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[Dèvil]

Time to let my feelings out, haven't posted in a long while :)
I've never ever had a full crush on someone before because they aren't my type but there is this guy called J, I've talked to him a few times, he is a nice guy, doesn't show off, cute and is a bit more taller then me XD.. The things is I don't know if he likes me or not, even though this isn't much but here it goes:
I've always see him staring at me every so often but I pretend that I don't see him staring at me
When I talk to him he doesn't be stupid about things and he is normal and actually stares at me directly in my eyes
2-10 at some stage when I hurt myself he always asks if I'm okay
I just don't know he seems so nice and I really want to talk to him more but I don't have the courage and I don't want to be rejected like I have a few times, I can be very insecure about the way I look, many people say I'm pretty but I don't believe it I have low self esteem and can't help it... Anyways I really want to find out if he likes me and I want to talk to him more but I'm worried that I'll be rejected like the others, any advice?
Thanks if you do!

[neli]

Boys. Oh my gosh.

I've got nothing to add. -crawls away-

[thunderofthedrum]

Hit me with a brick, please.

Last night, a Wal-mart employee was flirting with me, and I didn't even realize it.
The only reason I even know he was is because my mom and sister kept talking about it when we left.

This is what I talked about a while back when I said I don't understand flirting.

Like.....If flirting is THAT creepy, then.......agh
I mean.....He kept staring at me and smiling and....It felt like something out of a horror film. Like he was gonna jump over the counter with a knife at any moment.

I guess part of my issue is that all throughout school, I was never that kid that got flirted with, or asked out or anything.
Even if I did get asked out, it was usually a joke and the guys friends would be behind him laughing.
So...I don't take it seriously when a guy seems remotely interested in me.

If a guys tryin' to date, he's gotta be bluntly straight forward about it. Like...I don't do this tip-toe around and playin' thing, ya'know?


I guess what I want to ask is this:
Is there a way for me to somehow learn how to tell if I'm being flirted with?

I honestly think it just needs experience and time and practice.
I was never flirting with all through grade school either. I was asked out once, and I could hear his friends laughing in the background on the phone.
I'm not surprised that you find that stereotypical flirty stuff (like smiling a lot and being very attentive) to be really suspicious! I've been that way as well. Guy starts flirting with me at a bar? If I don't laugh in his face (which I try not to do as it's apparently rude, haha), then I just amuse myself with observing how desperate and drunk he must be, how many times he says "You're so smart" without ever even asking what the heck my degree even means (too embarrassing perhaps), etc. It just doesn't work for the guy.

You may just not be a person who can be 'picked up' like that. You may be someone who needs to talk normally and get to know someone first, and that's okay. I'm the same way. I can't flirt to save my life but I am happily in a serious relationship. You know the reason my boyfriend even had a chance with me? Because he DIDN'T try to flirt with me right off the bat. I automatically don't trust or believe when people get all flirty with me without knowing me, I don't like when guys act as if they already know me or assume what I like/want. It's not an approach that works with me and it's certainly not a turn-on.

[Casistrophic]

Time to let my feelings out, haven't posted in a long while
I've never ever had a full crush on someone before because they aren't my type but there is this guy called J, I've talked to him a few times, he is a nice guy, doesn't show off, cute and is a bit more taller then me XD.. The things is I don't know if he likes me or not, even though this isn't much but here it goes:
I've always see him staring at me every so often but I pretend that I don't see him staring at me
When I talk to him he doesn't be stupid about things and he is normal and actually stares at me directly in my eyes
2-10 at some stage when I hurt myself he always asks if I'm okay
I just don't know he seems so nice and I really want to talk to him more but I don't have the courage and I don't want to be rejected like I have a few times, I can be very insecure about the way I look, many people say I'm pretty but I don't believe it I have low self esteem and can't help it... Anyways I really want to find out if he likes me and I want to talk to him more but I'm worried that I'll be rejected like the others, any advice?
Thanks if you do!

There is no way that we can tell you if he likes you or not. Making eye contact with the person you're talking to and being concerned when they are hurt could be romantic interest, but it could just as early be just him being a decent human being. In romantic situations, you have to feel a little exposed sometimes. There's just no way to get around having to put yourself on the line a little and be vulnerable.

[nuclearmelons.]

Time to let my feelings out, haven't posted in a long while
I've never ever had a full crush on someone before because they aren't my type but there is this guy called J, I've talked to him a few times, he is a nice guy, doesn't show off, cute and is a bit more taller then me XD.. The things is I don't know if he likes me or not, even though this isn't much but here it goes:
I've always see him staring at me every so often but I pretend that I don't see him staring at me
When I talk to him he doesn't be stupid about things and he is normal and actually stares at me directly in my eyes
2-10 at some stage when I hurt myself he always asks if I'm okay
I just don't know he seems so nice and I really want to talk to him more but I don't have the courage and I don't want to be rejected like I have a few times, I can be very insecure about the way I look, many people say I'm pretty but I don't believe it I have low self esteem and can't help it... Anyways I really want to find out if he likes me and I want to talk to him more but I'm worried that I'll be rejected like the others, any advice?
Thanks if you do!

Oh mannn, your almost exactly like me! Except my crush started to be ummm a douchebag (is that appropriate for kids?). He cusses a lot now and is so inappropriate, but idek i kinda llike him still. But its wearing off and I'm going to another school next year so I probably wont rlly care in the future.

..... But I'm a big pessemist so I would be scared to death about saying I liked him, I would just wait for him to tell me (which he obviously won't). I don't like talking much either.

[Casistrophic]

Time to let my feelings out, haven't posted in a long while
I've never ever had a full crush on someone before because they aren't my type but there is this guy called J, I've talked to him a few times, he is a nice guy, doesn't show off, cute and is a bit more taller then me XD.. The things is I don't know if he likes me or not, even though this isn't much but here it goes:
I've always see him staring at me every so often but I pretend that I don't see him staring at me
When I talk to him he doesn't be stupid about things and he is normal and actually stares at me directly in my eyes
2-10 at some stage when I hurt myself he always asks if I'm okay
I just don't know he seems so nice and I really want to talk to him more but I don't have the courage and I don't want to be rejected like I have a few times, I can be very insecure about the way I look, many people say I'm pretty but I don't believe it I have low self esteem and can't help it... Anyways I really want to find out if he likes me and I want to talk to him more but I'm worried that I'll be rejected like the others, any advice?
Thanks if you do!

Oh mannn, your almost exactly like me! Except my crush started to be ummm a douchebag (is that appropriate for kids?). He cusses a lot now and is so inappropriate, but idek i kinda llike him still. But its wearing off and I'm going to another school next year so I probably wont rlly care in the future.

..... But I'm a big pessemist so I would be scared to death about saying I liked him, I would just wait for him to tell me (which he obviously won't). I don't like talking much either.

Haha, I met my boyfriend in class when I was on my "best behavior" so to speak, and he told me recently that the first time we hung out outside of class he was absolutely scandalized by my sailor mouth. I swear a LOT in normal conversation and it was very shocking to him. Now he's as bad as me

[Universal]

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[Dèvil]

Time to let my feelings out, haven't posted in a long while :)
I've never ever had a full crush on someone before because they aren't my type but there is this guy called J, I've talked to him a few times, he is a nice guy, doesn't show off, cute and is a bit more taller then me XD.. The things is I don't know if he likes me or not, even though this isn't much but here it goes:
I've always see him staring at me every so often but I pretend that I don't see him staring at me
When I talk to him he doesn't be stupid about things and he is normal and actually stares at me directly in my eyes
2-10 at some stage when I hurt myself he always asks if I'm okay
I just don't know he seems so nice and I really want to talk to him more but I don't have the courage and I don't want to be rejected like I have a few times, I can be very insecure about the way I look, many people say I'm pretty but I don't believe it I have low self esteem and can't help it... Anyways I really want to find out if he likes me and I want to talk to him more but I'm worried that I'll be rejected like the others, any advice?
Thanks if you do!

Oh mannn, your almost exactly like me! Except my crush started to be ummm a douchebag (is that appropriate for kids?). He cusses a lot now and is so inappropriate, but idek i kinda llike him still. But its wearing off and I'm going to another school next year so I probably wont rlly care in the future.

..... But I'm a big pessemist so I would be scared to death about saying I liked him, I would just wait for him to tell me (which he obviously won't). I don't like talking much either.

Haha, I met my boyfriend in class when I was on my "best behavior" so to speak, and he told me recently that the first time we hung out outside of class he was absolutely scandalized by my sailor mouth. I swear a LOT in normal conversation and it was very shocking to him. Now he's as bad as me :P

[center]OMG to be honest when im close to people i dont care who it is i swear ALOT as well, but heaps of people thinks its funny when i swear and this one time when i went to a theme park with my friends and it took 1 hour to get in but we had to go different areas for some reason and i was swearing my head off at some point and my friends startyed laughing so much that they brought the attention of the crowd to us/center]

[Guest]

Him. So like should I consider calling or facetime/skype with my boyfriend. It was never brought up but my parents and a few step relatives have like rolled their eyes. Just because we've only text.

Forgetting the fact he only lives like 5-10 mins away by car. And we've hung out. Plus its not like this boy came outta the blue. I've known him since the beginning of the school year and up to now. Almost two years. D= We just also started dating two weeks ago.

Give and take I'm a plain teenager while he'll be an adult this year. Hue.

Idk. Help?

[Marsh]

Okay, I admit it. I still have a crush on him and he's gay and he's my best friend. Before I start saying anything please know that I completely support him and wouldn't change anything about our friendship. I'm going to call him R from now on.

Anyway, R and I met at a drama thing last november. At first I was shy but then my friend made me 'came out of my shell' and attempt conversation. 3 months later I considered us very good if not best friends, I could trust him with anything and I believe he felt the same way. Around March my friend and R went out to the town centre where he came out to me and told me he was gay. It was then I realised the massive crush I'd had and still have on him. After that I tried to get over it, I really did. I thinks it's died down a bit and it doesn't get in the way of our friendship at all.

Recently R got a boyfriend and at first I was very slightly jealous because he told me over text but the next day when I saw him I was so happy for him I was crying and laughing and jumping up and down. I'm not jealous anymore, they are so cute together and I hope it lasts a long time. Silly me thought that me being happy for R meant I was over the crush, but its the little things he does that just reignite it.

What can I do? I need help getting over the crush I have on him, especially since I know it will never happen and especially since he got a boyfriend.