint towards him that the girl he likes hates him? or just flat out tell him that you like him. he might forget about the other girl and become more interested in you, and then you'd share the same feelings. hopes this helps, even the slightest bit c:

[vash ♡]

what is love?
i'm terrified. i know a month is too soon to confess after dating, but i'm terrified i won't grow to love my s/o. i care about them so so so much. it's really healthy in the sense of communication, and the fact we remain independent unlike my previous relationship. but i don't feel a fire, a magic, pangs in my chest from being overemotional, anything. i'm just content and euphoric when i'm with them, like i'm grounded and they bring me down from my mania. i don't want anyone else to have them, bc i'm jealous like that, and the thought of losing them terrifies me so i haven't told them any of this. and i sometimes crave someone else's touch bc they're not here with me (it's an ldr). i just want them here. i want to love them, i do. i want this to be right. but i overanalyze and overthink and ruin everything.
like i said, i know a month is too soon, but i'm just terrified it won't change.

[TrueLovesRose]

so this guy and i have this thing going on between us. hes super sweet and i really like him. anyway, hes homeschooled so hes a bit socially awkward. and when ever we are out in public he gets jealous and really mean towards any guy i talk to or laugh with. we arent bf gf so im not his officially.

once at a dance my best guy friend, call him john, asked me o dance before my crush, call him bob, could. of course i said yes because i love dancing with john! but bob kept giving him dirty stares and was really mean to him. i should hve said something but i didnt. ugh.. bobs just so stupid when he gets jealous. i just want to tel him off but i never do. advice?