Crushes, Boyfriends, and Girlfriends | V4

[Whoviana]

What's a relationship

[Beta]

What's a relationship

Something awesome really.

[LightningAsuna]

Thank you to anyone who previously gave me advice on the possible crush a guy might have had on me, I asked him and hes not aloowed to date so he doesnt think about girls like that.

[Dia.]

Thank you to anyone who previously gave me advice on the possible crush a guy might have had on me, I asked him and hes not aloowed to date so he doesnt think about girls like that.

Just because he's not allowed to date, doesn't mean he doesn't think about girls like that. xD
It just means he's not acting on it, most likely.
Or I guess the small chance that he really isn't.

[emuphon;]

This morning was funny for me X3 my boyfriend, let's call him R, his little sister came up to me and said

"R loves you."
I looked over at my friends blushing and they cracked up laughing nearly falling off their swings.
Then his sister said.
"He says you were girlfriend and boyfriend." Which caused more laughing.
And then his sister went on fit a while before staring on this:
"R and E, sitting in a tree
K-I-S-S-I-N-G etc."
XD it was sooo funny

[raezel]

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[gwanu]

is it normal to have a platonic crush even though you're in a relationship? i love my boyfriend, more than anything. if i didn't, i wouldn't have stayed in this relationship for over a year. but there's this girl in one of my classes who for some reason i just want to be around??

it's not like i'm attracted to her in romantic or other ways, but i just have this want to be near her?? she's a pretty gal, honestly, but it's not like i'd want to date her. i'm taken, and that's not going to change, especially not for some other person who i barely know.

gahhh. i just catch myself looking at her and lauging the most at her jokes and genuinely just enjoying her presence, more so than a friend would, but less than someone who wanted to date her would.

anyone have similar experiences with platonic crushes entirely?? it sounds extremely odd but i figure if it didn't happen more often, there wouldn't be a name for it.

it did happen to me.
it's completely normal for you to feel /something/ for someone else. As long as you don't let it escalate, then you should be fine. your case seems to be more of like a friendship centred one. See, that might come from you wanting to know her better, it happened to me, after learning about them and them learning about me it sort of just fades.

[raezel]

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it did happen to me.
it's completely normal for you to feel /something/ for someone else. As long as you don't let it escalate, then you should be fine. your case seems to be more of like a friendship centred one. See, that might come from you wanting to know her better, it happened to me, after learning about them and them learning about me it sort of just fades.

i figured it was something along those lines, but i guess i needed someone else to assure me, haha.
thank you! i don't intend for it to escalate at all, believe me.

[thunderofthedrum]

What's a relationship

Typically seen as romantic but a friendship or any sort of connection could be termed a 'relationship'. It basically suggests you like the person for the most part and maintain a certain level of commitment.

is it normal to have a platonic crush even though you're in a relationship? i love my boyfriend, more than anything. if i didn't, i wouldn't have stayed in this relationship for over a year. but there's this girl in one of my classes who for some reason i just want to be around??

it's not like i'm attracted to her in romantic or other ways, but i just have this want to be near her?? she's a pretty gal, honestly, but it's not like i'd want to date her. i'm taken, and that's not going to change, especially not for some other person who i barely know.

gahhh. i just catch myself looking at her and lauging the most at her jokes and genuinely just enjoying her presence, more so than a friend would, but less than someone who wanted to date her would.

anyone have similar experiences with platonic crushes entirely?? it sounds extremely odd but i figure if it didn't happen more often, there wouldn't be a name for it.

You said it's not romantic attraction and that you wouldn't want to date her. So honestly that sounds like you just wanted to be friends. Sometimes you just feel you click with someone in a totally platonic way. I have a super close best friend and there have been very few other people I've 'clicked' with like that.

So, I guess what my point is (to stop myself from this becoming long winded and not directly addressing your question), it that you sound like you are overthinking and making this into a bigger issue than it is. You like her, maybe admire her, enjoy her company. What's wrong with that? I had a professor my first year of university who said he had a mancrush on Denzel Washington. Would he want to date the dude? Absolutely not. He wasn't attracted to men. BUT he thought Denzel to be a really cool guy and admired him and felt he would enjoy his company. Same principle. Does that make sense?




On a side note, I wanted to make something clear to everyone.
I personally DO NOT REPLY to posts that refer to people as L, R, S, etc. They confuse and overwhelm me from the very start and my brain just goes "Nope, not even going to read that". Refer to them as their real names, as animals, or is their names are Liz, Ryan, and Sarah you could change them to Laurie, Ricky, and Sandra for all I care (see? still the same first letter).
I don't know if this applies to anyone else, but I wanted to give a heads up.
I avoid posts with single letters like the plague.
I also do not respond to posts I cannot understand or fully cannot relate to (as in, I simply don't know how to respond).

[raezel]

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You said it's not romantic attraction and that you wouldn't want to date her. So honestly that sounds like you just wanted to be friends. Sometimes you just feel you click with someone in a totally platonic way. I have a super close best friend and there have been very few other people I've 'clicked' with like that.

So, I guess what my point is (to stop myself from this becoming long winded and not directly addressing your question), it that you sound like you are overthinking and making this into a bigger issue than it is. You like her, maybe admire her, enjoy her company. What's wrong with that? I had a professor my first year of university who said he had a mancrush on Denzel Washington. Would he want to date the dude? Absolutely not. He wasn't attracted to men. BUT he thought Denzel to be a really cool guy and admired him and felt he would enjoy his company. Same principle. Does that make sense?

that makes sense, yeah. like i said before, i figured it's just a genuine interest in her and to be friends, but i needed someone else to assure me that was just it. thank you for the help!