|TheComfortCorner| v.3

[DragonLoverHere]

Well, my therapist told me I have a mild to moderate phobia of authority and socializing... ;; I don't know how I feel about this...

Like, I keep telling myself it's not my fault... But every time I try talking to a stranger, or interacting with someone who's my superior in a situation... I start to stutter, and then because of my stutter my thoughts get all jumbled... Then I get flustered and I blush bright red and I start to tear up and snot then burst into tears for no reason... So normally if I disagree with someone I shut up so I don't embarrass myself. Shutting up has... Gotten me into some less than appropriate to mention situations. But I'm still so scared to make a fool of myself or hurt someone.

And when it comes to my commissioning, it's reflected there too. I have the worse time saying no to people even over a computer screen. I just have this side of me that wants to make everyone happy around me, whatever it takes. So I get overburdened, and even when I'm pressed I just want to make that one person feel happy so I agree to another commission or another edit... And I often give my art away or for less than it's worth which makes everyone around me think I am being taken advantage of and that I'm not going to go far at all with my art-career dreams...

My friend agrees with the diagnosis... And now that she described why she agrees, all of my past conflicts of being too scared to say what I think, I feel kind of spineless. I'm not upset at my friend or my therapist... I just think I'm upset with myself about all of this ;;

[Rune.]

I have no social life outside of the internet I cry every time I step outside of my house even then my internet social life isn't very great considering the amount of time I put into it...

[radiantly]

I'm dying. More like killing myself from the inside.
(not self harm. I haven't felt the need for that. yet
I also wouldn't talk about that on CS.)
I don't know what to do. My life is perfect in so many ways yet I feel trapped.
What am I doing wrong?

It's ok. You're doing noting wrong, can you talk to a councillor or something though? It might be able to help. Try to focus on the happy things, and maybe talk to a parent or close friend. That will all help, you can get through this, I know you can.

Thanks. (:

[Nefelibata]

{ I feel like I'm cracking.
Nobody seems to notice it.
But that's okay,
because that means
everyone will be fine
when I shatter.

My family is constantly fighting over pointless things. When I try to get them to stop, I become the one everyone's yelling at. If I start to break, everyone gets worse. I'm the glue of the family, the one everyone always leans on when they're sobbing, or in pain, while I have to stand there with a smile on my face. I don't get to cry anymore.
I'm literally invisible at school. I'll get counted as absent even though I replied 'here' when role was taken. My locker is apparently not used because nobody can see me trying to get to it. My hand isn't ever taken into consideration when we're taking votes. I'm never given a partner. My small group of friends can't see my pain. I'm the one who comforts everyone else when something hurts them. I protect them from their tormentors, which has led to me being choked more than once. They don't notice.
I... I don't know what to do anymore.

It'll be ok. It'll get better, just wait it out. Please.
Your always there for your friends, so your friends should be able to be there for you. Talk to one of them, maybe your most trusted friend, and tell them how you feel.

Ignore the fights? Try to stay out of the house whenever you can. This is too big for you, or anyone really to fix. Can you talk to a family member and tell them how you feel, and that it really upsets you when they fight? Or next time when they're fighting just snap and yell that they always fight over nothing, and it's killing you.

Speak up, people always skip over me too, but you have to speak up for yourself. Sometimes you can't get noticed, until you make someone notice you.

{ I've tried, trust me. My closest friend thinks she has it worse than me, and so she isn't really sympathetic, nor are any of my other friends. I've told my parents, who will try to stop. It ends up with another argument because one person had to leave for something important, and when they come back, they are yelled at for not staying. I try to smooth things over, to say it's just fine, but it ends up just pouring gasoline in the flame. It's hard to stay out of the house when nobody is really willing to hang out with you somewhere. Being noticed isn't really something that has to do with speaking up, because I can start screaming and flail my arms without anyone noticing me. I've had someone think I was a ghost before, actually. I do appreciate the reply, though, I usually don't even get that anymore.

I do have family problems and yes, i cannot handle them by myself. I often seek refuge and hide in the basement, or any other quiet place. Believe me, you cannot change things directly, you cannot tame your parents even if you try a lot. Try to avoid that as much as possible when they are arguing. It is good not to get in someone's bussiness, do not make peace because it requires power. It's like stopping the WW2. Just show them emotionally that you are upset, sooner or later they will realize how stupid they behaved. If they won't do that, then, i won't be able to call them parents. If things really get worse, call for a psychologist. They will be able to fully help you.

And about school. I believe it's the popularity that makes people dislike you. Ignore them, just say your name out loud when they're making the presences. Believe me, i'm also a ghost. I have only three persons i like to go out with, and what i did until now was meeting new friends by doing new activities. Like sports, photography clubs, art clubs etc.

I hope this helped.

[spencer]

I wish we wouldn't have vacation for two weeks now. I'm already missing my friends and most of all, my girlfriend. I don't want to annoy her by texting, I just want to be near her again and I know these two weeks are going to be hard.
I hope she'll treat me more like a girlfriend would when school starts again.

[wandzie.]

Ok.
So I've always been a REALLY shy person.
Like so shy I have to ask someone younger than me to go up to the till and hand over the money for whatever I'm buying. I get scared and it drives me nuts.
I have a show coming up where... I'm the voice of the parrot. I have to stand somewhere where no one can see me and shout my parts out so they can hear.
Problems;;
I'm not loud and the drama teacher has screamed at me numerous times to speak up.
I've just been told I have to do a silly voice.
I mean... I CANT.
No one understands! I can't pull out either cause she says we're not allowed....

I am panicking like heck right now. I'm not making another fool out of myself....
I know all your problems are much bigger, but can I maybe have some advice? Please? I'm so scared :c

[the crown,]

Ok.
So I've always been a REALLY shy person.
Like so shy I have to ask someone younger than me to go up to the till and hand over the money for whatever I'm buying. I get scared and it drives me nuts.
I have a show coming up where... I'm the voice of the parrot. I have to stand somewhere where no one can see me and shout my parts out so they can hear.
Problems;;
I'm not loud and the drama teacher has screamed at me numerous times to speak up.
I've just been told I have to do a silly voice.
I mean... I CANT.
No one understands! I can't pull out either cause she says we're not allowed....

I am panicking like heck right now. I'm not making another fool out of myself....
I know all your problems are much bigger, but can I maybe have some advice? Please? I'm so scared :c

You'll be fine, I promise. I'm shy as well, but I've done many plays. Maybe I didn't do so well in some rehearsals, but I find that every time I'm doing the actual play, I pull through. You can do it!

[van Wolf]

I cried myself to sleep last night. I just felt so utterly useless, stupid and ugly. Why do I keep trying? I like him alot, sometimes I feel he likes me but what. Every girl in my class is tall, beautiful and most have boyfriends. I'm small, stupidly shy, have lots of mental problems and unattractive.

My family keep telling me I'm beautiful and loads of boy probably like me. Rubbish! I know they are just trying to show they care, I mean, parents are supposed to say that, right? And the vast majority of boys in my class are always throwing me sarcastic remarks on my looks, you know, like "Ooh, you're so sexy" or "I love you, will you go out with me?" It's hopeless, I will never find love.

I'm sorry, I just feel so depressed at times. I don't really expect anyone to care. I just need a hug or maybe a new friend.

[zaz]

I cried myself to sleep last night. I just felt so utterly useless, stupid and ugly. Why do I keep trying? I like him alot, sometimes I feel he likes me but what. Every girl in my class is tall, beautiful and most have boyfriends. I'm small, stupidly shy, have lots of mental problems and unattractive.

My family keep telling me I'm beautiful and loads of boy probably like me. Rubbish! I know they are just trying to show they care, I mean, parents are supposed to say that, right? And the vast majority of boys in my class are always throwing me sarcastic remarks on my looks, you know, like "Ooh, you're so sexy" or "I love you, will you go out with me?" It's hopeless, I will never find love.

I'm sorry, I just feel so depressed at times. I don't really expect anyone to care. I just need a hug or maybe a new friend.

Hey, don't say it's hopeless and you will never find love. I know this whole thing is going to sound cheesy, but,
first of all though I don't know you, I can bet that you will find someone. [but that doesn't mean to say yes to everyone ene]
And one day in the future, you'll probably look back at this and have a cringe attack. It's alright, I mean like, everyone says that they'll never 'find love' and they normally do, unless that want to be isolated in their house with 25 pets. Just, don't let it get to you and focus on the more important things. You can PM me about it, if you'd like. nwn

[The 1 & Only Aqub]

I don't know where else to post but I'm freaking out. My cat was lying on my and dripped orangish urine onto my shirt. She's never had problems with this before and we had another cat that almost died from something that started out similarly, even though I haven't noticed her acting sick yet. The biggest problem is that my parents are away, and when they get back they'e gonna be really ticked off from the day they had. I don't know if I should call the vet now, or wait for my parents and make them even madder by telling them I think the cat's sick. o_o